I'm not into the gore and sex stuff as much as you might think I am. I don't mind it if it moves the story along or adds character to the characters. A story with sex and gore as the main point is not a story. It's someone's sick delusional thoughts and a waste of time. A story without any is not realistic so as I mentioned, it has to be balanced and it has to have a purpose.
Have you read or seen, "The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo?" there is rape in it and sex. I don't like to watch rape scenes but I don't mind reading about it in a fiction story. The rape scene in the movie was pretty crazy and disturbing. I may have closed my eyes through most of it. Now, in the book, it was pretty bad too but I can digest it much better that way.
Also, if you are just into the sex stuff, the movie Fifty Shades of Grey, might be up your alley. All sex. Everything else is just pathetic.
As for gore, I can't just watch gore like in those scary movies. I could read about it and watch gory movies only if it has a purpose, but otherwise, it's a waste. I personally like fantasy and sci-fi books and I like a range of them from YA (100% safe from too much gore and zero sex) and adult fantasy and sci-fi with enough gore and and other stuff to keep the story going. I'm not big into modern fiction, murder/mysteries, or action thrillers. I like stories that create characters that seem real. I want to escape through them. Stories about how to be a detective or a simple romance is a bit boring. I don't hate it, I just prefer not to read them. There are some really good ones out there and when I find one I'll definitely read them but from my experience (I've read over 200 books within the last 3 years) there aren't to many that I like.