I was born cheap. One look at me and a woman knows I'm a poor guy.
My car reminds them of their parents car when they first arrived in America.
I cut my own hair. It has no style. Every hair is just sticking up. They are all the same length.
All my clothes are from second hand store except for my underwear and shocks.
I drive a car that's 10x cheaper than my Hmong friends's car.
I bought a house that is way cheaper than my income would allow me to.
I just feel poor. I feel out of place in a way. As one woman confessed in our group that she was from a farming family and that she never felt belong in the profession she is in. She felt like she was an impostor. I felt similar. Twenty something years ago I was catching fish with my hands in the muddy stream somewhere in Thailand.
Sounds to me like I'm doing everything to get rejected by a woman. Will there be a woman who can see me beyond the image I'm projecting and see the boy who used to run in the mud with one hand holding a bag of fighting fish?
Do you embrace being poor/cheap? I refuse to be poor, rather than I'm broke. If you have a job, a home over your head with a stocked refrigerator then you're far better off than many Americans.
Your issue with rejection by women: I think it's all in how a man carries himself. When I'm going into a relationship I don't think about if that person is good or too good to be with me. I keep an open mind and go with the flow. If you keep thinking you're not good enough then perhaps you're not good enough to be with her.
Truth is we never know if we're good for one another. Time can only tell. We get to know that person and see if both personalities click. Most times it won't, and some times it will. You don't wake up to a wonderful relationship. You work on it every day.