Well, if a child was given away at age 12 for marriage, the child was stripped of her free will to live. Her life was bargained, traded and gave away as a child bride to a total stranger. Nobody knows of what really happened in their marriage, except the fact that she faced many abuses and lacked happiness. One can only speculate that as a victim of many trials and tribulations, she probably was not cherished or protected, but threatened and neglected by the guardians. If she was in that condition for many years, she probably lacked the courage to fight back until her old age. Keep in mind, not everyone has the courage to fight back if threatened. Courage develops over time.
If we analyze her life, her parents failed her. Her husband failed her. Tradition failed her. She probably suffered many unhealed wounds.
Her age, innocence, free will, and happiness were all taken without her consent.