From what you describe, I would suggest an ILC. SLR gives better quality, but what good is an SLR if you don't want to (or won't) carry it around. Plus, ILC cameras are more fun.
I wouldn't wait for the next cool camera. I suggest to just pull the trigger and buy the one you like that does everything you want. If you wait for the next cool camera, then you will always be waiting because there will always be a next cool camera.
Have you considered that you could have both and ILC and SLR? I don't know your budget, but maybe go for an older model on both. The lens you have for each would still be good for future upgrades, so you can always sell the body. Canon and Nikon SLR cameras have decent resale value.
I've been wishy washy on what I want. I need to stop researching and keep wanting something more and more and more. I think I've decided on the Sony a5100 especially for portability and its cool features. My sister has the a6000 but I like the flip screen on the 5100 for selfies plus the two aren't much different so they say. I heard the a7000 is coming out soon. Don't know if I should wait for it or not. I still plan to get the Canon 70D later on for the more serious family photos. I really want a touchscreen and the 70D also has wifi features and you know it's all about that nowadays.
I've also lost one of my cameras while out partying. I was so so so so sad because all my memories and photos in it were lost. Now I barely have any photos of myself and my kids from several years back. I didn't have it saved anywhere else.