I pay for every thing. For all kinds of people services. It's natural for me to see that paying for a bride is wrong because if she doesn't live up to the price, then we know what will happen. Just like if I paid for something and the service wasn't up to what I paid, you bet I will get my money's worth or get a refund.
Imagine two girls at a gathering about how much each was worth.
Girl one: So, how much did your husband pay for you?
Girl Two: He paid $5,000.
Girl one: That's it? Don't you have a bachelor's degree?
Girl Two: MD, but I'm not using it so his family didn't include it in the price.
Girl one: Oh...
Girl Two: How much did yours pay for you?
Girl one: $20K.
Girl Two: Wow. What does that include?
Girl one: I work in my field of study.
Girl Two: What do you do?
Girl one: I'm a first grade teacher. Why aren't you using your degree?
Girl Two: I was a surgeon but my father got ill and I was the only who could care for him so I had to quit.
Girl Three walks into the convo: Hi girls!
Girl one: Out of curiosity, did your husband pay a bride price for you?
Girl Three: Why would he do that?
Girl one: That's what Hmong families are supposed to do out of respect for the family and the culture.
Girl Three: Respect shouldn't cost a dime. Respect is earned, not paid for.
All silliness aside. No matter which way you look at it, a bride price is wrong. Truly, if you can't see that it is a form of slavery, then you are blind. I get that a lot families choose to pretend that it's not slavery. Those families didn't learn about what slavery is and what it does to people. Why do you think we ended slavery in the U.S? I know there are still slavery countries out there. That's fine. They allow it, but not here. This is not the country to do that and if you do it, you are doing it under cover. Sure, there are women who want to be a slave to her husband. That's fine, but only if she chooses. Families are still teaching their daughters to live up to the man and that is so wrong. Let your daughters think for themselves. Let them find love on there own without this bride price looming over them. Let your sons find love on their own without the stress of having to save up for the perfect girl his parents will love. There are other countries out there who are bounded by strict cultures...and that's okay because that's them. They are not free to think or feel the spectrum of love out there. We are in this country. We should utilize it. It's a form of advancement. Don't bound yourself to primitive rules that will only limit you in your greatness.