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Offline autumnbreeze

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How to get out of a relationship
« on: July 06, 2017, 11:12:53 AM »
How do you get out of a relationship that you feel you are stuck in? Having been broken hearted before, you don't want to be the one to break anyone's heart. However, your partner isn't exactly who you want in life, and you only discover this after dating for a few years. Your religious beliefs are different and you guys do not see eyes to eyes on many different things. Plus, the relationship is so boring, nothing exciting at all. You feel that if you marry this person, your life with this person will lack many things and will definitely crave many things as well. This person's family already accepted you and are just waiting for you guys to be married. Your family already accepted this person as well. How do you get out of such a relationship when you can tell already that you won't be satisfied later on, but this person isn't willing to let go of you? How do you end this without being the bad guy?


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Re: How to get out of a relationship
« Reply #1 on: July 06, 2017, 11:30:53 AM »
Just like a job.  You don't leave cold turkey.  You leave after you have a replacement that should be better.  Maybe this is why people cheat or maybe cheating is your answer that nothing out there can replace what you have now.  Although boring but you will never get a black eye. 

This is why i always preach for newly couple to qualify n leave and leave as soon as u can.  The longer u wait, the harder it would be plus it is not your time that you have just wasted. 

Psycho hmong would put a bullet in the both of u n calling it a day




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Re: How to get out of a relationship
« Reply #2 on: July 06, 2017, 11:43:14 AM »
I hope this is not your story.  You had a kid with dude. 

If someone wants out from me, ill help them to get out if that is what they want.  Ill bless them the best and at the same time, ill be someone else, the man that you always dream about but can not have now.  Im the man who will end up making someone else happy. 

A break up is needed to change people.  Any traumatic event will change people. 



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Re: How to get out of a relationship
« Reply #3 on: July 06, 2017, 01:56:23 PM »
Easy, just be straight forward, honest, and keep it short and simple.

You should not feel like you're "stuck" in a relationship here in America.



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Re: How to get out of a relationship
« Reply #4 on: July 06, 2017, 02:12:00 PM »
getting out of a relationship is easier said than done.  people say to be polite/respectful and tell your partner you want out but it doesn't always work.  however, we were taught through out high school...just dump them and get with someone new the next day...often times, the best way is to purposely get caught cheating, it may cause heartache but it will be easier to let go.  if you've been living together, just pack yo'sh!t and leave, spare him the trouble.  the end.



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Re: How to get out of a relationship
« Reply #5 on: July 06, 2017, 03:22:09 PM »
Either mutually or eventually. Either way, when a relationship has run it's course, no need to continue with the pretenses. Good luck.



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Re: How to get out of a relationship
« Reply #6 on: July 07, 2017, 01:24:22 PM »
Your gut feeling is right that it is not going to work out but common sense is also guiding you that must proceed with the relationship departure cautiously. After all..., you are not a bad person so why create an image that you are one bad delusional Kumbayas who only cares about your selfish self regardless of what the opinions of others are about you right? Of course you have that option as your last resort but look at those who use that as their only option in life.   Qee tsam ces lawv xav dai tuag lawm thiab xwb vim neeg twm xeeb yeej tsis muaj neeg pom qab khes :2funny: :2funny: :2funny:

One thing though..., if you are only interested in a fun and exciting marriage, you should not even be thinking about marriage at all.  I'm 100% positive that 100% married people would agree with what I'm about to say.  Marriage has its fun moments but for the most part, marriage is "boring azz sh1ts!"  There are going to days of your marriage life that you two only let your private parts dance together and once done, you two act like the other isn't there.  If everyone (Whites, Blacks, Browns,, Yellows) would only get a clude about life before one jumps into marriage, maybe and ONLY maybe we would have a lower divorce rate these days.  ;) ;)



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Re: How to get out of a relationship
« Reply #7 on: July 07, 2017, 07:45:35 PM »
Why did you keep going for a few years?

How do you get out of a relationship that you feel you are stuck in? Having been broken hearted before, you don't want to be the one to break anyone's heart. However, your partner isn't exactly who you want in life, and you only discover this after dating for a few years. Your religious beliefs are different and you guys do not see eyes to eyes on many different things. Plus, the relationship is so boring, nothing exciting at all. You feel that if you marry this person, your life with this person will lack many things and will definitely crave many things as well. This person's family already accepted you and are just waiting for you guys to be married. Your family already accepted this person as well. How do you get out of such a relationship when you can tell already that you won't be satisfied later on, but this person isn't willing to let go of you? How do you end this without being the bad guy?



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Re: How to get out of a relationship
« Reply #8 on: July 08, 2017, 12:40:17 PM »
Hard enough to get into one n now they asking the how to get out. 

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Re: How to get out of a relationship
« Reply #9 on: July 13, 2017, 12:55:01 PM »
You do yourself and him a big favor by leaving the relationship.  I know it's not going to be easy and people will be hurt but it's better now than later.  You can lie to yourself by staying but sooner or later the truth will come out and it's going to be uglier/more painful then.  Also, you and him deserve the best kind of love, meeting wonderful people who truly loves you and if you aren't that way for each other, it's ok to say good bye to love.



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Re: How to get out of a relationship
« Reply #10 on: July 15, 2017, 01:56:28 PM »
How do you get out of a relationship that you feel you are stuck in? Having been broken hearted before, you don't want to be the one to break anyone's heart. However, your partner isn't exactly who you want in life, and you only discover this after dating for a few years. Your religious beliefs are different and you guys do not see eyes to eyes on many different things. Plus, the relationship is so boring, nothing exciting at all. You feel that if you marry this person, your life with this person will lack many things and will definitely crave many things as well. This person's family already accepted you and are just waiting for you guys to be married. Your family already accepted this person as well. How do you get out of such a relationship when you can tell already that you won't be satisfied later on, but this person isn't willing to let go of you? How do you end this without being the bad guy?
if you're still a teenager then it'll be hard, but grown ups just usually talk it over and call it quits if a relationship isn't working.  O0



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Re: How to get out of a relationship
« Reply #11 on: July 19, 2017, 01:36:04 PM »
How do you get out of a relationship that you feel you are stuck in? Having been broken hearted before, you don't want to be the one to break anyone's heart. However, your partner isn't exactly who you want in life, and you only discover this after dating for a few years. Your religious beliefs are different and you guys do not see eyes to eyes on many different things. Plus, the relationship is so boring, nothing exciting at all. You feel that if you marry this person, your life with this person will lack many things and will definitely crave many things as well. This person's family already accepted you and are just waiting for you guys to be married. Your family already accepted this person as well. How do you get out of such a relationship when you can tell already that you won't be satisfied later on, but this person isn't willing to let go of you? How do you end this without being the bad guy?
Cheat on him.  That way he can't forgive you.  He dumps you so you don't have to feel bad anymore.  O0



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Re: How to get out of a relationship
« Reply #12 on: August 08, 2017, 09:07:04 AM »
Just tell them you can not love them anymore.   He's not the one for you.  It will hurt a lot if he's the one that loves you more than you love him. 



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Re: How to get out of a relationship
« Reply #13 on: August 08, 2017, 09:19:16 AM »
Just one day n leave.  Play the disappearing act n send a postcard that read....please do not look for me in a canal. 

OK that one was corny.



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Re: How to get out of a relationship
« Reply #14 on: August 29, 2017, 09:11:02 AM »
How do you get out of a relationship that you feel you are stuck in? Having been broken hearted before, you don't want to be the one to break anyone's heart. However, your partner isn't exactly who you want in life, and you only discover this after dating for a few years. Your religious beliefs are different and you guys do not see eyes to eyes on many different things. Plus, the relationship is so boring, nothing exciting at all. You feel that if you marry this person, your life with this person will lack many things and will definitely crave many things as well. This person's family already accepted you and are just waiting for you guys to be married. Your family already accepted this person as well. How do you get out of such a relationship when you can tell already that you won't be satisfied later on, but this person isn't willing to let go of you? How do you end this without being the bad guy?

Like many others had said...you shouldn't feel being stuck in a relationship. If you aren't feeling wanting to be in the relationship just leave and be affirm. Tell him the truth that you are no longer interested  be in the relationship and give him your reasons.  Also, don't make yourself excuses about your past broken heart. What happen has nothing to do with your current situation. Sometimes you have to be strong and feel no empathy about that person.  again, plains and sample. Leave with no regret...good luck.



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