i'll have to agree with you on this point
understandably we don't want to give up on what we've sowed, built up and/or established but we should also understand not to make things harder than it is. When it comes to materialistic things, yes, maybe we'll fight for it cause it may hold value...howeve
r, when dealing with people, it should be easy because they've already helped made the decision (to leave) for you.
one should always look at divorce as a second chance at life...do what you've always wanted to do like finding the perfect gf/wife (*
cough*...laos).