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finding someone in your 30s
« on: January 29, 2018, 09:01:22 PM »
So, I've been single for a while now. I'm in my mid 30s and am pretty successful where I am in life at the moment. One thing I noticed is that is really hard to find a decent Hmong girl in their mid 20s to early 30s's who is successful, attractive, and is not taken. I don't mind if they are divorced, but I just can't handle if they have kids as I'm not ready to be a dad yet.  I have met plenty of girls who are younger and those who are older, but not many in between. I think that as an older guy, we can always married a younger Hmong girl. What about Hmong women? What age do you think it's too late to find a nice decent Hmong man? Would you ever consider marrying someone way younger than you are? Or at that point, would you just consider marrying someone who is not Hmong?



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Re: finding someone in your 30s
« Reply #1 on: January 30, 2018, 07:41:43 AM »
30's is a man's prime time!  you have the widest range of women for selection (down 10 years or up 5 years).  hardest part is finding where the connections are.  often the best route is among referrals from PHriends and PHamily.   ;) :D ;D


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Re: finding someone in your 30s
« Reply #2 on: January 30, 2018, 09:33:53 AM »
What's your last name?  I do have singles w/in your age range.  I don't mind playing match maker.



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« Reply #3 on: January 30, 2018, 09:45:58 AM »
What's your last name?  I do have singles w/in your age range.  I don't mind playing match maker.

Give me a leftover or left behind person. 

I'm coming to mn this summer.  No March date for me.  MN still too cold n eye candy are still bundle up. 

No guranteed I will marry them or get them pregnant but it would be an honor just to cross paths with people. 



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« Reply #4 on: January 30, 2018, 10:40:37 AM »
Give me a leftover or left behind person. 

I'm coming to mn this summer.  No March date for me.  MN still too cold n eye candy are still bundle up. 

No guranteed I will marry them or get them pregnant but it would be an honor just to cross paths with people.
i got a bunch of leftovers for you, when you come up. just don't make me look bad, by flaking out!  i'll tell them you hmong vietnamese, Fresh of the Boat!



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Re: finding someone in your 30s
« Reply #5 on: January 30, 2018, 11:48:32 AM »
Dok chapa hook me up too.

You know how I like em!



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Re: finding someone in your 30s
« Reply #6 on: January 30, 2018, 12:24:08 PM »
So, I've been single for a while now. I'm in my mid 30s and am pretty successful where I am in life at the moment. One thing I noticed is that is really hard to find a decent Hmong girl in their mid 20s to early 30s's who is successful, attractive, and is not taken. I don't mind if they are divorced, but I just can't handle if they have kids as I'm not ready to be a dad yet.  I have met plenty of girls who are younger and those who are older, but not many in between. I think that as an older guy, we can always married a younger Hmong girl. What about Hmong women? What age do you think it's too late to find a nice decent Hmong man? Would you ever consider marrying someone way younger than you are? Or at that point, would you just consider marrying someone who is not Hmong?

Welcome to your new life.
If youíre successful, your competition for women dwindles are you get older. The problem is that we become more picky. Ask yourself what are you chasing, what traits are you looking for? Good that you donít have kids yet, donít take your freedom for granted.

Would I consider marrying someone younger, or of different race? Definitely if there is a connection and attraction level. My rule of thumb. 10 years up and 5 years down. Good luck!



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Re: finding someone in your 30s
« Reply #7 on: January 30, 2018, 12:34:22 PM »
So, I've been single for a while now. I'm in my mid 30s and am pretty successful where I am in life at the moment. One thing I noticed is that is really hard to find a decent Hmong girl in their mid 20s to early 30s's who is successful, attractive, and is not taken. I don't mind if they are divorced, but I just can't handle if they have kids as I'm not ready to be a dad yet.  I have met plenty of girls who are younger and those who are older, but not many in between. I think that as an older guy, we can always married a younger Hmong girl.

Let us indulge ourselves in the 30s, appreciating the wildness and transgressions of our youth that gave way to character building in old age. I think you have to suppose that most Hmong women your age are probably out doing what youíre doing: living.


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What about Hmong women? What age do you think it's too late to find a nice decent Hmong man? Would you ever consider marrying someone way younger than you are? Or at that point, would you just consider marrying someone who is not Hmong?
This begs the question that I have to consider that I am considering marriage to begin with. HmmmÖ a moot point. But I will say this, our sense of value that marriage provides, or that weíre taught to believe it is somehow sacrosanct, or an end to the finality of some linear companionship, distorts the process into thinking marriage is anything more than an institution made by man and justified by their gods. It is not for everyone. Nonetheless, I concede that those who do find it, that need it, I hope they hold on to it for the extraordinary thing that it is.



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Re: finding someone in your 30s
« Reply #8 on: January 30, 2018, 01:52:08 PM »
Marriage is NOT a requirement in life so it's no big deal if it's not for you. Worst thing is living a life in misery just to please others or society ...



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Re: finding someone in your 30s
« Reply #9 on: January 30, 2018, 02:02:06 PM »
So, I've been single for a while now. I'm in my mid 30s and am pretty successful where I am in life at the moment. One thing I noticed is that is really hard to find a decent Hmong girl in their mid 20s to early 30s's who is successful, attractive, and is not taken. I don't mind if they are divorced, but I just can't handle if they have kids as I'm not ready to be a dad yet.  I have met plenty of girls who are younger and those who are older, but not many in between. I think that as an older guy, we can always married a younger Hmong girl. What about Hmong women? What age do you think it's too late to find a nice decent Hmong man? Would you ever consider marrying someone way younger than you are? Or at that point, would you just consider marrying someone who is not Hmong?
i'ma be real with ya man,most of the hmong women who are in their 30's and still single, there's something wrong with them and that's why they still single. it's not by choice they single bro so you better have a check list to make sure you can find the right one.  O0



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Re: finding someone in your 30s
« Reply #10 on: January 30, 2018, 02:21:20 PM »
i'ma be real with ya man,most of the hmong women who are in their 30's and still single, there's something wrong with them and that's why they still single. it's not by choice they single bro so you better have a check list to make sure you can find the right one.  O0

The issue is that y'all Hmong men are no good thus why no one Hmong would want to marry them.




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Re: finding someone in your 30s
« Reply #11 on: January 30, 2018, 06:44:56 PM »
What's your last name?  I do have singles w/in your age range.  I don't mind playing match maker.

LOL. I'm a Vue. But are they educated, successful, and attractive?  ::)



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Re: finding someone in your 30s
« Reply #12 on: January 30, 2018, 06:50:37 PM »
Welcome to your new life.
If youíre successful, your competition for women dwindles are you get older. The problem is that we become more picky. Ask yourself what are you chasing, what traits are you looking for? Good that you donít have kids yet, donít take your freedom for granted.

Would I consider marrying someone younger, or of different race? Definitely if there is a connection and attraction level. My rule of thumb. 10 years up and 5 years down. Good luck!

Thanks! I know what I'm looking for. Finding someone who has the qualities you looking for and who also connect with you is harder as you get older. The pool gets smaller as you get older. Doesn't help that I live where there is also a smaller Hmong community.   



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Re: finding someone in your 30s
« Reply #13 on: January 31, 2018, 07:11:21 AM »
If youíre successful, your competition for women dwindles are you get older. The problem is that we become more picky. Ask yourself what are you chasing, what traits are you looking for? Good that you donít have kids yet, donít take your freedom for granted.

I do agree that in the past, there may have been less singles to meet but nowadays, people are tending to stay single longer since they may have other priorities on their list.  Also, I wouldnít necessarily say we become more picky as we age.  I think our preferences or requirements change over time....but thatís just my opinion.   ;D



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Re: finding someone in your 30s
« Reply #14 on: January 31, 2018, 09:27:56 AM »
Also, I wouldnít necessarily say we become more picky as we age.  I think our preferences or requirements change over time....but thatís just my opinion.   ;D

In a nutshell: "depends"...;D


And yes, those are good points especially based on the surveys I've seen in developing countries where people just don't care about marriage and/or even long committed relationship as much as past generations...

As well as having offspring...I've seen low birth rate concerns from Japan to Europe to America here and there because it's just not what many of the current generations want at the moment...

We might having more robots taking care of us instead of our kids in the future when we actually wear *depends*...;)



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