Age doesn't indicate maturity. Just because he's 18 doesn't mean he's automatically equipped with all the tools to handle life. And I think you're being unfair to hold him to your standards. As you said, you didn't lose your parents at a young age, so how can you even compare the grief and issues that come with that kind of tragedy?
Speaking on a more general level, I think empathy and compassion is our greatest ally at the moment, and that's what this kid deserves. How would it feel to lose your parents on the same day in such a shocking and blatant show of hatred? The grief, pain, anger, and horrible injustice of it all? I can't even imagine.
So let's show kindness instead of judgment and hope that he's found or comes home. Like his guardian said, if he needs time alone that's understandable . But just let his family know that he's safe and alive.
Do you see me being mature, at all? I still play theking like a fool...lol
Anyways, you are right with respect to being compassionate and hoping for the best. I understand it may sound unfair holding him to a higher standard but in comparison of him to me...i had it 10x harder, he’s only suffered one tragedy and with very little adversity...i was raised by a single mom, flight through the jungles after the war, raised in the ghettos, lived in the most descrimitive era for the hmong’s ( he’s only knows of dan popp, i know of many more racist people who would not hesitate to killed us if given the opportunity ), i was filling out welfare applications for family and relatives at age 10, worked and bought my own car with little assistance, lost a very special friend Virginity, witnessed death, and became independent at 18. I hope this young man stops being foolish and learns to appreciate the assistance of his guardians, he needs to know that going forth he is responsible for his own actions and knows that his siblings are counting on him. Where is PHa, when you need him?
When our baby (yes, me and you) turns 18, he’s getting kicked out! He’s got to man up! 😁😁😂