I find most people who act out and go crazy with the partying is mostly due to having strict parents growing up, getting out of a bad relationship or from having kids very young.
I never been into clubbing or getting messed up. I didn't come from a strict family as my father passed away when I was 3 months and my mom was an alcoholic growing up. I just learned from mistake made from myself or from others. Education was not an option growing up. My priorities were putting food on the table and trying not to get killed because where I lived you were either a norteno or sureno and I chosen none of that crap but still got harassed.
Now that I am older I can relate to people who grew up the same way I did, with hardship. I respect those who were able to walk away and do something with their life.
This is what I found with the two Hmong women I once knew. They were lost feeling like others wouldn't understand so they only dated Hmong guys who treated them like crap. I couldn't understand why their man treated them that way because they were so beautiful and sweet. In the end they were more open towards others and they are doing better now.
Due to some Phers' fragile self-esteem, a thread I posted up earlier can explain why those two women were with loser Hmong men.
Did you know that it's actually considered quite judgmental, arrogant and snobby for a Hmong women to want to date only successful and attractive men?
The Hmong have very foolish romantic notions about life. To be viewed as a good, kind-hearted person, women are expected to always prefer the homeless orphan type and help him become a rags to riches story.
Every story promises happiness, which is why many Hmong girls foolishly go for this type of men who turn out - not surprisingly - to be bums.
The Hmong have a very twisted view that someone in bad shape is in no position to judge so they must be nicer and kinder. This is why you see a lot of attractive Hmong women with loser Hmong men.
Hmong mothers who push their daughters toward the successful and well-to-do suitor are always depicted as greedy, mean, controlling and judgmental. She's suppose to take in the stray dog and give her daughter over to him.
It's such a silly notion. Hmong movies are filled with this storyline.
It's so ridiculous that during courtship if a man asks a girl what she wants in a man, for her to say "someone who is intelligent, has courage, has a good-paying job to support a family, and comes from a good family background" might turn off a man!
It's so dumb. The theory is that if a girl really loves a man then he's suppose to test her by being a total broke-a.ss bum. Silly games, indeed.