Don’t seem fair at all. Who comes up with these stipulations?
I think every culture wants the same thing as these stipulation and step #1 is critical because the elders want to encourage marriage...and when you get marry, have kids, you starts to have responsibility and responsibility makes a man into a leader and so on and on and on....
Some primitives....
That's because you don't know and when you don't know they're "primitive" to you.