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Offline MissKhou85

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My New Man....
« on: March 14, 2019, 05:58:32 PM »
Hello everyone. It has been a long time since Iíve been on here. My 34th birthday just recently passed a few days ago. I would like to update and share my story of moving on in life. Last year in April 2018, I started talking to a guy I met on FB. I didnít like him at first because he was a boring person on the phone. We talked here and there and I told him that I am currently in a relationship with my man of almost 12 years and we can only be friends. One day I decided to call him up at work and we continued to talk daily. My goal was to talk to him as a friend to help killed times. However, everything changes when we continued to talk every day and he asked me to meet up with him.  I was skeptical at first because I knew its wrong of me to meet him and impossible because my boyfriend (ex) comes up with me to visited my family as well. I told no many times but he pushes my button to the point where he dared me to meet him. Finally, we met at night time on May 30, 2018 in Sacramento. We met at a store parking lot and then decided to go to a park that I enjoyed walking when I visited Sacramento. We went to the park, walked and talked for an hour. I was sick so I didnít want to stay too long. When I met him, Wow, he is so skinny. Heís like half of my size.

After meeting him last night, the following day he asked me to meet him again and grabbed some Jamba Juice. We met up and grabbed some drinks and talked for an hour or so inside the place and parking lot. Afterward, I went back home. For the month of June, we continued to talk and he was pressuring me to leave my boyfriend (ex) because he said what if my man finds out and beat me up? He was worried. We continued to meet up every weekend for 4-5 times from Friday to Sunday in June. The more I talked/see him, the more feelings I started having for him. On June 27th, 2018 I left my boyfriend (ex) and went to my parentís because I admitted to my boyfriend (ex) that I am cheating on him with another guy. I felt so bad because I hurt my man so much to the point where he told me to leave. He was so angry with me, he walked out of the house. I left him that day after work.

When I got to Sacramento, it was late and I went straight to the guy that I was talking to. He comforted me and I felt better. I explained everything to him and he said heís happy to hear that I left him because I walked out of my unhealthy relationship. The guy that I was talking to told me heíll wait for me until December. If by December I do not leave my ex, he said heíll let me go because that means I still love him. I left my boyfriend (ex) earlier than expected. We continued to hang out for a few days and that night on June 30, 2018, he got down on his knees and asked me to be his girlfriend. I told him I canít because itís too soon and I just recently got out of a relationship with my ex and we havenít officially ended yet. He looked sad and later that night when he asked me again for the second time, I said ďYESĒ.  I feel it was too fast and too soon for me but I told him myself, weíll date later down the road as well so might as go take the chance and go for it. And I did.

My family and friends said to me that I moved on too fast and the guy Iím with is just a rebound guy. Many people purposely said it in front of his face that heís just a rebound guy and after 1-2 months Iíll leave him and go back to my ex. Everyone doubted our relationship but my man, proved them all wrong. It was hard for me because I was still confused and hurt but he held on to me tight and made our relationship work. Iím very thankful that heís serious with me because if not, he would have left me already. He took the chances and now that he got the chance to be with me, he made it work. No relationship is perfect but Iím happier now then I was back then with my ex. Itís so nice to have a man who is the opposite from your ex. This guy cooks for me all the time, help me do my laundry, help set up table and cook for my family, clean, drive to places out of town and many more. After a few months in, my family grew to love him. By the end of March, weíll be dating for 9 months. Its crazy how fast time fly by.

This past weekend, he threw me a big birthday party and spent so much on me. I planned so much stuff and he did it all for me. On Sunday we went to Reno with one of my sister and her family. He upgraded our free room and it was really beautiful and spacious. We had a great time at Reno and I ended up babysitting instead but it was fun hanging out with nieceís and nephew. I rather spend my money on the kids then waste it on the slots and get nothing in return. We are long distant boyfriend/girlfriends and see each other from Friday nights until early Monday morning when I leave back to my hometown.

Before you judge me and assumed things, my ex cheated on me from January 2018 until the day I left him. I never knew he cheated on me until August when I checked his phone calls because I was still paying for his cellphone. My ex and I hardly talked or text and that month he has over 3,000 text messages. I was shocked! I cancelled his phone and asked him to return the Samsung 8+ because I still got payments on the phone and he doesnít deserves it.  It hurt as well because when I left my ex, he didnít fight for me to come back home whereas for his older brother, he was doing everything to can to have his baby mama back. Before I left my ex, he said the worst things to me so I will not be able to leave him. I left him too because my new man complimented me and gives me the confidence to love myself again. My ex admitted to my brother that he cheated on me. Iíll admit, I fell into depression and let go of myself. I let go of my looks because I was not happy in life. With my new man, Iím starting to love myself again and Iím so much happier after I got the help I needed. I took antidepressant s for a month and am with someone who loves me for me. My man is a skinny guy and heís HALF of my size. He accepts me being natural beauty and doesnít judge me even though when I wear no makeup. Weíre only a year apart.

After all, time does heals all pain. It took me a while to be myself again and many might wonder how is it possible to leave a man youíre with for 12 years and date one right away? Everyone has their own stories and answers so anything is possible. If youíre not happy in your relationship, let it go because youíll find someone that will love you and accept you for who you are if you give them the chance. You must be strong and move forward. If not, youíll go back to where youíre at in the first place. Love is hard but donít make it harder on you. Until next time, Bye! 



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Re: My New Man....
« Reply #1 on: March 14, 2019, 08:50:02 PM »
Iím happy for you. We all deserve to be with the right person.



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Re: My New Man....
« Reply #2 on: March 14, 2019, 10:42:23 PM »
Good to know...



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Re: My New Man....
« Reply #3 on: March 14, 2019, 10:56:17 PM »


It was supposed to be me but I'm so glad we never met up anywhere.  Rejection is God's protection. 

Nice to hear from you again though.  Glad u are doing well and is more happier in life.  Everyone deserves a happy ending.  Don't worry about me, I already gotten my happy ending.  Lol.



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Re: My New Man....
« Reply #4 on: March 15, 2019, 12:31:36 AM »
 O0

Dang it...I'm gonna go to a massage parlor for my happy ending.  :2funny:

Anyway, good for you.  Stand your ground and made the decision for the better.

Boring guys are usually the real guy.  All chicks knows that...They just choose to the hard route first.  It's about life and experiencing it.  Now share it with that boring guy.  O0



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Re: My New Man....
« Reply #5 on: March 15, 2019, 06:47:13 AM »
dang!!  that's a lot of reading.  but, good for you.



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Re: My New Man....
« Reply #6 on: March 15, 2019, 09:05:22 AM »
I hope your story is true!  I will not be your sponsor this time because i have other ladies to make a happy ending!

btw, have you found that "side" fb boyfriend you've been asking for?  ;) ;D



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Re: My New Man....
« Reply #7 on: March 15, 2019, 08:06:06 PM »
As a guy, sh&t like this makes me just want pump and dump with females. Why get into a relationship when a good laid is all you need.
known how easily you are convinced to dump your 12-year relationship for him, he would be dumb enough to stick around with you for 12 years. I know I wouldn't.
However if your EX is a drunk and abusive guy who beats on you on a regular basis, then yea LEAVE.



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Re: My New Man....
« Reply #8 on: March 25, 2019, 02:00:27 PM »
Compliments are easy to say.  Working hard to get someone to like you is a lot harder but apparently, he's done that.  Now for the real test.  The real test is keeping your interest in that person once you win him/her over.  That's the hardest test to pass.  Many men (and women) have failed it.  Let us know how you two fair a few years. I hope he can keep up his appreciation of you.  If he can, he's a keeper.  I wish you two the very best and good luck!



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Re: My New Man....
« Reply #9 on: April 05, 2019, 02:19:40 AM »
12 yrs together and your ex cheated? Why did it get to that point? Was it bad before? I am glad you left a dishonest guy. No one deserves to be cheated on even if they are the worst person on earth!



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Re: My New Man....
« Reply #10 on: April 06, 2019, 03:25:05 PM »
So, your ex cheated on you. Makes it ok for you to cheat on him?

Donít get me wrong. Iím all in for your own happiness. But Iím pretty sure you knew what you where doing when you call that FB dude.



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