How do you know if you're in a toxic relationship?

[YAX]

What are the signs?

[Reporter]

1. When you become obsessed with finding out what's in the other person's phone.

[Peachy Fish]

2. When you or the other person is verbally and/or physically abusive.

[tRouBLe]

2. When you or the other person is verbally and/or physically abusive.

I’d add “emotionally” to that list as well. 

[YAX]

1. When you become obsessed with finding out what's in the other person's phone.

Wouldn't that make you the toxic one? or is it because the other person gives you reason to wan to find out?

[YAX]

I’d add “emotionally” to that list as well. 

Would it be emotional abuse if you see your love talk nice to and smile at another person and it makes you jealous? or is that on you?

[theking]

Wouldn't that make you the toxic one? or is it because the other person gives you reason to wan to find out?

Would it be emotional abuse if you see your love talk nice to and smile at another person and it makes you jealous? or is that on you?

This is no different than the other thread asking women for their input because you "don't know"...but when they take the time to reply, you questioned their replies...

Those two members give their input and then you question their input like a know it all...Why bother asking the question if you know so much that you even questioned those that took the the time to answer your question?? 

[Reporter]

Nope. It's the whole relationship if it's toxic. Can't be just one person. Then there isn't a relationship.

Wouldn't that make you the toxic one? or is it because the other person gives you reason to wan to find out?

[azn-guy]

when they think there right all the time 

[VillainousHero]

You don't know unless someone tells you.  You don't know if it's ankle deep, knee deep, or even waist deep until you're up to neck deep.

When it's you in the relationship, it's very difficult to be observant of yourself.

When it's come to be obvious...it's been that bad for such a long time.

Some people don't put up with anything, zero tolerance.  Some people have lots of patience or tolerance.  Some people are always short fused, blowing up over nothing.  Other's don't do anything until you light a fire under their butts.  Then again sometimes that's useless because they only react and not the right way.

[ProudLao]

Depends on the relationships.

[YAX]

This is no different than the other thread asking women for their input because you "don't know"...but when they take the time to reply, you questioned their replies...

Those two members give their input and then you question their input like a know it all...Why bother asking the question if you know so much that you even questioned those that took the the time to answer your question?? 

uh.. asking for clarity is key in understanding one's statements and beliefs.  I'll take your response here to mean you either never ask for clarity or further details or you're just making the statement out of spite and you would from time to time ask questions to gain a deeper discussion about the topics.   I have a feeling the second reason is the most likely reason you're replying this way to my line of questioning.  I bet anyone who reads the thread would agree with my opinion on the matter as well (except you, ofcourse, because agreeing would mean admitting guilt and based on your post history, that's pretty difficult for you to do).

[tRouBLe]

Would it be emotional abuse if you see your love talk nice to and smile at another person and it makes you jealous? or is that on you?

Intent also comes into play.  If he is normally that way with others, then I would have no issue with it.  Now if you’re referring to him treating women that way and not me, then I would discuss it with him.  If his unfair treatment continues, then I always have the option of walking out the door.   

[YAX]

Intent also comes into play.  If he is normally that way with others, then I would have no issue with it.  Now if you’re referring to him treating women that way and not me, then I would discuss it with him.  If his unfair treatment continues, then I always have the option of walking out the door.   

This makes me remember, back when I was young, I had a black friend.  He dated this one white girl and I thought they were good together. She'd talk nice and smile at all of us and it was okay because we were friends and he knew he could trust me and my brothers.  We were family.  One day, we were in line at the cashier in a small convenience store and this Mexican guy walked up behind his girlfriend, who was behind me, and said "Hi" to her and she gave him a smile back and said "hi".  My buddy just walked straight out of the store.  She dropped all her things and walked out after him.  I sensed something was wrong and quickly paid for my items and walked out after them to see what was going on.  He started walking down the street and she was following him saying "What's wrong? Tyson! What's wrong?" and I followed.  He stopped, she caught up, he turned around and just punched her really hard in the chest.  I was shocked.   This was all because she smiled at the other guy and said hi back.  They eventually broke up after that because he was so jealous of her.

[Mr_Mechanic]

What are the signs?

if you really had to ask, then you already are.

2. When you or the other person is verbally and/or physically abusive.

only in bed though.......d raw your conclusion from there.