A light writing about the signs of a indulgent relationship
Here again we look at relationship from looking at our own reflection. The causation as to why we often find a person in their own toxic relationship, more so to be described as self-indulgent. It is the idea of loving love itself. It is the idea that romance should be like fantasies, movies, novels, etc.,...These are all very normal occurrences that happens while dating or even before the actual dating experiences.
1.Intensity. Feeding the feeling of romance. A person watches romance entertainment. They recall romance fairy tales like Cinderella, Snow White, Aladdin, etc.,.. A person also beautifies themselves excessively.
2.Jealousy. Fueling that envious behavior. A natural feeling that a person wants what another person has. Also seeking attention either by knowing or convincing oneself that they are better than another person.
3.Control. There are things that we can control and things we can't control. The choices this person makes is about influencing another individual or perhaps their social standing. This person is seeking to be the attention of the individual or audience.
4.Isolation. At this point, it is ever self convincing periods this person spends while in isolation. Example like, "Mirror on the wall, who's the fairest of them all."
5.Criticism. After 1-4 are routine behaviors, criticism emerges. Most often it is directed at the intended person. Other times, it is to play victim to influence empathy, sympathy, or even pity. It is many times all about feeding one's ego, many times a passive aggressive behavior.
6.Sabotage. Doing things to make the other person experience difficulties. This goes beyond jealousy. It is engaging in the acts that is influence by jealousy, criticism, and control.
7.Blame. Directing faults everything around you or even to that other person. Making them feel guilty, through the acts of jealousy, criticism, and sabotage.
8.Anger. The outbursts of mood swings typically aggressive behavior. Also a very aggressive slam of jealousy. A shocking passive aggressive attack.
9.Regression. I am adding this to tie in all this to depict the signs as this person cycles through them. The regression behavior often surfaces to the back to a time when "I" loved you so much. "I" did all of this because I only wanted to be loved. It's where you can't get a reaction out of this person once they're in their shell mode.
These are some warning signs of the person who you are dating, in a relationship with, or even observing it in someone else. Sometimes you may even have to apply it to yourself. For most people, they will not cross over to the excessive compulsive spectrum of this. Just be cautious of those individuals who are often labelled as narcissists. If you see the signs of 1-4, watch out for signs of 5-8.