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Maybe give up on finding love and just have friends?  I mean,obviously, I'm not an expert since I'm not in this situation, but I was just thinking, if you've been with that many people and have not found one compatible with you, maybe its time to just focus on other things in life and have casual sex whenever you're horney.  I'm thinking, by 40, you're so set in your ways anyway that finding someone else who can tolerate your habits and whom you can tolerate would be so difficult that its not worth the time or effort.

That's not to say, if you're around 40 and just got divorced, you should quit looking.  I mean, if you've been with someone for that last 15-20 years and now in the market, okay, maybe you got a shot.  I'm just talking about guys and girls who's maybe been divorced a couple of times or dated numerous people and have been on the market for several years, but can't put up with anyone long term.  Anyone who's in this situation want to chime in on why you're still looking or why you've stopped looking?  Maybe you can give me some insights on why you can't be with someone long term? Like, do you just get bored of the other person after a while?



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For myself...I was after long term relationship.. .all the ones I've met so far and interacted...w ere only in it for the short thrills only.  I tried, that's all.  When I said, settle down.  I meant be with me for the long haul...till like we're 100 yrs old or more.  I guess God/Fate didn't had that purpose for me.  I am content either way to have just crossed paths with so many lovable people, even with the person who made me understand the meaning of evil.  I have other priorities in life, with life, living life.  If someone changes my priorities...g ood too.



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For myself...I was after long term relationship.. .all the ones I've met so far and interacted...w ere only in it for the short thrills only.  I tried, that's all.  When I said, settle down.  I meant be with me for the long haul...till like we're 100 yrs old or more.  I guess God/Fate didn't had that purpose for me.  I am content either way to have just crossed paths with so many lovable people, even with the person who made me understand the meaning of evil.  I have other priorities in life, with life, living life.  If someone changes my priorities...g ood too.
  Don't worry bro.  Maybe your body was meant to be shared and passed around like a good joint or a bottle of rum.  ;D 



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  Don't worry bro.  Maybe your body was meant to be shared and passed around like a good joint or a bottle of rum.  ;D

I feel so used. now...LOL...to ssed out like refuse... :D



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Imagine all them divorces I would have gotten if I married all my ex.   :2funny:

For men, we tend to look better as we aged.  Women sees the confidence in us and it shows.  I mean look at your younger pictures versus to what you are looking now.  The younger version of you probably looks like a non confident dweeb.  The older version of you, the present and future needs no introduction to vagina.   :2funny:

If dating doesn't cost so much money, I'll make it my full time hobby.   :2funny:



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Maybe give up on finding love and just have friends?  I mean,obviously, I'm not an expert since I'm not in this situation, but I was just thinking, if you've been with that many people and have not found one compatible with you, maybe its time to just focus on other things in life and have casual sex whenever you're horney.  I'm thinking, by 40, you're so set in your ways anyway that finding someone else who can tolerate your habits and whom you can tolerate would be so difficult that its not worth the time or effort.

That's not to say, if you're around 40 and just got divorced, you should quit looking.  I mean, if you've been with someone for that last 15-20 years and now in the market, okay, maybe you got a shot.  I'm just talking about guys and girls who's maybe been divorced a couple of times or dated numerous people and have been on the market for several years, but can't put up with anyone long term.  Anyone who's in this situation want to chime in on why you're still looking or why you've stopped looking?  Maybe you can give me some insights on why you can't be with someone long term? Like, do you just get bored of the other person after a while?

Depends on the individual as marriage and/or a long term commitment is not a requirement in life so some may be into it but not others regardless of age. Shouldn't be all narrow minded thinking that "around 40" is the cutoff age...



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Maybe give up on finding love and just have friends?  I mean,obviously, I'm not an expert since I'm not in this situation, but I was just thinking, if you've been with that many people and have not found one compatible with you, maybe its time to just focus on other things in life and have casual sex whenever you're horney.  I'm thinking, by 40, you're so set in your ways anyway that finding someone else who can tolerate your habits and whom you can tolerate would be so difficult that its not worth the time or effort.

That's not to say, if you're around 40 and just got divorced, you should quit looking.  I mean, if you've been with someone for that last 15-20 years and now in the market, okay, maybe you got a shot.  I'm just talking about guys and girls who's maybe been divorced a couple of times or dated numerous people and have been on the market for several years, but can't put up with anyone long term.  Anyone who's in this situation want to chime in on why you're still looking or why you've stopped looking?  Maybe you can give me some insights on why you can't be with someone long term? Like, do you just get bored of the other person after a while?
I do agree after you hit 40, "life is like a box of chocolate"...you'll never know what you're gonna eat and quite frankly, all tastes the same (SWEET! single, divorced, widowed and even married chicks)...so there is no point in figuring out what you want, just take what you can get.  it's midlife crisis at its best...all you need to do is focus on yourself, make that money so you can continue courting them chocolates.  drive a fancier car, attracting easier prey.  traveling at ease, fly to sacramento for a weekend fling, start a fight in merced then hit up fresno for a gangbang.  when new year comes, one can be at any city in the world (lav52), for them rental girlfriends or trophy wives...and best of all, no one to hold you back.

single life at 40+ is better than when you're 20...all games you know how to play, all women you know how to get, and sex is no longer a priority.  life is no longer about experimenting, where you're trying to figure out what to do to better yourself but experiencing, doing things what you feel like and enjoying the freedom.



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I feel so used. now...LOL...to ssed out like refuse... :D
we all know you like it that way. Lol



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When ya over 40's, ya playing field is just different.  You can't be going to no 18+ clubs on a constant basis.  Heck, even 21+ clubs makes you feel old. 

Once in a while to let yourself loose is ok.  Don't be a regular where everybody knows your name and you might see your picture be hanging on their hall of fame and ish.  You go in for the kill and you disappear for awhile and hopefully, the next time you go to the likes of myth or aqua, it'll be a different crowd of folks that doesn't know you.  In this way, you can let loose of yourself again.  Hit he grey goose to let loose.   :2funny:

When ya 40s, there is really nothing left.  The people around your age are all married with kids.  You can either hit the low age women again or reach the high for divorcee.  If you planning for something serious, you gotta hit them hard and fast.  Fast love is how you do it when you are over 40's cuz you don't have 10 years to sit on it and see her age with all them dates. 

Got a hmong wedding this sat.  Same drill.  Fast love like I just saw dude being single like a few months ago and now got an invitation for a marriage?  WTF hmong people.   :2funny:

Got another wedding in LA area the first weekend in sept.  People I know are not sitting on dating for long term after 40s.  They wanna play house too. 

What about me?    ;D



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40 and single is different between men and women.

If a man is single then it's because he chooses to be. Maybe he doesn't want to change his ways to please a wife. Or he hasn't met a woman worthy of him changing. Men typically have to do the changing in a marriage. If he's doing the proposing then he has to feel that the woman is worth sharing his income with, spending less time with friends and hobbies, giving up old habits, allowing someone to manage his assets, and so on. The man gives up a lot whereas the woman sees marriage as a chance for her to create a new life. This is very true in the modern age unlike in the past.   

If a woman is single then it's because her expectations are too high. Even if she earns a lot of money, she still holds onto a traditional outlook on marriage roles where the husband is the breadwinner. Yes, even the ultra feminist still wants a man who has an impressive career and they're lying if they say otherwise. If feminists didn't care then why are they always the first to complain that men aren't doing enough? That can only be true if and when she feels above him. And let's face it. Women have so many opportunities nowadays - regardless of what anybody says - that the pool of their ideal man is shrinking and not because men aren't doing well but because women are doing much better than before. If a woman is doing everything that a man does, it will appear like he isn't playing his role. The modern day women will have to accept the fact that it's okay to marry a stay-at-home husband. And let me tell you that there are plenty of those to go around.   



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i don't know about Hmong and mexican guys, but it is said that Men lose a good 1/3 of their youth's sexual drive once they hit the 30's...lols for me personally, i don't remember the last time i thought of the dirty deed...at least for like every 5 seconds...mayb e once or twice a week for 5 seconds...but i remember the days when it was every 5 seconds..lmao



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