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Offline lifemystery

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More than just a friend?
« on: August 14, 2019, 05:02:56 PM »
A guy got out of a marriage. He is adjusting himself to being single again. Several weeks later he met a single widow woman and they continue seeing each other. They both spend at least 2hrs to 3hrs on social media, phone and texting everyday. He only want to be friend with her but she wants be more than just a friend. He is trying to hookup his friend with her. She never meet his friend in person yet and she isn't interested in his friend. They still spend time with each other. Do you consider them as being friend? If you were the guy and she already turn down your friend without meet him in person yet what would you do?



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Re: More than just a friend?
« Reply #1 on: August 15, 2019, 01:18:55 AM »
Yes, still friends, and I would continue to be just a friend if I have no romantic interest in her...I have several female friends that I have known for many years and we are still friends so this would be no different...



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Re: More than just a friend?
« Reply #2 on: August 15, 2019, 08:46:44 AM »
become friends with benefits...it will eventually lead into something else (hopefully, a real relationship). ha!



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Re: More than just a friend?
« Reply #3 on: August 15, 2019, 12:08:01 PM »
The guy just got out of a marriage and looks like he's not ready for a relationship at the moment.  If she's interested in him tell her to be patient, give him time.



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Re: More than just a friend?
« Reply #4 on: August 15, 2019, 01:49:25 PM »
Men and women can BE platonic friends, first of all.

If I were in the guy's shoes I'd let my feelings be known. No need to stay silent and ruin a good friendship.

As a side note, speaking from experience, it'll suck being in her shoes. Unrequited love is not without hurt feelings.



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Re: More than just a friend?
« Reply #5 on: August 15, 2019, 04:44:29 PM »
Men and women can BE platonic friends, first of all.

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Re: More than just a friend?
« Reply #6 on: August 27, 2019, 01:18:43 AM »
No wonder she can't let go now.

A guy got out of a marriage. He is adjusting himself to being single again. Several weeks later he met a single widow woman and they continue seeing each other. They both spend at least 2hrs to 3hrs on social media, phone and texting everyday. He only want to be friend with her but she wants be more than just a friend. He is trying to hookup his friend with her. She never meet his friend in person yet and she isn't interested in his friend. They still spend time with each other. Do you consider them as being friend? If you were the guy and she already turn down your friend without meet him in person yet what would you do?



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Re: More than just a friend?
« Reply #7 on: August 28, 2019, 05:10:02 AM »
I'm not that guy...so....no clue.



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Re: More than just a friend?
« Reply #8 on: September 05, 2022, 05:09:21 AM »
If he isn't romantically interested then he shouldn't bother befriending her since she does have feelings for him. He definitely should not spend time with her, but looks like he already has and now he'll have to go cold turkey.   



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Re: More than just a friend?
« Reply #9 on: January 18, 2023, 02:00:00 AM »
Men and women can BE platonic friends, first of all.

If I were in the guy's shoes I'd let my feelings be known. No need to stay silent and ruin a good friendship.

As a side note, speaking from experience, it'll suck being in her shoes. Unrequited love is not without hurt feelings.

I just don't believe in this at all. I don't have any guys who just wanted to be "friends" with me. If they aren't trying to get in the pants then they want a relationship. I know guys who I'm civil with because we have to work together but I don't consider them friends.



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Re: More than just a friend?
« Reply #10 on: January 18, 2023, 02:06:39 AM »
A guy got out of a marriage. He is adjusting himself to being single again. Several weeks later he met a single widow woman and they continue seeing each other. They both spend at least 2hrs to 3hrs on social media, phone and texting everyday. He only want to be friend with her but she wants be more than just a friend. He is trying to hookup his friend with her. She never meet his friend in person yet and she isn't interested in his friend. They still spend time with each other. Do you consider them as being friend? If you were the guy and she already turn down your friend without meet him in person yet what would you do?

A guy once told me it's not good to fall for a man who only calls you for life advice and to distract him from his problems. I don't mind counseling guys because I like helping people with problems. But I know that I would never fall for them.



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Re: More than just a friend?
« Reply #11 on: January 18, 2023, 12:06:06 PM »
A guy got out of a marriage. He is adjusting himself to being single again. Several weeks later he met a single widow woman and they continue seeing each other. They both spend at least 2hrs to 3hrs on social media, phone and texting everyday. He only want to be friend with her but she wants be more than just a friend. He is trying to hookup his friend with her. She never meet his friend in person yet and she isn't interested in his friend. They still spend time with each other. Do you consider them as being friend? If you were the guy and she already turn down your friend without meet him in person yet what would you do?

if they want to be friends say so. if they want to be more then say so. being stationed in many parts of the world I learned to just be upfront with women. i have lots of women friends and some we do more things and others i say i'm not interested.



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Re: More than just a friend?
« Reply #12 on: March 25, 2023, 11:48:48 PM »
If he still values her as a friend then just be sure to keep it at a friendship level. That means no flirting or mixed signals. If she continues to push it then that will be on her.

The real question is how did things initially begin? If he gave her signs that he was interested then it is kind of his fault. He gave her false hopes. You can't start off showing a lot of romantic interest and now you just want to be friends.

I'm sure he would feel very hurt if someone did that to him. Especially since men tend to be the one doing the pursuing and making the effort in the beginning. It would suck if the woman just suddenly says, "I just want to be friends. Yes, after you spent all that time and money on me because I told you that I like you in a romantic way. But now I just want to be friends."



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