Here, I'll quote the OP:
If all they are waiting for is "do the wedding" and even considered a "meeka wedding" so they wouldn't be in "limbo", they can still get it done without the other side's participation is all I'm saying...very simple, and yes can make it "official" on their own...
If it was my daughter, I would let her decide because marriage is NOT a requirement in life and if she wants to get married, I can throw a wedding for her with or without the other side's participation.
They can use "an eye for an eye" and "future precedent" threats but it still not above the laws of the land so it won't hold much weight when it comes down to it...And there are options when it comes to getting married...so the couple can still get "officially" married one way or another if they choose to.
You can't do a hmong or mekas wedding for your daughter w/o the groom's family participation and if you did, it'll look foolish. So yes, they are stuck in a limbo.
Unless people don't care for their hmong culture, totally disregards, think it's backward, then yes the "eye for eye" and "future precedent" won't work. These people don't even embrace their culture, heritage and never take the time to learn why we do things the way we do, never fully understand, But for the majority, right now, many people still keep, respect our hmong traditions, the clan system, etc. so yes it'll get resolved one way or another.