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When your standards are too high
« on: November 25, 2019, 01:41:46 PM »
Now I finally know why theres a lot of single women out there who won't settle and refuse the get married. Thats bc their standards are high and it should always be that way!



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Re: When your standards are too high
« Reply #1 on: November 26, 2019, 04:44:39 PM »
Wait, isn't the grass always greener on the other side?  :2funny: standard



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Re: When your standards are too high
« Reply #2 on: January 07, 2020, 02:01:07 PM »
True.

Years ago, a lady told me her daughter picked another guy over me and another guy just because the guy she picked had two full years of college already. I had only a BA and the other failed guy got only an MA.


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Re: When your standards are too high
« Reply #3 on: January 12, 2020, 09:02:07 AM »
True.

Years ago, a lady told me her daughter picked another guy over me and another guy just because the guy she picked had two full years of college already. I had only a BA and the other failed guy got only an MA.

Don't tell me she's a pretty gal, right? Have you ever heard this phrase before, "even the prettiest girl has the ugliest personality to spend the rest of your life with?"  ???



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Re: When your standards are too high
« Reply #4 on: January 31, 2020, 02:29:50 PM »
I think it depends where you are in life and what you’re looking for in the other person.  Some preferences/standards can be overlooked, while others can’t.   ;D



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Re: When your standards are too high
« Reply #5 on: January 31, 2020, 02:40:54 PM »
women should always set high standards, but play easy to get!  they can get any man they want, from high to low!

Have standards but know yourself, as well.   ;D



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Re: When your standards are too high
« Reply #6 on: February 04, 2020, 05:37:22 PM »
She's pretty. Got all three of us visiting frequently.

I agree with you on the "ugliest personality" analysis.

Don't tell me she's a pretty gal, right? Have you ever heard this phrase before, "even the prettiest girl has the ugliest personality to spend the rest of your life with?"  ???



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Re: When your standards are too high
« Reply #7 on: February 04, 2020, 05:38:28 PM »




women should always set high standards, but play easy to get!  they can get any man they want, from high to low!



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Re: When your standards are too high
« Reply #8 on: February 04, 2020, 06:31:07 PM »
Your expectation should go down with age. 

At my age, I bump ugly when no one is looking  :2funny:



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Re: When your standards are too high
« Reply #9 on: April 19, 2020, 11:19:32 PM »
Women have too much load of options thanks to social media. Even the most unattractive (inside or out. Or both) woman thinks shes all that.

Anyway, a high value male don’t chase women. Become the man she wants and she'll follow.



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Re: When your standards are too high
« Reply #10 on: April 20, 2020, 04:41:44 PM »
I think it depends where you are in life and what you’re looking for in the other person.  Some preferences/standards can be overlooked, while others can’t.   ;D

+1.  Hehehe.  That's so true.  Standards change as we age.  My standards when I was younger were: is he a guy, is he good looking, is he nice?  That was it. ;D  Then as I got older and smarter and wiser, my standards went from those things to a lot more, and requiring him to: not be lazy, be ambitious, be a good father, be a good provider, be a good partner, be smart and intelligent, be able to make my heart skip a beat when I look at him, be loving/caring/kind, be a good kisser, be non-smelly, have same religious and political views, have same interests/same values/same goals, etc.  Oh, he doesn't need to be super good looking anymore either.  Just as long as he is clean and I want to kiss him nonstop.   :D


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Re: When your standards are too high
« Reply #11 on: April 20, 2020, 04:45:57 PM »
Women have too much load of options thanks to social media. Even the most unattractive (inside or out. Or both) woman thinks shes all that.

Anyway, a high value male don’t chase women. Become the man she wants and she'll follow.

I disagree.  A high value man still needs to chase a high value woman.  If he doesn't chase, the high value woman will say bye bye.  The high value woman also needs to show interest and stop playing hard to get.  She needs to know what she wants and when she sees a high value man, she needs to tell that guy that she wants him.  If they acknowledge value in each other and chase each other equally, then match made in heaven. :)



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Re: When your standards are too high
« Reply #12 on: April 20, 2020, 06:22:00 PM »
I disagree.  A high value man still needs to chase a high value woman.  If he doesn't chase, the high value woman will say bye bye.  The high value woman also needs to show interest and stop playing hard to get.  She needs to know what she wants and when she sees a high value man, she needs to tell that guy that she wants him.  If they acknowledge value in each other and chase each other equally, then match made in heaven. :)

Actually, this really depends on how dominant the man is in the relationship. If the man's frame or reality is the stronger one, and the woman respects him/is attracted to him, then she will definitely change to be more in line with whatever he brings out in her. In other words, he will lead and she will follow.

In a case such as this, usually the dominate one will lead and lesser one does the chase.



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Re: When your standards are too high
« Reply #13 on: April 20, 2020, 06:30:03 PM »
Actually, this really depends on how dominant the man is in the relationship. If the man's frame or reality is the stronger one, and the woman respects him/is attracted to him, then she will definitely change to be more in line with whatever he brings out in her. In other words, he will lead and she will follow.

In a case such as this, usually the dominate one will lead and lesser one does the chase.

OK.  I agree.  The chasing may not be super obvious but yes, sometimes one partner chases the other more and it can go back and forth with the one that was being chased doing the chasing sometimes. :)



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Re: When your standards are too high
« Reply #14 on: April 20, 2020, 07:10:49 PM »
OK.  I agree.  The chasing may not be super obvious but yes, sometimes one partner chases the other more and it can go back and forth with the one that was being chased doing the chasing sometimes. :)

If they both know game to a certain extent, then the one who is more dominant or good at their game can make the other chase.

My coach gf told me that when she met him, he tried game on her. He said she was like a wild card because she did everything right, but she also impressed him. Once he knew her better, her past, her knowledge of game. He put it away and they had a more interesting start of their relationship.

Game can only go so far, and there’s no method to get someone to like you if they aren’t attracted. Sure game is there to help start something but, for a full blown relationship you need connections, understanding and all the must stuff that comes along with a relationship.



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