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Re: Double standard does not live here in this aspect of the relationship
« Reply #15 on: June 01, 2020, 02:52:05 AM »
update with my friend....

Last week, my friend went missing.  He later showed up to my boy's garage covid party and we asked him where he went.  He told me that she flew to the bay area to surprises him so this puts my boy at stress level.  He has to balance from both sides, his wife and with this other woman that she thinks he's single and all.  He disappeared and turned off his phone to be with this mn woman.  She's doing this cuz by next week, he salon will be opened in mn. 

So his wife be tripping on him.  She finally realized what happened but he still stuck by his excuse of work training blah blah blah.  She threw hammers at him in a domestic violence case.  I'm like oh my gosh. 

As a buddy, I went drinking and took him out to a casino that finally opened.  Line was worse than an amusement park and reminded me of vegas club lines.  It was massive zoo there this past saturday.  Anyways, the good thing that came out of this story is that his wife also was at the casino.  He came by to say hi and I disappeared for a minute but b4 I left, I saw her snuggling onto him at the blackjack table and told him to go home with her.  I left. 

So you see, the casino, it can help mends all wounds.   :2funny:

Sorry, if you are expecting some sick chit story, it is not going to happen.  My buddy was already premeditated on what he is going to do. If he wife divorces him, he's moving in with the mn chick.  If she takes him back, he is gonna put her on block text and call and that is how the cookie will crumble.  A sexual relationship where he told me he effed her 4 times a day.  He came out a winner in this story cuz guys, all they wanted it is sex.  We don't feel sorry for them women that got played.  She thought she got a good one, something that is gonna work and last but only to be played by a guy who has a wife and who knows what else skeletons held in the closet. 

My story has a message.  Please, do not be that woman.   It would be easier if people fawk and run but when you let such relationship lingers and baked and emotion gets involved, it will complicate things. 

I might update this cuz we never know if my boy is going to drop that mn woman cold or he is gonna slide into her DM later down the line. 






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Re: Double standard does not live here in this aspect of the relationship
« Reply #16 on: June 01, 2020, 08:54:58 AM »
So reporter has a story about hmong divorcee women chasing married men and don't mind being their second wife.

She came to cali in anticipating to meet up with his parents to get it serious.  In her mind, this guy is single and is the real deal.  I mean why shouldn't she when he gets to hit it 4x a day.   :2funny:

But he told me that he took her places to kill time and away from "the talk" about meeting his parents.  She wants to marry this guy already. 

I will tell him if perhaps he can tell her the truth and if she would like to be a second wife.  Could saves everyone a lot of headache and trouble.  It will be her closure to know that he has a wife in cali and got played all along.



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Re: Double standard does not live here in this aspect of the relationship
« Reply #17 on: June 02, 2020, 12:19:23 AM »
update with my friend....

Last week, my friend went missing.  He later showed up to my boy's garage covid party and we asked him where he went.  He told me that she flew to the bay area to surprises him so this puts my boy at stress level.  He has to balance from both sides, his wife and with this other woman that she thinks he's single and all.  He disappeared and turned off his phone to be with this mn woman.  She's doing this cuz by next week, he salon will be opened in mn. 

So his wife be tripping on him.  She finally realized what happened but he still stuck by his excuse of work training blah blah blah.  She threw hammers at him in a domestic violence case.  I'm like oh my gosh. 

As a buddy, I went drinking and took him out to a casino that finally opened.  Line was worse than an amusement park and reminded me of vegas club lines.  It was massive zoo there this past saturday.  Anyways, the good thing that came out of this story is that his wife also was at the casino.  He came by to say hi and I disappeared for a minute but b4 I left, I saw her snuggling onto him at the blackjack table and told him to go home with her.  I left. 

So you see, the casino, it can help mends all wounds.   :2funny:

Sorry, if you are expecting some sick chit story, it is not going to happen.  My buddy was already premeditated on what he is going to do. If he wife divorces him, he's moving in with the mn chick.  If she takes him back, he is gonna put her on block text and call and that is how the cookie will crumble.  A sexual relationship where he told me he effed her 4 times a day.  He came out a winner in this story cuz guys, all they wanted it is sex.  We don't feel sorry for them women that got played.  She thought she got a good one, something that is gonna work and last but only to be played by a guy who has a wife and who knows what else skeletons held in the closet. 

My story has a message.  Please, do not be that woman.   It would be easier if people fawk and run but when you let such relationship lingers and baked and emotion gets involved, it will complicate things. 

I might update this cuz we never know if my boy is going to drop that mn woman cold or he is gonna slide into her DM later down the line.

It sounds almost like you and your friend take pride in using women for sex with no regard for the pain that you cause.  How sad.  If that was your daughter that was used by someone like you or your friend, how would you feel then?  You'd still feel that women were disposable?  That they are nothing but things you can toy with?



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Re: Double standard does not live here in this aspect of the relationship
« Reply #18 on: June 02, 2020, 02:41:00 AM »
It sounds almost like you and your friend take pride in using women for sex with no regard for the pain that you cause.  How sad.  If that was your daughter that was used by someone like you or your friend, how would you feel then?  You'd still feel that women were disposable?  That they are nothing but things you can toy with?

Lay away from saying U when I'm sharing them news.

His father now has 2 wives.  He's hmong.  There you go. 

I'm viet.  As far as I can track my heritage on my bloodline, we don't marry 2.   There you go

I'm sharing the news so you can compare it with your life or rebel can compare it with her life.  Newbie in the game will be shell shocked.  This info is nothing new but can be avoidable. 



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Re: Double standard does not live here in this aspect of the relationship
« Reply #19 on: June 02, 2020, 03:34:32 AM »
It sounds almost like you and your friend take pride in using women for sex with no regard for the pain that you cause.  How sad.  If that was your daughter that was used by someone like you or your friend, how would you feel then?  You'd still feel that women were disposable?  That they are nothing but things you can toy with?

It may sound harsh to hear I know but you women needs to hear it from the side that will never tell you the tale of many lies.  Just like a political party, we must take a stance to one side right?  Women should be for women and men, well, I don't like men either.   :2funny:

Lets say you are both friends of the guy and the girl, which sides do you stand?  Since I'm in the guy's side, of course by natural order, I am gonna back him up.  I do not like what he does and I think it is absolutely wrong to waste people times and toy with people's emotion.  IF you break it down on a lower scale as in division, which would I rather for him to do it upon?  If he does this to an innocent girl who never been married then that I will 100% reject right away.  Poor girl will end up being so damaged in the mind that she might ended up being promiscuous and ruin her life.  Wasting the time of the nonsense is just cot dayam wrong.  Since he does it to you divorcee women, you guys can take it cuz this is not your first rodeo and everyone is collateral damage. 

The game sux but it is still a game nonetheless hence why I looked at the title of this thread and I will continue to say that double standards do not play too well here.   Men will walk away a winner with no title or label and poor girl will be label as a slut. 

I'm glad you mentioned the notion that what if it was your daughter or someone in your family?  Well, with that, I will say the same thing and hope they will catch on early.  I'll preach more about it in the next post. 



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Re: Double standard does not live here in this aspect of the relationship
« Reply #20 on: June 02, 2020, 03:42:33 AM »
Throughout the history of mankind, men have gone on a destruction mode over one thing and that one thing is a woman's vagina.   Death because of a vagina they calling it.   :2funny:

It is actually true.  All relationship that started out prior to sex, the men seem like they are at their top notch.  To impress and to show off what he got and doing whatever necessary to get to her vagina.  IF this is true then you women should hold onto your vagina till he has spent over a million bucks on you.  IT is the only way for you women to win at this game.  Your secret weapon is your vagina so why give it away over a 99 cents cheeseburger date? 

Maybe perhaps this is why the Christian side be teaching about abstinence until marriage.  After he gets sex, he's going nowhere because he is now married to the chick.   The teaching is there but it is so hard to apply.  Blessed are those who knows the formula to win at this game.   O0




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Re: Double standard does not live here in this aspect of the relationship
« Reply #21 on: June 15, 2020, 09:52:05 AM »
Well, the guy in this story made up with his wife.  Everything seems to be ok now.

He knows that I'm heading over to mn for the j4 holiday festivity and you know what he did?  He took days off in corresponding to my trip over there.  That mean he's gonna fly over there too and uses me as a deflection and tell his wife that he's with me.  Cot dayam this fool. 

Since I'm over there and he's living with his second honey, he's gonna call me up and I'll run to him and I will get to party with this mistress of his.  Guess what?  She has a sister.  Her oldest daughter is 27 years old. 

I'm not jumping to conclusion but you know j4 makes people wants to do a fling with a mysterious person from out of the ways. 

Together, we pray   :2funny:



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Re: Double standard does not live here in this aspect of the relationship
« Reply #22 on: June 15, 2020, 09:59:15 AM »
I gotta share the age group of all participants.

He's in his early 40s.  She's in her early 40s

He got 2 kids, the oldest is in college
She got unknown kids but the oldest is 27 years old woman

His father and his mother lives together.  His father already married that thailand hmong chick and is waiting to bringing her over. 

Here's the kicker.  His father's hmong 2nd wife is younger than this salon mn chick.   I'm like quat the fawk?   :2funny:




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Re: Double standard does not live here in this aspect of the relationship
« Reply #23 on: June 15, 2020, 11:41:58 AM »
Duma, your friend is a jerk indeed.  He has no respects for his marriage and no love for his wife.  I don't think this is the first time nor will it be his last.  Deep down he's a miserable human being, an empty shell.

When people married someone they love, they wouldn't have eyes for anyone else.  They wouldn't.



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Re: Double standard does not live here in this aspect of the relationship
« Reply #24 on: June 15, 2020, 03:23:10 PM »
Duma, your friend is a jerk indeed.  He has no respects for his marriage and no love for his wife.  I don't think this is the first time nor will it be his last.  Deep down he's a miserable human being, an empty shell.

When people married someone they love, they wouldn't have eyes for anyone else.  They wouldn't.

I agree but as a friend, what to do?  I can  not change a grown man's behavior.  It is like having a trouble child, they are still your child regardless. 

Maybe this is the answer.  He's not legally married to her but only married the hmong way.  This maybe the reason why he's straying cuz nothing really binds or ties with this guy.  If I know him correctly, he doesn't know his wife all too well.  Meet at the fresno new year and dated for a few months and girl got knocked up and marriage is next.

If this plot sounds all too familiar, I betcha it is. 




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« Reply #25 on: June 16, 2020, 01:11:58 PM »
Well I did some thinking.  Imagine this. 

I'm going to mn for the j4 right?  My friend is going and is going to dorm with his mistress.  He is going to call me up when they open up a house party.   Wouldn't it be great if I give you guys the address and we all show up to this party?  You greet me at the door and you come in as my guest and you get to see my buddy and his mistress and all this life drama unfolds right in front of your eyes. 

Then again, we got covid.  We can't be partying like this but it is a risky chance we are taking.  This party is going to be lit though.   :2funny:



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« Reply #26 on: June 27, 2020, 10:25:51 AM »
Well my friend is still talking to his mn girl.  Was at the house party yesterday and we lost him and I went looking for him and caught him in a dark corner, talking to his mn girl.  It is all good, I'm not hating on a man's game but still though, the dude almost got caught up and he stills held onto the poison that almost destroyed his life. 

It is ok if he talks to her which I think it is safe for him to do so.  Well this coming weekend, I'll be in mn and I asked dude if he already bought his ticket.  He said no and said $700 last minute flight ticket.  I said to ask her to pay half.  He said he is unsure but his PTO are in though. 

I think the guy is yellowing out.  He escaped 2 missions being missing in action person from his wife so he's laying low for the time being.  I helped him look for the cheapest flight out and it drops down to $400, flying out with me.  The guy still chickened out but who  knows.  This guy can buy next day flight if he has that itch. 

So I'll be by myself in mn.  However, he did gave me a number to a mai xiong, skinny chick but with jacked up teeth.  My other friend that is not in this whole charade already talked to her but they never met or seen each other pix.  All I heard was them holding hands when we were all down in vegas trip before this whole covid situation that made people cancelled their vacation plans.  Well he told me to hit her up and pretend that I'm the other buddy, reciting that we were suppose to meet up in vegas and blah blah blah. 

I'm like quat the fawk?  Isn't this dirty?  I mean technically, it is fair game because both parties stopped talking to one another but still though, I wouldn't stoop that low, would I?  Would I be that bored in mn that I have to resort to this tactic? 

Well, I said I do not want that number but he texted me her number already.  Tmobile just gave me a free line to my account and I added an old phone to that number and if I'm the same cat as before, I'll go there, have fun and break the poor girl's heart by not being able to love her like my friend that is cheating on his wife.  This skinny chick and my friend's salon girl are buddies.  I seriously do not want to get involved in the mix.  I got 1 week to chat her up through text and what not and I can surprise her when I'm in mn and well, you know how the story goes. 

Only thing my buddy wants out of this is to tell him how good that azz was.  Some men are pigs you know?  If only you can hear what they be talking as in locker room talks about women.

I'm cursed like a good guy got caught up on the wrong side of things.  I'm just an accessory to sin, guilty by association and a victim of circumstances.  The biggest difference between all of my hmong friends is that I'm not married or the chain is lock to my ankles.  If I do what they are doing, it would be considered as being normal.  If they do it, they are called cheating bastards. 

I know one thing for sure.  Once I'm married, I'm not doing anything they are doing though.  I've been there, the guy who got cheated on and it hurts thus why I'm soft these days.  I don't want any girl to get hurt over my playful accounts.  It is wrong and it is wasting their time cuz I'm just an actor and that's all I know how to do is acting.  IT sux to be me sometimes. 




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« Reply #27 on: June 28, 2020, 05:58:43 PM »
Geez, Duma.  You're so immature, yet, mature at the same time.  Lol. 

And, hey, teeth can be fixed, OK.  ;D It's not like you're broke.  If you guys meet up and there is chemistry, make her your Hmong wife.  O0  How long have you said you are ready to settle down now?  :P

Anyway, on behalf of all Minnesotans, welcome to MN (when you get here) and enjoy your stay.  It's a really beautiful time here in the land of 10,000 lakes.  The lakes and streams and hiking trails are gorgeous this time of year!  Enjoy your visit with your uncle and make it memorable.  Hope you have lots of fun while in MN.  Oh, also, before you get together with any girl, make sure you ask her, "Have you been responsible?  Have you worn your mask?  Have you been washing your hands for 20 seconds?"  O0 ;D



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« Reply #28 on: June 29, 2020, 02:44:01 AM »
Geez, Duma.  You're so immature, yet, mature at the same time.  Lol. 

And, hey, teeth can be fixed, OK.  ;D It's not like you're broke.  If you guys meet up and there is chemistry, make her your Hmong wife.  O0  How long have you said you are ready to settle down now?  :P

Anyway, on behalf of all Minnesotans, welcome to MN (when you get here) and enjoy your stay.  It's a really beautiful time here in the land of 10,000 lakes.  The lakes and streams and hiking trails are gorgeous this time of year!  Enjoy your visit with your uncle and make it memorable.  Hope you have lots of fun while in MN.  Oh, also, before you get together with any girl, make sure you ask her, "Have you been responsible?  Have you worn your mask?  Have you been washing your hands for 20 seconds?"  O0 ;D

I've been away from mn for at least 7 years already and that is on purpose.  All them other times, oh boy, where do I begin?  The land of 10,000 lakes to them is also the land of 10,000 hmong dates for me.   :2funny:

I'm safe to go now since covid closes down them bars and clubs.  I'm like, without my kind of entertainment, why would I want to venture into mn for?  Well for starters, my uncle is 90 years old and there might not be next year for him.  His daughter is getting married the week after j4.  I don't feel like breaking hearts so I'll lay low in mn when I get there.  It used to be like this.  The first weekend, I would get a hmong chick number and follow through with it.  By next weekend, we would be so close that it is contagiously ridiculous.  By the following weekend, I'll be back in cali and she would of gotten ghosted.  It is hard to keep in touch and this long distance relationship thing is something I have failed so many times over so no, it is not working for me.  Hell no she's coming to cali and I would take care of her.  Hell no I'm leaving my friends and jobs and family just to move to mn for good.  I have thought it over so many times and non gave me the answer I am searching for. 

Regarding that hook up number by my friend, it is an absolutely no go.  Had he would of gone with me, I'll meet up for a few giggles but no love connection, I'll guaranteed that.  It is not because of her jacked up teeth, that's shady.  It is because of what I have said above.  The love is not true, why even start? 

Settling down like in having kids and play house?  I'm 10 years overdue and I am already ready, ready.  I love children and I love other people's children.  Playing house is fun and settling down is an option.  I do think about it but sometimes, it is out of your control.  I go with the flow and wherever it leads me, I'll take it.  I'll go ask my 90 years old uncle for advice before he croaks.  Maybe he has my answers.   :2funny:



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