When I was still married, I never considered myself nor did I take pride in thinking I was a cougar/MILF. I was too busy raising my kids and trying to be a good mother/wife/daughter-in-law.
You are living in the world of conservative time where American Hmong ladies marry after/during college, go find a job, have kids and provide for the family. Ofc Cheating considered taboo.
If a woman is married, why would she think of herself as a cougar or MILF? I guess, maybe she would if she wasn't happy in her marriage and she was trying to look good to entice someone else other than her husband? But if that were the case then she shouldn't stay married.
Something like that. lol It's double standard. What if she really wants some companionship and romance from her spouse. She didn't get any of that though. What if she realized her hubby were working late and flirting with his female coworkers out of curiosity. Ain't that considered unfair. E.g. the case of President Clinton and Monica Lewisky. Hilary Clinton didn't get any love from Bill.