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Offline Visualmon

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Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"
« Reply #15 on: February 14, 2021, 03:39:11 AM »
I'd wouldn't be surprise if you're just another flaker who never comes through...haha I was hoping someone has a better response than mines for our dear friend Lily...She deserves a much better response than mines....hahah a so don't flake out on her now...lols



Didn't know you're uncivilized. Plz don't use her as a shield to upgrade your ego. There's nothing wrong with expressing my opinions. Everyone in PH are doing the same thing, hanging around as long as he/she ain't responding back. Am I right?   ;D :D



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Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"
« Reply #16 on: February 14, 2021, 07:44:48 AM »
okay, we'll be nice and patient as long as you promise you will give us a lesson of enlightment... .I mean you disagree with me, so I desevre a argument....bu t I'm gonna give you the benefit of doubt that you have something powerful and life changing  to say, if you are going to leave us hanging on purpose like this.... 8)



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Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"
« Reply #17 on: February 14, 2021, 10:15:02 AM »
Trying to understand the psychology of men and women. 

MEN: How do you know if a woman is "the one" for you long-term?  Or, do most of you just "settle," even though she doesn't have all and everything that you truly want?  What are the "must haves" that qualify her to be "the one" for you?  Be really honest.

WOMEN: How do you know if a man is "the one" for you long-term?  Or, do most of you just "settle," even though he doesn't have all and everything that you truly want?  What are the "must haves" that qualify him to be "the one" for you?  Be really honest.

I don't believe there's "the one" in the sense that there's only one person we are meant to be with. I personally believe there are many people out there who we are compatible with. It's just a matter of timing and dedication/commitment.

I don't think of it has must haves, but rather if our lives fit together. No person is going to be perfect. The question is whether or not you are willing to put up with what you see as the other person's faults.




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Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"
« Reply #18 on: February 14, 2021, 08:34:53 PM »
still nothing? Visual, I expect a 3 page damn essay now man, not no article...nobo dy challenges me and get away without a argument...lol s j/k yo...I know man, I already know why you disagree...it had nothing to do with agreeing or not agreeing...i see how you roll now...haha



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Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"
« Reply #19 on: February 15, 2021, 09:53:07 AM »
We don't go into a relationship and say yep, this is the one. 

What usually happens is we gave each other a try and it usually takes one sides do the convincing as there is a viet phrase that goes  "bang long di em"  (google it if you want to fancy yourself) which translate by the guy pursuing,  please give in and give me a chance. 

Then the amazing thing happens.  You wasted your time getting comfortable with one another and before you know it, you will have to marry one another.  There you go, your one.....to some, your one for now   :2funny:

It is very rare that both party is happy to be with one another.  So if you do not fall into this category then you fall into the other category and with that, I shall ask you again.  Honestly now, do you really really think that the one you married is the one?  The short answer is no but comes with a rebuttable... "so what choices do I have"???   You guys are now married, have kids and are now stuck with one another.  Go make it work.

Well I got an update with the story of my hmong friend with that salon mn mistress.  I gotta go find that thread to entertain yall some more. 




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Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"
« Reply #20 on: February 20, 2021, 10:18:13 PM »
one has to give in, but even that will eventually lead to the end..haha only way for a couple to last is for both to beat its expiration date..haha that's just my pholosphy...th e law of the universe says, everything must come to a end..every relationship has a expiration date..so make sure you choose a toyota or something and maintain it well...lols



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Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"
« Reply #21 on: February 21, 2021, 05:52:35 AM »
The list of "the one" is full of nuances and subtleties that the ouroboros of life itself is a chicken egg theory in complexity of self reflection. 

I myself prefer the simplicity of "choice" and the 'freewill' of making that choice.  That in my self integrity of being a person of my word.  It's like fishing.  I can choose to go on my day off or not to go.  I cannot choose the weather.  I cannot choose if I'm feeling sick that day.  I cannot choose if my car breaks down.

I can choose to be happy and content with what I have.  I cannot have that other person make those choices for me.  I can choose the moment to be.  I cannot choose if the next moment will be.

Most important of all is having someone to share a life with.  If that "one" is not available, it's still life goes on. 



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Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"
« Reply #22 on: February 22, 2021, 11:42:56 AM »
OK, let's simplify ;D ;D ;D the ONE is the one that loves you and you love back.  End of story. :D :D



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Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"
« Reply #23 on: March 01, 2021, 11:31:48 PM »
OK, let's simplify ;D ;D ;D the ONE is the one that loves you and you love back.  End of story. :D :D

love is a magical thing..hell yeaah..haha



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Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"
« Reply #24 on: March 06, 2021, 12:55:24 PM »
Let me let you know what I am doing right now.  I been looking for the one for so long and every single one of them are not the one.  So if you are actively looking and can not find it, why not add some psychology into it shall we? 

How about if I go out there and looking for the wrong one instead?  Would that weed out the reverse negative and lead me to the one?  Looks good on paper huh? 

I will look for all the wrong ones and within that group, from wrong to right cuz she's special cuz she proves me wrong.   O0



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Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"
« Reply #25 on: March 24, 2021, 01:29:06 AM »
Yeah, I'm still looking for that "one" perfect fishing rod combo.  :2funny:



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Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"
« Reply #26 on: April 04, 2021, 03:27:40 AM »
I found that having similar values, being able to connect on a mental level and carry conversations effortlessly was the key for me. What’s important is being able to connect emotionally first, then sexual chemistry will work into that as icing on top.



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Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"
« Reply #27 on: April 06, 2021, 09:20:56 PM »
How do i know my husband is the one.   He asked me to move in with him 730 times  2 straight years. 😂😂😂😂   



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Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"
« Reply #28 on: April 07, 2021, 03:12:11 PM »
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How do i know my husband is the one.   He asked me to move in with him 730 times  2 straight years. 😂😂😂😂

Did you keep a little notebook with little chicken scratches in groups of fives?  ;D



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Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"
« Reply #29 on: April 07, 2021, 03:16:53 PM »
I found that having similar values, being able to connect on a mental level and carry conversations effortlessly was the key for me. What’s important is being able to connect emotionally first, then sexual chemistry will work into that as icing on top.

True,

As long as they ain't the one lying conning manipulator, etc.,..   :knuppel2:  I've been tricked before and again and again...



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