I prefer the husband lead and set the expectations for the family, especially when it comes to raising children. After all, isn't that why I'm taking on
his last name and marrying into
his clan?
Aren't these kids
his seeds? Fathers should be very clear about how they want their children to behave and what kind of adults they'll become. Mothers reinforce the expectations and nurture the children to meet those expectations.
Why bring home a wife and have her give you children if you aren't prepared to lead your family?