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Who should be the head of the family (husband or wife)?
« on: September 02, 2021, 02:49:16 PM »
Even with modern thoughts where gender equality and a good balance of 50/50 between the wife and the husband are valued, do you still summarize in the end, that the man should be the head of the family?  Or, do you think it should be the woman?  Or do you think both should be the head?



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Re: Who should be the head of the family (husband or wife)?
« Reply #1 on: September 02, 2021, 03:07:30 PM »
I think it should be 50/50 in general.  There are areas where the husband is stronger and areas where the wife is stronger.  Each should take charge in the areas where they are stronger.

For myself, I would personally prefer for him to be the head when it comes to leading in physical strength and being the defender for the family.  I don't want those roles.  When it comes to making tough decisions, though, we should both lead.  When it comes to creating warmth for and in the family, the wife could take charge because women are generally more gentle and loving.  But generally speaking, it's attractive to me when my s/o is intelligent, capable of leading and protecting and providing for the family.



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Re: Who should be the head of the family (husband or wife)?
« Reply #2 on: September 02, 2021, 03:13:47 PM »
Depends on the culture.  In the Hmong culture, it's still the man even if the woman/wife is 10x smarter, capable, etc.. she's still define by how she treats her husband as the head of the household.

But I'm starting to see Hmong men supporting their women/giving them voices.  Very nice!



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Re: Who should be the head of the family (husband or wife)?
« Reply #3 on: September 02, 2021, 03:39:01 PM »
Totally.  I see the same things as you do, Dok_Champa.  Hmong people still see the man as the head of the household.  A lot of other cultures think the same way too, that men are the head of the households.

For me, it's OK by me if he is the head of the family to the public.  He can be the spokesperson for the family as long as he is competent spokesperson.  ;D  If he is the head and the representative for the family, I don't mind massaging his feet.  LOL.  Because being the head is exhausting work.  But if I have to relieve him sometimes in being the head, that's fine too.  In the house though, I want us as equals.  We are both at the top of our household, and not one above the other.  But it does make me feel good to know that he is smarter, stronger, more capable than me.  LOL.  When the zombies come, I want him to carry me and our kids to safety.  I won't be able to do it.



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Re: Who should be the head of the family (husband or wife)?
« Reply #4 on: September 02, 2021, 03:57:33 PM »
Whoever wants the job title then go ahead.  Less work or stress for me cuz I wanna outlive her too  :2funny:



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Re: Who should be the head of the family (husband or wife)?
« Reply #5 on: September 02, 2021, 04:40:22 PM »
In our household, my wife and I are 50/50 across the board so both for us.



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Re: Who should be the head of the family (husband or wife)?
« Reply #6 on: September 02, 2021, 05:52:59 PM »
Should be equally share between the couples. I come from the world where men are kings and makes all final decisions but I donít follow that when I became a father and a husband.



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Re: Who should be the head of the family (husband or wife)?
« Reply #7 on: September 12, 2021, 01:46:50 AM »
The head of the household is the person who pays the taxes.   O0

Husband or wife, they are still more or less defined by their own personality.  Some people like to take charge of things, regardless if they are more or less capable of such.  Some people knows when they should lead and when to let others take the lead.

For those who wants to be leaders, they all think that the must be great leaders.  Yet the opposite is the most important trait of being a leader.  It's to be a great follower.  Such a concept that's only known by true leaders.  Yet that is why often they don't lead at all.



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