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Life After Divorce
« on: September 24, 2021, 03:42:02 PM »
What's the biggest challenge you encounter after a divorce?



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Re: Life After Divorce
« Reply #1 on: September 24, 2021, 06:50:23 PM »
Biggest challenge for me was hiding the fact that I was barely floating financially in trying to provide for her during high school and college years and our life styles. I was determined to keep everything the same as a single dad.



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Re: Life After Divorce
« Reply #2 on: September 27, 2021, 12:17:23 AM »
Um...going separate ways, divorce should mean that they are out of your life.  How untrue.   >:( 

Why they keep coming back to pester ya... :idiot2:



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Re: Life After Divorce
« Reply #3 on: September 27, 2021, 09:30:34 AM »
The biggest challenge after a divorce for me is, my kids not having both their mom and dad in the same house.  That's it.  Other than that, so much better without him than with him.



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Re: Life After Divorce
« Reply #4 on: September 27, 2021, 12:13:13 PM »
If you two got kids together, you’re gonna be with each other on non-romantic and bitter terms for life.

Um...going separate ways, divorce should mean that they are out of your life.  How untrue.   >:( 

Why they keep coming back to pester ya... :idiot2:



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Re: Life After Divorce
« Reply #5 on: September 27, 2021, 12:13:55 PM »
I don’t have kids, so I don’t feel this challenge.



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Re: Life After Divorce
« Reply #6 on: September 27, 2021, 01:06:12 PM »
I don’t have kids, so I don’t feel this challenge.

You can pretend by answering the question and can learn from all of these divorcees just in case you do ended up being a statistic.

Hardest part for me and so I think is the friendship and family ties.  Like my hmong boy that left umm I mean ghosted his wife and kids and family and friends and moved in with his mistress in MN.  I'm tied to his friends and family so with him out of the picture, I got no balls to be seen with them and I hope I do not have to run into them in public either.  I don't even know what to say if I see his ghosted wife (they married hmong way not legal way).  Her side of the family, I dipped my bread into their meal and house partied with them.  All that ended after my boy left. 

This is typically true during a break up.  You keep your friends and they keep theirs and you both go on your separate ways.  Now it would be extra hard if your BFF is your ex's brother or sister.  I'm sure they are cool with it but lingering around a sibling of an ex is like dancing around a burning fire.  I'm sure they know the well being of the ex and it is best if you do not know about their well being so that you can move on for your closure.  If they do come up and make you feel small on purpose and rub it all in your face, I'm sure that mental health will not be good for you.  It is better not to know and how can't you not know if you continues to hang around the ex's siblings?  Then of course, if that is intentionally done because you want your ex back then you are the one with the mental health issue.   :2funny:






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Re: Life After Divorce
« Reply #7 on: September 28, 2021, 12:51:13 PM »
I'm thinking.... some challenges:

*Getting pass those gossips from people, the good, the bad, and the ugly
*Yes, financial
*coping w/ pain/loss/heartbreaks
*moving forward
*loneliness
*getting rid of unwanted attention from the opposite sex
*finding yourself again/be happy
*finding love/deserving love once more, if such exist

Hmmm....must be hard...one of the hardest thing in life...




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Re: Life After Divorce
« Reply #8 on: September 28, 2021, 02:36:16 PM »
This isn't a challenge for men at all.  We welcome all wanted and unwanted attention from women.

I'm thinking.... some challenges:

*Getting pass those gossips from people, the good, the bad, and the ugly
*Yes, financial
*coping w/ pain/loss/heartbreaks
*moving forward
*loneliness
*getting rid of unwanted attention from the opposite sex
*finding yourself again/be happy
*finding love/deserving love once more, if such exist

Hmmm....must be hard...one of the hardest thing in life...



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Re: Life After Divorce
« Reply #9 on: September 29, 2021, 09:22:23 AM »
This isn't a challenge for men at all.  We welcome all wanted and unwanted attention from women.
It's opposite for women and why is that for men?  I think I know but enlighten me.



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« Reply #10 on: September 29, 2021, 01:54:57 PM »
I don't think every woman agrees with you. Many women want attention, too. Just not all.

Why is it so for men? Hey, we rarely get any attention. Women expect us to give them all of the attention, do all of the courting and they just
sit pretty waiting. It's not easy work. Now, if that turns around and the attention is given to us, we love having it.

That's what it is for me. For other men, there's one other reason. But I don't care to put that out.

It's opposite for women and why is that for men?  I think I know but enlighten me.


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Re: Life After Divorce
« Reply #11 on: September 29, 2021, 02:08:59 PM »
It's opposite for women and why is that for men?  I think I know but enlighten me.

Maybe it is the wrong intention or attention coming from a guy who is gonna prey on a divorcee.  Divorcee = desperate second class citizen.  She better do what I say because she is damaged good and her stock is not the same as a gal who is never married.  You can see them all up in them hmong clubs trying to party like they are desperate for a man and compete with the singles.  They are more feistier when it comes to their raging hormones.  The term MILF and cougar were made for a reason and she is playing reckless because she is doing it in spite of the ex. 

Double standards so yeah the world is still evil.   :2funny:




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Re: Life After Divorce
« Reply #12 on: September 29, 2021, 02:11:59 PM »
I don't think every woman agrees with you. Many women want attention, too. Just not all.

Why is it so for men? Hey, we rarely get any attention. Women expect us to give them all of the attention, do all of the courting and they just
sit pretty waiting. It's not easy work. Now, if that turns around and the attention are given to us, we love having it.

That's what it is for me. For other men, there's one other reason. But I don't care to put that out.

see, if you live your life with not having the attention because you are ugly then sure I get it so when you do get that one attention from a gal, you gonna cherish her like gold. 

something like that and the world is still evil.   :2funny:



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Re: Life After Divorce
« Reply #13 on: September 29, 2021, 03:25:37 PM »
IF as a divorcee, I'm heading into hiding except show up in here  ;D ;D :D :D



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Re: Life After Divorce
« Reply #14 on: September 29, 2021, 04:19:11 PM »
From my experience, I'm under the impression that people vary in their likings.  So, some will hide; some will make themselves available and even seek attention; some will take all kinds of attention.



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