It all depending on where you are at in your life cuz really now, why do beggars have a choice?
One can also say that you are not man enough to deal with situation like this. Premature boys shouldn't play the grown man's game. You shouldn't get in where you don't fit in. What love got to do with a little bit of condition like she has to be a widow and making sure that the other man is not in the picture?
If you are a real man, you can take on all conditions. Her kids still needs their biological father so he's gonna be hanging around you guys for some times. If you feel threaten by this other so called "other" man then maybe you should check your insecurity.
Now before you go after me for saying all of these things, let me share you with my own personal view.
What I say must also applies with me as well. Divorcee do get a bad rep when it comes to the dating playing field and I get that but is it possible for a never been married guy to learn how to love a divorcee? Possible, but it all depends on his game plan as well. Some play for fun and some play for keeps. I need to question those who plays for real for I think they are playing immaturely and not knowing what they are getting themselves into. I can easily talk them out of it or making them have doubts.
I'm not a real man though. I play for fun first and I let her decides how she wants to take this. If one of my red flag is for her to linger around the ex then I don't need to waste my time with her anymore. She got issues of her own and perhaps, maybe, she can catch an immature guy who doesn't know any better and con him to be the father of her kids while she still has a relationship with the baby daddy.
The youthful in me used to shy away from divorcee women but the older in me has opened up to some divorcee if them red flags are not met so if you see me with a divorcee, your first thought is that I'm playing the field for fun and you may be right. Realistically speaking, she may playing the fields as well as she is not ready to look for a new daddy for her kids. It goes both ways too you know?