Hardest thing people face when go through divorce..

[Reporter]

I would be so heart-broken if my child calls another man "daddy" and forgets that I was her dad.

Good that your daughter seems to know things a bit now.

She’s not exactly 5 so there won’t be any of that lol

[ProudLao]

I would be so heart-broken if my child calls another man "daddy" and forgets that I was her dad.

Good that your daughter seems to know things a bit now.

I feel you on that one. Depending on the age and status of the parent. If you’re a deadbeat kind, the young kids will call someone else dad.

[DuMa]

I feel you on that one. Depending on the age and status of the parent. If you’re a deadbeat kind, the young kids will call someone else dad.

If the kids are still too young, pop into their life by having them calling you uncle.  Saw it them movies before

[ProudLao]

That’s more appropriate. Than there are those who adopted the kids, do they call them daddy?

[Reporter]

My child will never leave my care. If I got a child with a girlfriend, I'm fighting to keep that child. To do that, I suppose I'll have to keep the girlfriend, too.

It's good not to have any child with a woman who won't stick around.

I feel you on that one. Depending on the age and status of the parent. If you’re a deadbeat kind, the young kids will call someone else dad.

[theking]

I feel you on that one. Depending on the age and status of the parent. If you’re a deadbeat kind, the young kids will call someone else dad.

In the Hmong culture, children are taught to call their step-parents, "mother" and "father"...

Unlike in this western culture where kids can choose to call their step-parents by their first names...

[ProudLao]

In the Hmong culture, children are taught to call their step-parents, "mother" and "father"...

Unlike in this western culture where kids can choose to call their step-parents by their first names...

No matter what age? I think it’s changing now. I would not expect anyone to call me dad if they are not my child.

[ProudLao]

My child will never leave my care. If I got a child with a girlfriend, I'm fighting to keep that child. To do that, I suppose I'll have to keep the girlfriend, too.

It's good not to have any child with a woman who won't stick around.

If she does t want to keep you than it’s another story lol out of your control.

[Reporter]

That's why I want to know my woman before I give her a child...Can't just give a child to any woman out there, even if she's extremely hot.

If she does t want to keep you than it’s another story lol out of your control.

[ProudLao]

Even if she promised you to never leave, that isn’t a guarantee. We’re human and human change their mind. People fall out of love all the time.

[theking]

No matter what age? I think it’s changing now. I would not expect anyone to call me dad if they are not my child.

Yep, I remembered posting on PH about someone that's uncomfortable calling his step-mom, "mom" because she's actually a little younger than him when his dad went to Laos and brought her back to the states...

But if he doesn't call her mom then it's treated as disrespecting his dad...by many in the Hmong community.

[theking]

Even if she promised you to never leave, that isn’t a guarantee. We’re human and human change their mind. People fall out of love all the time.

True, nothing is "guarantee" in life except death. We are all going to die, it's just a matter of when and how...

[Reporter]

Yeah. But other guys don’t mind other kids calling them dad if the guys married those kids’ moms.

No matter what age? I think it’s changing now. I would not expect anyone to call me dad if they are not my child.

[Reporter]

It’s not the promise I’m looking for, it’s something stronger.

Even if she promised you to never leave, that isn’t a guarantee. We’re human and human change their mind. People fall out of love all the time.

[Believe_N_Me]

What is the hardest thing you face when go through divorce?

for me it's the decision making. I have been single for over two months now and I wish I made this decision 10 years ago when I was in my 30s.

40s is a difficult age to be divorced. You're not old enough to not give a f*ck about dating again, and you're too old to start dating again. You also may have children between ages 5-20. That means you will be dealing with young children, teens, and young adults.

Sometimes it's more logical to stay married and push through. You may not be happy in love but you can learn to live parallel lives.

I guess it all depends on why you're divorcing.