Men Are Calling Out The Red Flags That All Women Who Date Men Should Know About, And It's Important
Men are sharing the subtle, often overlooked red flags that women who date men should watch out for — and some of the warning signs they mentioned might surprise you.
Here are some of the top-voted responses from users:
1."If you have to defend him with a phrase like, 'Oh, but when he’s just with me, it’s different' or 'But you don’t see him when he is nice…' Who he is when he’s at his worst is still the guy you’re dating…and if all your friends see or hear about is the worst? It’s not something they aren’t seeing; it’s something you aren’t recognizing."
—u/BruteSentiment
2."If he's 'getting out of a relationship' while trying to start one with you, you will never be sure when he begins one with someone else while still in one with you."
—u/xmagusx
3."If a man challenges a woman to keep up with him while drinking, it's a real possibility that man has intentions to take advantage of that woman."
—u/AlejoTheDuck
4."Disrespect disguised as jokes. Comedy can be a little hurtful, but an obvious insult followed by 'I was just joking!' is a coward's method to avoid confrontation."
—u/roygbiv45
5."If he says something offensive, then brushes off the offended person's retort by saying something along the lines of, 'Hey, I'm just being honest,' he's never going to apologize for anything unless he's getting something out of it... honestly."
—u/ImmortalFather
6."How much his mom controls his life."
—u/whiskeyporno420
7."Be careful of men who blame every failed relationship on the ex. Not only will you be the next bad story, but he likely doesn’t have accountability ."
—u/sexylegs0123456789
8."If his last girlfriend tries to earnestly warn you, she may actually be warning you."
9."Hundred percent, if you are feeling unwanted and unloved, and are thinking about breaking up, and then you try to bring it up, and all of a sudden, he starts being everything you wanted, only to go back to being distant and cold, you have yourself a love bomber. It's awful. The amount of people who fall for this is sad. Because some people just get caught in this vicious cycle, not knowing it's even happening."
—u/insanefox32
10."Someone who can’t accept your accomplishment s. Don’t be with someone who feels the need to compete with you or can’t accept that you’ve accomplished your goals. My wife is a doctor; I’m a ducking idiot! I asked her what made her want to marry me. She said, 'You took time to praise my accomplishment s and made me feel important — all while struggling yourself.'"
—u/olpopsadelphia
11."Lying for your approval. Had a couple sit down at my restaurant, and the guy kept loudly insisting that he would give extra tips while in front of his date. He said it again when he went up to the cashier to pay via Apple Pay. Forgot to sign the receipt until we told him to. Guy proceeded to rush out of the restaurant with his date yelling back about how much tip he so 'generously' gave. For an almost $60 dinner, the guy gave $2 in tip. I feel bad for his date."
—u/DeDuncanStuff
12."Guys who lie with the truth. Subtle art. But super dangerous. Example: Saying they'd never cheat on you with anyone currently at their job. New hires don't count. Or them saying I would never be interested in your best friend while I'm with you. But then you break up, and he's all for it."
—u/Nikorumm32
13."When I worked at KFC, there was a girl whose boyfriend would stay parked outside the door during her entire shift. That is not something I've seen commonly, and it's a HUGE red flag."
—u/LobotomistPrime
14."Men that take kindness as weakness. All too common."
—u/delayedknee
15."What I call 'alpha intellectuals' — those who have to constantly show how intelligent they are, how they are the most knowledgeable on a subject, and they always have to be right. It’s like their identity depends on people recognizing they are smart."
—u/jfdonohoe
16."Inability to apologize."
—u/pm_meurbewbs_nbutts
17."Immediately shutting down when you try to discuss anything 'deep' or potentially problematic in the relationship."
—u/chethedestroyer
18."If he is mean toward your pet, don't stay silent; your pet needs your protection. One of my friend's boyfriends was quite mean toward her bird. I don't know how she tolerated him. I would never let anyone mistreat my pet."
—u/suvenpen
19."Temper and inability to control it."
—u/CalabreseAlsatian
20."Angry drunk."
—u/sasquatchii
21."Lack of intellectual curiosity. They don't need to be super-smart, but they should be interested in the world around them, in ideas, and most of all, in you."
—u/NEYO8uw11qgD0J
22."Dudes who try to humiliate other dudes in front of women. Also, related: dudes who backstab and talk shit about other dudes to look better in front of women."
—u/halfmeasures611
23."Being obsessed with being an 'alpha male' and calling all other men they don’t like, or who don't fit their view of a man, 'beta males.' Some people just say stuff like that as a joke, but I’ve noticed a lot of insecure men start basing their entire personality and worldview around it."
—u/DragoerChampion
24."If their personality changes after the first few months, and you start to feel like you are walking on eggshells most days, there is a good chance they have masked who they really are and were only being who they thought you wanted them to be. This can be a sign of an emotional abuser, and you will hold on to 'the true them,' believing they are just going through something and you can bring them back to how it was. You can't. Run."
—u/blue_peppercorn
25."Someone who is unable to joke about themselves."
—u/robby7345
26."Doesn't know when to stop or how to respect your boundaries. This doesn't have to be physical, but also emotional. I know a guy (I'm a dude) who, when he teases his ex, it goes from teasing to downright abusive. Even when she's telling him to stop and close to tears."
—u/stoopidee
27."Making fun of others on the first date. Harmless pokes at others are okay, but only if they are unaware of the jokes. If he is not discreet, it possibly shows his disrespect for others."
—u/webslinger66
28."An inability to be just friends with women. If a guy has good friends who are women who they don’t want to date or have anything romantic with, it shows that he sees women beyond just romantic prospects and cannot only be a great romantic partner, but an overall good partner in life as a whole."
—u/apple-steve
29."This goes for all genders really, but anyone who thinks they have the right to 'punish' you for perceived wrongdoings is a waste of time IMO. That's not how equals resolve issues."
—u/KrtekJim
30."Anyone who keeps saying they are a nice or good person."
—u/mannersmakethdaman
31."Well I hope it’s uncommon…but if he can’t handle a conversation about your period, or can’t go buy you pads or tampons, he is ignorant of basic biology and not a fully-functioning adult male. Not saying it’s a dealbreaker; maybe you can educate him. But if not, big red flag for a serious longterm relationship or marriage."
—u/thesugarat
32."How they treat staff in shops and restaurants (and generally how they interact with strangers). How they respond to something you like, but they don't."
—u/albatraous
And finally...
33."If they say, 'You are way too good for me...I don't deserve you.' 90% of the time, they are telling the truth because they know something about themselves that they don't want you to find out. So believe them!! Sneaky, sneaky."
—u/madeofstardust2
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