This why we were on the fence for a couple of years, folks gotta think about the

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..big upfront investment so don't just have kids because others are or because you're told to  :

Soccer stars Ali Krieger and Ashlyn Harris open up about adoption, motherhood and high standards: 'I don't cut corners as a mom. I don't cut corners as an athlete'

These two years as parents have taught them that raising children isn’t for the fainthearted. Both women — who until Harris's recent retirement, both played for Gotham FC — have balanced a packed schedule full of public appearances, brand partnerships and the grueling work on and off the field that comes with being star athletes.

“It's tough being a mom. It's the hardest job we've ever had because we hold each other and ourselves to such a high standard. We want to be the best at everything. So we want to be the most elite moms, the most elite athlete, and everything,” says Krieger. “Just having that energy to be present in the home and give our kids everything we have after we come home from work and in the mornings, setting up the day for success.”