How far does physical attraction go?

[Reporter]

Physical attraction starts the initial curiosity and people start
getting to know one another from there. 

But will that alone keep the relationship?

Can you live with a very beautiful woman forever if
there's nothing more to her?

Can you live with a very handsome man forever if
there's nothing more to him?

I think that at some point someone has to be or
do more than just having a model look.

[ProudLao]

Looks alone will not cut it for women. Some men can probably get by with just looks.

[Reporter]

Hm…

[DuMa]

You have to be honest with yourself when you settle.  You can make a bad choice when settling and that's fine but you will have to be loyal to your decision making.  Loyalty is where you will find that coin phrase "unconditional love" 

I have a friend that only dates women with a pretty face. That is his only requirement.  So she can be fat and dumb or any other race, as long as her face is pretty, he'll give her a chance.  Looks fades with age.  It is the usual.  However, there also the group of women who just gets prettier by the years.  It is like they are late bloomers and once they know or learn how to prep themselves, they get prettier.  Sort of like if you marry an MTT and in America, she learned from social media on how to wear clothing or how to groom herself and how to look just like your American born women.  I hope she's loyal though cuz there's a saying that once your MTT women knows how to be an American and if she is not loyal, she figures out that she can survive in the Americas without you.  She is now powerful, a diva and she goes for what she wants and that includes other handsome men.  This is why some men who married fobby MTT will not allow their oversea bought wives to get a driver license or even work.  They just keep them dumb and MTT and be a housewife for better control.   

[Reporter]

Hm...

[Believe_N_Me]

Well if it's super important to him then he might as well put up with whatever her personality is. There are men out there who have gotten hurt by a pretty girl and then they date down, but are never truly happy. They just don't adore the new girlfriend quite as much. This is very unfair to her. Only a desperate woman with low self-worth would continue that relationship with him. Any decent woman who is attractive, smart, and values herself would move on.

However, some of these women who were considered very attractive when I was a kid are just old and fat now with tons of kids. 

At my sister's church there are two women who were highly sought out in their teens. However, if you told anybody that now, nobody would believe.  You'd think it was my sister, my sister-in-law, and some other ladies that were the popular girls because they look attractive - AND it's not like they were unattractive then either. But I guess some people just got more publicity back then. 

Same thing with men. Some just don't age well at all.

[hmgROCK]

<<<I’m pretty ugly in real life

I think looks don’t matter that much

I like good conversation
Just talking and listening to each others

[Reporter]

I see.

[P90xbox]

I use to have a g-f..very pretty..9.5 out of 10 I would say..lols...bu t.....she had zero sense of humor, wit, and really I'll just say it like it is...boring... eventhough I tried to act like the bad boy type, to see if I could get anything else besides a pretty face out of her..lols..I just told myself one day...I might as well, just get a sex doll.... j/k...

she was very nice...I'm sure with the right guy, she would be able to show her other sides of personalities. ..so to be fair, i think we just lacked compatibility, common ground, and i think we were kind of like in different pages in life at the time...or perhaps she had something to hide...because she was just a internet g-f...

but definitely, I personally will need more than just good looks..it's hard to describe other than the generic thing everyone says, humor, intelligence, wit, etc...a bond between two people is either there, or not...how strong, and how long the bond will continue..that's the tricky part..but to truly be honest to yourself and them is key to make the best gamble decision whether to invest, and risk time, energy, feelings with someone...

[Reporter]

If she was pretty and had other attributes, she would have been a 10+, right, P90xbox?

I'm serious. We need more than  just look to make a relationship long-lasting.

[Believe_N_Me]

To be a 10, you have to have enough of all the qualities. And beauty is natural, not all that extra fluff that can make anybody look good. For instance, that Chinese "April" makeup artist on Youtube is stunning in the "after" pics but meh as her natural self.

Same thing when it comes to my attraction to men. A 10 is someone who has enough of all the qualities.

[Believe_N_Me]

If she was pretty and had other attributes, she would have been a 10+, right, P90xbox?

I'm serious. We need more than just look to make a relationship long-lasting.

I'm serious too. What are those "needs"? 

How would you even keep such a woman with all the qualities that make a long-lasting relationship?

I've observed in the community, and you being an attorney whose handled divorces, I think you've noticed the same. Long-lasting marriages are kept intact by these good woman because they fear being shunned by the community. Better to have a lasting marriage than to be divorced. The husbands put very little effort. Maybe that's why they want a good woman who will do all the work.

A lot of men who have a good woman don't know how to keep the relationship and do very little to keep it going. Again, it's the good woman doing the work.

I'm starting to believe that men want a bad woman.

[Reporter]

I don't look for perfection anymore.  I'm learning to tolerate imperfection,
because I, too, am not perfect.

[Believe_N_Me]

I don't look for perfection anymore.  I'm learning to tolerate imperfection,
because I, too, am not perfect.

The elders call it, "xaiv xaiv tau paiv."

When I was growing up my brothers were picky and they had friends who were super picky. Many of them would only pursue girls whom they knew other men fantasized about/approved or had to have certain attributes, like height, education, specific clan, etc. etc.  It was a really big thing in my community, which is why a lot of girls here married out of state guys. The local men just thought they were too good.

[Believe_N_Me]

Personally, if the man I'm with isn't the most perfect and best for me then I won't even consider him. And if he doesn't feel and think the same about me then he doesn't deserve me.

Too many people getting into relationships of convenience and that's why there are so many breakups.