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Offline Believe_N_Me

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The Secret to a Long-lasting "Good" Marriage
« on: April 22, 2023, 02:20:14 PM »
I quoted "good" because there are long-lasting marriages where the husband or wife or both are miserable.

The secret is:

- Be a good person
- Be good to each other

If one or neither are a good person to begin with, then he/she/they have no ability to be good towards the other person.

My mom used to say if your highest aim is to be a responsible person who chooses to do the right thing, then you give no reason for your spouse to abandon the marriage.

True. Anybody who does sabotage the marriage to a good person is not a good person. For nobody who is good and wishes to have a good marriage would give up someone who is like-minded.



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Re: The Secret to a Long-lasting "Good" Marriage
« Reply #1 on: April 22, 2023, 07:32:15 PM »
That’s probably the nicest thing you say in here
I like to expand that out a little bit
And include be good to everyone

Especially the TRANS people that seem to be getting a ton of hate lately in this country



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Re: The Secret to a Long-lasting "Good" Marriage
« Reply #2 on: April 24, 2023, 05:49:45 PM »
Without love, it wouldn't be a good marriage even if the people are good.



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Re: The Secret to a Long-lasting "Good" Marriage
« Reply #3 on: April 24, 2023, 06:30:37 PM »
That’s probably the nicest thing you say in here
I like to expand that out a little bit
And include be good to everyone

Especially the TRANS people that seem to be getting a ton of hate lately in this country



If the world hates you, you know that it hated Me before it hated you“
-jesus of nazareth

Different stroke for different folks.  This guy here marries for support.  She makes the money and takes him to disneyland, all on her account. 

Live in your basement, someone has to pay for that basement as well.   His key to happiness.  Not my cup of tea but it works for this guy.  You ever seen him miserable and talking about his miserable relationship on here?   :2funny:



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Re: The Secret to a Long-lasting "Good" Marriage
« Reply #4 on: April 24, 2023, 06:33:33 PM »
Without love, it wouldn't be a good marriage even if the people are good.

You mean you got to be lucky to have the right combination at love.  Some people like myself fell in love more than 50 times already.  Even a squirrel can find a nut so maybe mine will be at #51 and I have to see the glass as half full always.  Doesn't bother me with them numbers though.  They all do not know what I'm worth. "Blessed be those who don't see but believed"  - bible verse  :2funny:



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Re: The Secret to a Long-lasting "Good" Marriage
« Reply #5 on: April 25, 2023, 11:41:14 AM »
How do we be "good"?



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Re: The Secret to a Long-lasting "Good" Marriage
« Reply #6 on: April 26, 2023, 10:46:34 PM »
How do we be "good"?

It starts with having a good heart.



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Re: The Secret to a Long-lasting "Good" Marriage
« Reply #7 on: April 26, 2023, 10:48:32 PM »
Without love, it wouldn't be a good marriage even if the people are good.

This is why I quoted the "good" part. It already includes love.



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Re: The Secret to a Long-lasting "Good" Marriage
« Reply #8 on: April 29, 2023, 02:45:26 PM »
It is getting harder and harder for a good person to meet and be with another good person. 



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Re: The Secret to a Long-lasting "Good" Marriage
« Reply #9 on: May 01, 2023, 11:26:56 AM »
Of course, it is harder to find a good person these days.




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Re: The Secret to a Long-lasting "Good" Marriage
« Reply #10 on: May 05, 2023, 12:42:04 AM »
Yes, it is very hard to find a good person indeed.



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Re: The Secret to a Long-lasting "Good" Marriage
« Reply #11 on: May 29, 2023, 05:26:40 AM »
- contribute towards financial stability
- don't cheat, gamble, develop addictions, the usual stuff that society normally deems as bad
- don't be a jerk to your spouse (don't name call, no physical abuse, mental abuse, emotional abuse, deceive, etc.)

Super easy, right? Wrong.



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