It's already bad enough that there are useless Hmong spouses, but a useless non-Hmong spouse?
There are very few who really chip in. theking's Chinese wife is not one of them.
The Hmong have very low expectations. They're just happy the non-Hmong spouse was willing to show up since most find Hmong customs very primitive. They feel very uncomfortable.
Hey, at least the non-Hmong spouses admit that they're useless. I'm not even criticizing them. But I know that it upsets theking because he's a son who should've married a Hmong girl who can carry out the customs.
When his mom dies, the daughter-in-laws are supposed to dress her in the Hmong clothes. Not sure theking's wife is willing to do this unless she is in the medical field and is comfortable being around a corpse.
Chinese wife will honor a Chinese husband's parents, but not so sure they feel the same obligation to a Hmong dude.