Again, if he's Hmong, no one would bat an eye?

[theking]

Our Son Is Going to Be a Teen Dad. We’re Debating the Terms of His Punishment.

I am incredibly disappointed in my son. He is 16 and was casually dating a girl and got her pregnant. We had done all of the things—had multiple conversations about sex, provided condoms once he was old enough, and talked about the importance of care and respect and (hopefully!) love before sex. And yet this happened.

We have a college fund for him, but now I don’t want to give it to him. For one thing, we’re now on the hook for child support we never budgeted for. We are financially comfortable but we saved for his college at the expense of our retirement, and at this point in our lives, we wanted to focus on saving for that. But I know I’m not seeing this clearly. I am so angry! He had one job—not to have a child himself—and he couldn’t do that. My husband thinks we should take the child support out of the college fund and let him have the remainder to help him pay for college. I know that he needs a post-secondary education, but I can’t see past my rage at his bad decision-making. Help!