Like the co-habiting folks I know, they are doing better than some married folks

[theking]

Kate Hudson says Goldie Hawn, Kurt Russell 'stuck it out' over 40 years although 'our family is just nuts'

Kate Hudson can’t get enough of her mom Goldie Hawn's relationship with Kurt Russell.

"They’ve been together 40 plus years. They are the center of our family," Hudson said on SiriusXM’s "The Howard Stern Show" Tuesday.

She continued, "I look at all the grandkids and Ma and Pa are just the best, they’ve stuck it out."

Hawn and Russell first met while appearing in the 1966 comedy "The One and Only, Genuine, Original Family Band," but didn’t begin dating until 1983.

The pair have never married, but share one son together, Wyatt

[JonniJacko]

This is what they probably mean by love comes in all shapes, forms and sizes...lol it works for some, it wont for others. But I think this is the way to go, it looks like a trend. the words marriage and committment is to deep to many of today's breed. Including to today's women. haha co-habs are good for folks who wants to love how they want to without a paper or some commandments telling them how to. lols

[Believe_N_Me]

Cohabitation is a horrible idea. It is not as easy come, easy go as it is designed to be. The expression "easy come, easy go" just means that neither parties have to feel guilty when they make unilateral decisions.

This situation may work for Kurt and Goldie because who knows, maybe they're both avoidants who want the benefits of a committed partner while maintaining their full autonomy. The majority of people are secure attachment style and secure attachment folks don't play house.

[theking]

Cohabitation is a horrible idea. It is not as easy come, easy go as it is designed to be. The expression "easy come, easy go" just means that neither parties have to feel guilty when they make unilateral decisions.

This situation may work for Kurt and Goldie because who knows, maybe they're both avoidants who want the benefits of a committed partner while maintaining their full autonomy. The majority of people are secure attachment style and secure attachment folks don't play house.

Yeah like the married folks that just go through divorce after divorce...so much for "committed". Just because you're married, doesn't mean you're committed and just because you're cohabiting doesn't mean there's no commitment. It's a case by case situation.

Of course the narrow-minded ignorant type won't be able see nor understand that FACT!

[JonniJacko]

I don't know, but maybe the world is coming to a end...hahaha

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pNw176VRuWg

[Believe_N_Me]

Relationships that exist outside of a marital commitment are based on an abusive + submissive dynamic.

No self-respecting person would place themself in this situation. Just because Kurt and Goldie have been going at it for all this time doesn't mean they have a healthy relationship.

I can tell you that at least one of them have major abandonment issues and is totally taking the shyt of the other one just so they don't end up alone. My guess is that it's Goldie. She had a pretty traumatic marriage with her ex-husband. And for her to get someone like Kurt, handsome, smart, talented, famous, etc. Oh, she is going to put up with a lot of his BS. Especially when he can just have any woman in or outside of Hollywood.

And he probably does have flings.

[Believe_N_Me]

Kurt is a high value man. Goldie must accept that he has a lot of options if she wants to be his main woman.

Men in high positions/high status (even those who don't have it but see themselves as such) find women who will put up with them having a lot of options.

 

[theking]

Relationships that exist outside of a marital commitment are based on an abusive + submissive dynamic.

No self-respecting person would place themself in this situation. Just because Kurt and Goldie have been going at it for all this time doesn't mean they have a healthy relationship.

Such a dumb narrow minded ignorant claim but NOTHING new when it comes to the clique members...

[Believe_N_Me]

Simply Google in the search bar: Why Kurt and Goldie never married

The answer is there.

Goldie explained that both have been in previous marriages that ended in ugly divorces. She likes maintaining her independence and having the freedom to make her own decisions.

Yep, just like I said about making unilateral decisions without guilt.

This type of relationship dynamic is all about convenience. You can still get the companionship and the support while maintaining total independence. You are not fully committed, only committed enough. You no longer have expectations and worry that whatever the other person does will impact your happiness. It works more like a friends with benefits situationship but at a more mature level. If you're lucky to find someone who isn't a complete jerk, it might actually be a very good thing for you. The problem is that most people don't get a good, secure person, because good, secure person don't tend to go for this.

I'm not knocking it down as some attachment style will only work in this dynamic. I'm just saying that most couples in this arrangement end up feeling completely used, abused, deceived, and their time wasted. The breakup is not as easy come, easy go as it claims to be.

[theking]

This type of relationship dynamic is all about convenience.

Such a dumb narrow minded ignorant claim but NOTHING new when it comes to the clique members...

Your narrow minded ignorant claims are as bad as your fellow clique member, hmgROCK's claims such as "no fence in wi", "no armed guard in wi", "no smog in wi", etc....Because FACTS state otherwise!

NO surprise both of you are in the same clique sharing the same "negative" traits and behaviors. 

[theking]

As bad as narrow minded ignorants that claimed interracial marriages will NEVER last or it will never be as good a same race marriages...Ev en though FACTs state otherwise...

[Dok_Champa]

Ladies, don't trust a guy when he said, "it's just a piece of paper." A piece of paper he isn't willing to get for you, a lady he claims to love and cherish.  It should be easy to get it but he makes it seem like the most difficult thing in the world to get.

Yeah right.

[theking]

Ladies, don't trust a guy when he said, "it's just a piece of paper."

It is just a piece of paper...and members of both the male and female parties agree. What matter way more than that piece of paper is the action.

I've seen enough cases of folks that pretend that piece of paper is everything and a promise that they will love their partner forever. As a result, they were able to convince their partner to sign the dotted line to make it official just to scam and rip their partner off...

Actions especially long-term actions will always speak louder than that piece of paper..

I'll use myself as an example, with or without that piece of paper or our wedding rings, I still love my wife the same.

[Believe_N_Me]

Ladies, don't trust a guy when he said, "it's just a piece of paper." A piece of paper he isn't willing to get for you, a lady he claims to love and cherish.  It should be easy to get it but he makes it seem like the most difficult thing in the world to get.

Yeah right.

Exactly. I used to think that the women must be getting the same value in this type of situationship as a married woman. Boy, was I wrong.

It's just a counterfeit of the real thing, which is marriage. And I'm not talking about toxic marriages. When people bring up things like abusive husband, that's just them deflecting.

[theking]

Yeah all those fake marriage that comes with that piece of paper is really valuable...

Once the scam is over, one is dead or becomes the victim...

That piece of paper doesn't mean jack if the actions don't follow suit..and that applies to any arrangements.. .