Swb ua siab zoo thiab ua siab ntev

[Believe_N_Me]

The older I get, the more this becomes a common sense approach. Otherwise, you'll find yourself going from one relationship to the next, and each new one is seemingly worse than the previous because you keep having to lower your standards. And why is this? Because if you don't put up with the current person's set of character flaws, then it'll be onto the next person with a new set of problems. You'll have run the gamut of every possible bad human character flaw and that is just too taxing on your well-being.

You can live a single life but that has a lot of downsides, too. If you have a great relationship with your grown children and their families then it might not be a bad deal. But if you can't get along with their spouse then it's going to be a long ride. Getting along with your children's spouses means putting up with their character flaws and letting their behavior, snide remarks, and side eyes slide. If you don't have children then you'll basically be forgotten. Good luck trying to get any assistance when you become too frail and weak to do for yourself. You probably won't have anybody checking up on you. You'd be lucky to pass away in a nursing home because at least another human will see to your body. But if you're living alone, the pets won't dial 911.

This made me draw a conclusion that no relationship is the wrong relationship since each person is always in control of being the best they can be. Be good to yourself, to your spouse, and to your marriage. IF you drop the ball on any of these three then you'll place yourself and your spouse in a very undesirable circumstance. Nobody wants to start over at this age but it's hard to live with someone whose crossed the line too many times.

That is why nothing beats ua siab zoo thiab ua siab ntev, so that the both of you may be happy and content into your old age together.

[Believe_N_Me]

A very beautiful woman married a man who was strongly attracted to her. However, the man was very immature, irresponsible, and easily unhinged. Even though in his heart he could find no other woman as beautiful and lovely as she, he just wasn't husband material. He couldn't give her the life she deserved nor did he treat her with dignity and respect. The man was seriously flawed as a person and in fact, didn't know how to respect many people. The final straw happened over the disciplining of their eldest child. It resulted in a bitter split and they went their separate ways.

The man was in one marriage after another, looking for a stable home life and a wife who would put up with his ways. But none of them lasted very long because they didn't leave their last marriages only to be in a worse off situation.

The woman remarried to a man who supported her endeavors and had polite manners. However, he also had children from a previous marriage and it quickly became a source of arguments between them. The children was raised with different values and habits by their deceased biological mother. The woman was very irritated by their mannerisms and it was a sensitive topic to approach the husband about it. It became a tug of war where the husband could not balance his relationship between the new wife and his children.

After that marriage ended, the woman swore of men and decided that she was at an age where sex wasn't important and therefore having a romantic partner was unnecessary. The children from her previous marriage were old enough to fill in social gaps anyway.

But seeing that grown children have their own lives, one late night the woman suffered a medical issue and collapsed. The children didn't check in on their mom until a couple of days later. She wasn't frail so the children didn't think to check her daily.

This woman's life did not need to end this way if her first husband practice to be ua siab zoo thiab ua siab ntev. But because he did not care to improve himself, she had to suffer this kind of lonely ending.

[Dok_Champa]

When you try your best, give your all to the marriage/relationship and it's not working, going anywhere, getting better, time to call it quits.  You can ua siab zoo and ua siab ntev until the polar ice melts, not going to do any good. 

The problem I see is many people make life changing decisions based on emotion(s) and then later on when they cool down, they regret.

We all have a bottom line, a place where we say enough is enough and that's different for everyone.  My bottom line may not be your bottom line etc.. 

Whatever, do carefully xa txij xa txhuas, think high think low before making a decision and that's already doing your best.

[JonniJacko]

strict standards and boundaries...a ny scratch no matter how small to them- you cut them lose right then and there...LOL Dont ever let anyone disrespect you, including yourself...hah ah

j/k...there are times where your standards and boundaries will be tested, and until then only you can make a sound decision. You let them go, or you asked them how they would like to die....LOL j.k

[Believe_N_Me]

Everybody has their threshold. The point is not to lower your standards for the next person. You don't want to be that person who khiav qav mus ntsib nab.