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Age 19-22: I attended college and while in college I dated a Hmong man who is also at the school. I used him to support me for room and boarding expenses. Stayed with him at his apartment as I study in college, he came from a rich family - I used him and his money get through college. I was not in love with him, I knew what I wanted out of him and that was to have him pay for my college expenses. After I got my college degree and had him pay 3/4 of my college tuition already- after 3 years of dating him I broke the relationship letting him know that I don't see him in my future. He was heart broken because he thought we were going to marry after I graduated college. In my mind this was never going to happen from the start, I used him to get through college. Sorry for being brutally honest.
Age 23-25: After graduating college I found an older Hmong man to date. I was 23 and he was 35. He was recently divorced with 1 child. The child lives with his Ex-Wife. He is very established, owns his own house and makes a good living. I stayed with him without spending any of my money, life was easy. I did not have to work because he took care of me. For the next few years I used him and made him paid for all our traveling across the world. He was not into traveling until he met me and I took advantage. We've visited Vietnam, Thailand, Singapore, Japan, Paris, and England together. I used him so I can explore and travel the world. I was never attracted to him but used him so I can finally explore the world in which I know I will never be able to do with my own finances. One thing I remember him telling me, "You're so beautiful, you don't need to work a day in your life." He was right, a pretty face does go a long way. I never had to work even after getting my college degree. I do admit it is very selfish of me to be using men in this way. I was willing to exploit these men for my own gain and I did not have to think twice. I used these men to get what I want as I matured. I never felt awful about it because I knew I would be leaving them and they will be out of my life when I'm done using them.
Age 26-30: Right now I'm single and satisfied. College loans all paid and have travel the world. I feel satisfy. I have no urges to get married or kids at this moment. I feel confident and alive. When I look back at the men I used in order for my to profit I realize that relationship is all about give and take. In my youth I have been giving to my family and community from day one and realize it did not benefit me. When I was growing up I was the one being taken advantage of. My mind was brained wash by elders to think a certain way, my body molested and touched in inappropriate ways. I woke. I saw. I conquer. Now I feel complete and have found peace. The perfect life. My life~
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TJARKukC5Zothere. Fixed it for ya
I have been listening to Glenn Loury and John McWhorter for YEARS!
Role models for EVERYBODY!
John McWhorter is sitting out of the RACE talks because it's unproductive!Preachimpeach on!
