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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: April 06, 2017, 10:32:40 AM »

Saimdang

I'm watching this Kdrama and it's about another kind of love - a love that exist even though people are apart, living separate lives.  In their own way, they learn to love, appreciate each other without physically being with one another.   A love that's pure - not those lustful type of love - but a pure love that begins pure and remain pure through life. 

Also, Saimdang is a real historical figure in the Korean culture/life - a genius artist and educator ahead of her time.  Her artworks are outstanding..  Her artwork are so realistic, alive..like you could almost touch it (that's how I see it.)

http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/16C-Korea-Artist-Shin-Saimdang-Painting-Eggplant-Insects-Replica-on-Canvas-/272234896631

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Movies / Re: Are you a fan of M. Night Shyamalan's movies?

« on: April 04, 2017, 12:54:03 PM »

No. 

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: April 03, 2017, 12:56:59 PM »

Drinking Is A Choice

So I was at a family gathering and they were drinking.  They know I don't drink but we were talking about drinking and I said it's a choice.  To prove my point, I down liquors really well that night.  Later, I had a moment of "giggling and crying at the same time."  So, I also found out what sort of drunk I could be hehehe..

But anyway, I don't care to repeat again.. Point made, done.

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General Discussion / Re: Bars and Club After Marriage?

« on: March 24, 2017, 04:10:23 PM »

Like the old saying, "Pom dej dag (see yellow river),  siab nqig (liver go down)".. Or in other words, "seeing is believing"...

Some people have to experience it first hand to know, to see, to believe, to understand..  Talking about it might not work.

I admit, certain things in life, I will go down the yellow river in order for liver to go down or I call it going to the moon.. even when I know the world and everyone will call me out for it... still..I'd go if I strongly believe in them.

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General Discussion / Re: Bars and Club After Marriage?

« on: March 24, 2017, 03:02:53 PM »

It is "narrow minded" when you only see it as bad or wrong even though factual evidence says it can be good too depending on the individual...

"realistic" is not all things that happen at the clubs is bad or wrong, not all people that go to the clubs go there to cheat on their spouse, nothing wrong with anyone that is of age to go to the clubs regardless of their marital status, and the purpose/reason to go to the club varies ...

And if they chose to "misunderstood" without facts then it's on them..What "risk"? If your self-esteem is so low and insecurity is that bad that you feel like it's a "risk" when people pass false judgment about you then might as well stop living..And those rumors just doesn't happen the clubs as I've seen happen at Hmong New Years.

Since being "online" is ranked higher than the clubs for married people to cheat, do I care if another person falsely assume I'm cheating just because I'm online"? NOPE!!!

Even you will misunderstand if you keep running into your married relative(s) at the club.  If you don't, you're one of the exceptions but others will misunderstand.  Don't believe me, try it.  Someone will eventually come up to you and say, "brother, how come I see you here often..is your home ok ahhahaahaha?" Apply these to other areas too... Let's say your family has a gathering...an d you don't show up.  They will start calling to find out what's going on...  It's being realistic.. when you put yourself in a situation for people to misunderstand, they will.  Risk is... be prepare to deal with any misunderstandi ng coming your way.  You can't blame people for being narrow minded.. when you have to realize the consequences of your actions.  I'm not saying don't do it.. but people need to decide when to compromise.  Some things you can compromise and some things you can't and that depends on people. 

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General Discussion / Re: Bars and Club After Marriage?

« on: March 24, 2017, 02:33:26 PM »

Unfortunately, that's how narrow minded people think/make false assumptions/spread unfounded rumors especially those that just plain hate the clubs or don't know much about it but they can think all they want in their little bubble. As long as the people that matters are good, it's all good.

That's like saying, you shouldn't attend a Hmong New Year because everyone goes there to just to hook up or you shouldn't attend a Hmong New Year party because everyone goes there just to cheat...And yes, some Hmong New Year's parties and/or Hmong concerts are also held at a "club"...

Open minded people like me will see the fact that not all people go to the club to cheat or to ruin their marriage...Sur e there are people that go there for that purpose but there are also people that go there to hang out with their families and friends or to relax or to celebrate an occasion or etc., ...because fact is, purposes do vary.

As as stalkers or people following you goes, that can happen anywhere too, not just at the clubs...It's a simple fact.

I don't think it's narrow minded but being realistic.  When you put yourself in a situation or place where people easily misunderstand you - they will.   And misunderstandi ng will lead to other things...   It is worth the risk?  That's where everyone differs. 

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General Discussion / Re: Bars and Club After Marriage?

« on: March 24, 2017, 10:55:24 AM »

I don't find the club/bar scene appealing after or before marriage.  There's nothing there other than drinking, dancing, and guys meets girls.  You can say it's good for a girls' night out but eventually you'll have guys coming over to bother because that's what people do at clubs/bars..bothering each other, drinking, dancing, etc...  That's to be expected.  These days some men don't care if you're married.. They say when you entered the club, all women are game.

No matter how supportive a husband claim to be, deep down he's not jumping up for joy.  Eventually, if this continues, problem of some kinds will happen. 

Also, when you go to a public place like a club, your family, relatives, people you know are there.. and yes, you take the risk of being "misunderstood".. because you go to a place where guys  meets girls, guys prey on girls, guys flirts with girls, etc... and what people think of you transfer to your other life outside the club scene.  They may look at you differently, treat you differently...

Let's say..I'm not gay but I go to a gay club with my lesbian/gay friends.  Eventually, some people will think I'm gay...hahahah something like that.

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Poetic Souls / Re: Love in Autumn

« on: March 20, 2017, 11:12:19 AM »

I wish I know what that Lao song is about but ....

Love your poem cwjmemdub.  Not sure if you're a fool or one to be admire for holding on to your lost love that in spite of time, seasons, it grows.  But anyone that has truly love will understand you.  May you find her again.

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: March 20, 2017, 10:50:40 AM »

PH

Even though PH is an online community, it's still a community nevertheless.  Over the years we've shared our thoughts (viewpoints, ideas), life's journey, family, children, political views, trials & tribulations, hobbies,  things that made us happy, sad, mad, go crazy, ticks, fall in love, out of love, what we wear, listened to, our deepest thoughts, etc..

and each of us probably has found a tiny bit of "heaven" or "hell" on here.  Me - an ocean to toss messages in a bottles. 

They say it's the people that makes a community - I must agree.  And like all community -People grow old, people grow sick, people leave, people come.  I know one day I may leave (as in permanently)...and you will too.  In sickness, in health, in joy, in tears – life keeps going even when we stopped.

So make the most of your life with the time you’re given.  Be kind to others.  Give generously to charitable causes, have courage to love and be loved in return, and enjoy every moments you have w/ loved ones.

Maybe I'm getting old and gone to too many funerals - they really remind/ put life into perspectives quickly (and venting on a Monday morning).

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: March 10, 2017, 03:05:34 PM »

"Even if the roads we travel run parallel without ever meeting together I am saying I will go with you like that side by side, all my life."

-Saimdang, Light's Diary (ep. 12)

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Travel & Vacation Forum / Re: Jade Mountain Resort

« on: March 08, 2017, 01:50:09 PM »

Staying in that place would cost an arm and a leg .. but it's beautiful..may be it's worth an arm and a leg.  I think I'll do the cheaper route:  Stay in a different hotel and explore.  Oh those pitons in the background, beach in the foreground  surrounded by lush greens and blue blue water in between, beautiful.

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: March 05, 2017, 07:37:35 PM »

Another MN Trip

This time I visited Stone Bridge, that bridge over the Mississippi River.  It's a nice little walk in that little park nearby and you can see some old ruins of some old stuff long ago:)  I like the little board walk.. but what I like best is standing up on that bridge, in the middle, and looking at the bubbling water below.  It was a chilly day but during the Summer month, it must be a wonderful little walk from one end of the bridge to the other.  I wanted to visit that waterfall, what is it call?  Oh yes, Minha someting ahhaah... but it was a cold day so I changed my plan.  Instead we went to that mall - that big mall and if I was the local, I don't think I'll shop there much but a great place for exercise.  I love the hanging lights chandeliers... .

Truang Nam Bakery - so I was hoping to see lots of delicious Asian bake goods but no only a few croissants and that famous Banh Mi sandwiches. 

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: March 02, 2017, 08:00:53 PM »

Sunny California For Him

11pm last night I was packing his suitcase and today he's already texting a photo of sunny California.  Unfortunately he wasn't there for pleasure but rather business - funeral business to be exact.   Life and loss...loss and life and the cycle repeats. Life is short & fleeting - make the most it.

Aside from that, I've been busy coordinating for a future event and seeking donation/sponsorships.  It's a win - win for all- you give something and got something in return.

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: February 24, 2017, 03:51:42 PM »

Time

Thaum kuv tseem hluas, sijhawm muaj ntau xav tias yuav tsis txawj tag.  Thaum laus zoo li sijhawm tsis txaus nws dhau mus zuj zus ceem tsis tau rov qab. I'm happy in this world you and I are still in it and that in itself is a beautiful thing. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CXCGeMtdVDE

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: February 20, 2017, 04:22:08 PM »

A Drive Along The Mississippi River

Starting in MN going southeast – along the way saw some quiet communities and beautiful sceneries.  My favorite little town, Lake City – a tiny little town with the most beautiful view of the Mississippi River w/ tall mountain peaks on the other side, gorgeous.  It has sidewalks along the edge of the Mississippi River for taking evening strolls or walks and benches where you could sit and enjoy the spectacular view. 

The most prosperous little town along the Mississippi River must be Red Wing – maybe the nearby Casino may have been a factor – but that’s a thriving little town.   Further down the Mississippi River in Iowa is the Yellow River – tus dej yuav tsum pom siab thiaj nqig –  and next to it is the Effigy Mounds National Monument.  I could spend a day here - hiking along the scenic nature trails.  Was press for time so took a mini stroll along the scenic path of the Effigy Mounds and pom dej dag siab nqig lawm ces went across to the other side and home