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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: March 02, 2017, 08:00:53 PM »

Sunny California For Him

11pm last night I was packing his suitcase and today he's already texting a photo of sunny California.  Unfortunately he wasn't there for pleasure but rather business - funeral business to be exact.   Life and loss...loss and life and the cycle repeats. Life is short & fleeting - make the most it.

Aside from that, I've been busy coordinating for a future event and seeking donation/sponsorships.  It's a win - win for all- you give something and got something in return.

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: February 24, 2017, 03:51:42 PM »

Time

Thaum kuv tseem hluas, sijhawm muaj ntau xav tias yuav tsis txawj tag.  Thaum laus zoo li sijhawm tsis txaus nws dhau mus zuj zus ceem tsis tau rov qab. I'm happy in this world you and I are still in it and that in itself is a beautiful thing. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CXCGeMtdVDE

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: February 20, 2017, 04:22:08 PM »

A Drive Along The Mississippi River

Starting in MN going southeast – along the way saw some quiet communities and beautiful sceneries.  My favorite little town, Lake City – a tiny little town with the most beautiful view of the Mississippi River w/ tall mountain peaks on the other side, gorgeous.  It has sidewalks along the edge of the Mississippi River for taking evening strolls or walks and benches where you could sit and enjoy the spectacular view. 

The most prosperous little town along the Mississippi River must be Red Wing – maybe the nearby Casino may have been a factor – but that’s a thriving little town.   Further down the Mississippi River in Iowa is the Yellow River – tus dej yuav tsum pom siab thiaj nqig –  and next to it is the Effigy Mounds National Monument.  I could spend a day here - hiking along the scenic nature trails.  Was press for time so took a mini stroll along the scenic path of the Effigy Mounds and pom dej dag siab nqig lawm ces went across to the other side and home

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: February 15, 2017, 12:54:08 PM »

Love Overcomes All

I finished watching The General and I – what a great love story- one of those “Love Conquers All.”  Watching a great drama is like reading a good book – hard to put down.  This was like that for me. The dialogues & chemistry of the lead actors/actress (like good writings) melts the heart, brings joy, sadness, and emotions in between. It's amazing to see a guy fall for a girl and made a vow to love her, only her in life and kept it, is not afraid to show his love, fight for her against all odds, and even died for her if needed...this is such a guy.  Yeah, only exist in fantasy land but -it's nice to see that play out in the computer/tv screen.  You've got my vote Chue Be Jie:)

Queen Seodok was another good one.  Even now, I still remember the love story of Bidam and Queen Seondok – Poor Bidam – I still recalled him dying with tears of blood pouring out of his eyes –looking straight as his love- Queen Seondok – trying to reach her.  Bidam, you've got my vote too. 

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: February 06, 2017, 09:05:05 AM »

Tossing and Turning

Sleeping inside a car on a winter’s night was not comfortable.  Earlier, I called and he sounded like he had a little too much to drink so I told him to stay put.  When I got there, he was knocked out and moving him would be difficult.  Grabbed his heavy coat and covered him up as best as I could.

What was I to do?  I suppose if you can’t beat him, join him.  Slowly, I walked to the passenger side, slide in, use my coat as blanket and scarf as pillow, slide the seat half way down and attempted to get some “ZZZ.”  30 minutes later, there I was, tossing and turning (and a little cold).  The best position to keep warm is fetus –head slightly bend and both leg curl up but sleep didn’t come. 3 ½ hours later, he seemed more alert but not enough to drive.  He mumbled I should go on home and he’ll come around later.  I didn’t argue – and he got home at the crack of dawn.

What did I learn? – Not a fan of excessive drinking-probably never will – And leave an emergency sleeping kit (pillow & blanket) in the trunk.

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: January 27, 2017, 02:19:15 PM »

Sincerity

A poem I came across..

Why is the word yes so brief?
It should be
the longest,
the hardest,
so that you could not decide in an instant to say it,
so that upon reflection you could stop
in the middle of saying it.


This poem is a reflection of Sincerity and you can apply this concept to other things in life.  I admit, I don't make decision lightly and that becomes both my weakness and strength.  It doesn't mean my decisions are always on target/right - just means they are sincere and when you are "sincere" about something, you either received the deepest joy or suffered the deepest cut.

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: January 23, 2017, 08:26:39 AM »

He Came Home With Blond Hair

My daughter came up to me and show his picture - sure enough he's blond, more reddish/pinkish blond.  I had to double glance and there -staring right back at me is my oldest son.  She ask, "Do you like it?  What do you think?" and I replied, "Oh my goodniiiiiieee eeeee.." and she laughed excitedly and continued, "He came home and yep he was blond.  You should see it.  He'll be back." 

We left to go somewhere and when we returned, there he is, "Mom, do you like it?"  and I said, "wow, looks different.  You look Korean, Japanese, and really bring out your tan."  We laughed and he went on to  explain the process of how he got it done.  He said, "Mom, a few days from now it'll be a little more blond." I listened.

He continues, "Mom, I'm going on vacation with my friends." and from there he proceeded to tell me about his Mexico trip and his blond hair was forgotten. 

Last night he (my blond son) asked me to take him to his friend's house since they're leaving early to catch their flight in the morning.  We talked  and I asked him, "Was I a good mom/were we good parents to you?"  He said, "Mom, you and dad did a great job raising  us.  It's amazing how the little things we learn when we were little shape us to who we are today.  For example, I worked hard not because I want to be rich, make money but I want to do something with my life, accomplish something." and we talk more about life, family, etc..  I pray with him for a safe trip and left.

Driving back, I think of all my children- how each is progressing in their life and smile. 

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: January 20, 2017, 12:19:42 PM »

Tomorrow

Tomorrow I’ll be in a place where they’ll be eating and drinking, drinking and eating.   I don’t mind the eating but it’s the excessive drinking I don’t understand.  Have yet to understand.  Convince me to understand.  I already know how the night will end so my heart is already heavy, not fill with anticipation and or excitement. 

I think if people are courageous to stick to their principles, they would not feel the pressure to drink.  A simple philosophy yet hard to do.  People respond to pressure differently while others are firm to who they are, I think.  Or Am I missing something..? 

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: January 19, 2017, 04:04:20 PM »

Love- Lessons from the TV Dramas

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mcaghjY6RIc

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cGAKzUAGF9Q&spfreload=5

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: January 17, 2017, 04:33:45 PM »

Hmmmmm

The General and I EP. 20

"If I never see your highness again in this lifetime, I would be no more than a living corpse even if I stay alive."

Powerful stuff here.

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: January 13, 2017, 12:25:58 PM »

I Was Just Thinking

Do you regret exposing your vulnerabilitie s online?  Sometimes I'm amazed at the things coming out of my lips.  I don't know other people's reason for doing what they do, saying the things they said.. For me, being real is important.  So I suppose, in some ways, I do say the darnest things at times.

But I'm not going to admit in real life unless there's concrete proof   In that sense, I'm a coward A big coward...Yes.  But it's not important..

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: January 12, 2017, 05:17:56 PM »

Feeling Puzzled

So today during my lunch hour, I was catching up on a chinese Drama, The General and I
https://www.dramafever.com/drama/4986/12/general-and-i-/

I find myself a little drawn to the character - When he said, "hurry so I don't find myself waiting" and grabbed to kiss her one last time -  My heart melt a little like I was on a tiny/little adrenaline high (but in this case, for the heart.)  Like my heart felt a little warm and fuzzy...a little drunk like it had a little too much too drink..

And later, I wonder..is this the reason why I'm drawn to love Drama and if yes, why do I do that?  I know it was just a fantasy- make believe world.  I've known that all along...

Could I be in love with the idea of love? Or am I just being human? 

In life, I noticed the smallest thing about couples - and when a man drapes his arm over his lady's shoulder - it brings a smile to my lips..
When he holds the door for her - it made me think
When he holds her hands in public - it made me paused..

Why do I think like that?  Am I a hopeless romantic? I don't think so - I thought I'm reasonable to not be fool with things like that ahhahaa..

I still haven't found the answer.  I think love has been polluted by enterprise (corporation) which are very good at digging into our deepest desires and dangles them in front of our face in these so called "dramas (or whatever weakness  it is for you)" and make our heart flutters a little bit... so we come again and again...but at the end of day - we leave empty handed except with the foolish fantasy fed to us hahahaha...

Yet..I'm going to continue watching that darn Dramas........ ....*roll eyes*******

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Online Journal / Re: Life's Milestones

« on: January 09, 2017, 12:24:28 PM »

Moderation is Key

This may sound harsh but the hmong community is having an alcohol consumption epidemic.  It’s an epidemic – like a disease – brought on by peer/social pressure.  I’m not saying don’t drink –we’re all adult but moderation is key.  Too much of anything is no good and that includes excessive drinking.  I hope it’s just a phase and we don't become a community of alcoholic. 

Maybe I'm not a drinker and I don't really understand the hype of drinking.  If I don't want to drink, I don't have to make up an excuse - just tell the truth:  "I'm sorry, I don't drink but thank you."  Yes, sometimes you seem like the "abnormal" one but at the end of the day, what does social drinking really accomplished other than an excruciating headaches, swollen eyes, looking like an incoherent fool, etc..

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Online Journal / Re: Dear Morning Fog

« on: January 09, 2017, 09:37:40 AM »

Morning Fog will be pleased.

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Online Journal / Re: Dear Morning Fog

« on: January 05, 2017, 08:45:08 AM »

Did you find Steaming Bell for Morning Fog?  I think Steaming Bell may have passed by here sometimes a ago   Sorry, didn't know you were looking.  I'd keep my eyes open from now on and will inform you if clues of his whereabouts appear   Good luck!