PebHmong Discussion Forum
General Category => Hmong Culture & History => Funeral Rituals & Customs => Topic started by: JazzBootz on February 16, 2012, 03:13:45 PM
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Traditionally tsev xyom cuab and relatives of the deceased xyom at the funeral.
Wondering if non-related persons (different clan, no direct blood relation) can also join in to xyom.
I would like to join my best friend to xyom for his mother but I'm not his clan nor a direct relative. I don't want to upset his relatives or ua dabtsi txhaum lawv tsev neeg xyom cuab.
Thanks
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nope..just showing your respect.. tsis txaum li
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There's nothing wrong. If the deceased person has meaning to you, you should xyom.
I know I did for alot of families. I even considered myself as the XyomCuab for alot of families.
My dad has taught me well in the Hmong culture; to love, to not have so much pride; not being selfish; pay it forward; do everything out of your pure heart but ask nothing in return.
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It just depends on how close you are to the family and how they see you. You are XyomCuab if the family says that you are. O0
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ur xyom cuab if u say u r... everyone helping out at these rituals r considered xyom cuab... dont care last name/clan... n anyone can xyom but some nearsighted relatives might look at u strange...