I recently broke up with my ex after 8 years because he kept breaking his promises to marry me. I made the decision to end the relationship because it wasn't going anywhere and he refused to marry me. It was excuses after excuses. A lot of friends told me to get pregnant and he would be forced to marry me however I'm not that type of person to trap anyone who isn't willing. We have never lived together (cohabit) because he said he didn't believe in that before marriage.
After our breakup I found out through numerous resources why he did not marry me. HE WAS ALREADY MARRIED AND LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE!
Some of you may wonder why I didn't know.
For starters, we were long distance. Second of all, we only saw each other 2-3 times a month. Third, we talked every day, every night, video chat, messenger. No married man could be that single and have time to cheat on his wife and I was so dead wrong.
I felt so dirty and I wanted an apology from him. He refuted being married, claiming he only married his cousin so that she could get his health insurance since she's from overseas and doesn't have insurance. Lies. He went to Laos during 1st year of meeting me and married her. He has 3 children during the time he and I were together. He claimed the children were so that his cousin could stay in the US and that he would be divorcing her really soon. He also claimed the 3 children aren't his and they each have their own baby daddy.
I'm done believing the lies from this narcissist.
How many years did you spend with your SO before marriage? I feel like I wasted too much time.
It's hard to believe that there are some people who are this dirty, but truth is always stranger than fiction. Some people can lie straight-face for years, but if you start to really pay attention, they slip up every now and then. Their story doesn't make sense. When their dirty secret can no longer be hidden, that's when they'll straight up ghost you or make up excuses that don't even make sense. I would tell this lady to go through the grieving process. Cry a lot and get angry. She will eventually reach a point where she can't cry anymore and is all angered out. That's when she will be healed and blessed.
The dude, on the other hand, will start to get his karma. They always do. In fact, he is already receiving his karma and that's why he not happy at home nor can he even have a new relationship in peace. People like this guy are so manipulative and deceitful that all they do is create drama and enemies in all facets of their lives. This type of person who will do this to a lover will do it in business, with family, and friends alike.