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Marriage & Family Life / Re: The type of man that will make a good husband

« on: Today at 06:04:12 AM »

One of my older sister-in-law says that a man will never get rid of a good woman who keeps sticking around. Good, meaning that she does the cooking, cleaning, pay the bills, etc. He might not love her or find her all that exciting anymore, but he has a use for her and if she keeps staying despite the fact that he's lost all affection and is courting other women, then that is on her. The guy I'm talking about is definitely keeping this woman around as an unmarried niam loj. lol She is his main supply while he gives affection and attention to other women, whom he most likely has no intentions of committing to either.

Suppose to tell her to kick his ass to the curb and make him pay child support. lols People gotta understand, for most couples, that butterflies have a very short life span. And that there are phases in a partnership. If we all lived up to 200 years old, most couples will probably eventually hate each other's guts by 150 years old at best..Those who really like each other..Some don't even last 6 months...lols So its a good thing we only live up to 100, even still that is too long for butterflies to live. Gotta take it slow and steady to make sure it outlasts time..Beat it before all else goes to hell .lols

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Online Journal / Re: The Not so private Diary of JonniJacco

« on: Today at 05:41:40 AM »

We finally were assign to work together again the other day. Both of us started around the same time, and one day he was tailgating me for a mile to work. So we both had some animosity since. Never spoken to him until recently. LOL Both us express our workplace frustrations. We both agree, though we both disliked a lot of the things here, we get a away with a lot here where we wouldn't elsewhere. Showing up late, just use PTO or Sick time to cover it. No being called into a office and have a interrogation session. LOL Come back a few minutes late from break, if they don't get yell at by their boss, they don't care much. lols..We stop to think how long since we been here, I jokingly told him he has more grey hairs but look better shape from what I remember 6 years ago, and he joke, Always thought you were either mute or deaf at one point. Joke to him, this place turned me into a Jackass...LOL We had mostly small talks intermittently throughout the shift. But our last one got me thinking. He said the word "control" should not even exist. Said we don't control the next second, minute, hours or days. How others perceived or feels about us. All we can do is go with the flow and take our best precautions from anything bad happening. We don't really get to choose what we get and how we get it, if we do get it- but to work hard towards it. Like driving, all we can do is make sure our tires and suspensions are in good shape. But a blow out tire or a pot hole we didn't see can damage one or both of it while driving on the roads.

Shift was over, we both walk out to our cars together, and that was when he brought up the tailgating incident. haha He apologize, and I joke, it's a while back, I've forgotten about it.....

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: The type of man that will make a good husband

« on: May 06, 2024, 04:41:57 PM »

Si, men gotta look at it from a different angle. We want our sisters, daughters and nieces to be with a man with vision and missions.we can't expect one thing, and expect to get another.

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Family

« on: May 06, 2024, 04:38:06 PM »

If people don't understand that they have an obligation to their spouse and their children then they really shouldn't create a family.

I see, the demons been feeding me free food all my life. Will need to el correcto it.

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Do you need to know everything about your spouse?

« on: May 06, 2024, 04:35:30 PM »

Why? He es el Perfecto.

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Online Journal / Re: The Not so private Diary of JonniJacco

« on: May 04, 2024, 08:31:01 PM »

I went back in this dream, to my teens. I had a rooster at the time, and I loved him dearly. His feathers were all black, not a single spot of white or any other color. The unique thing about his feathers was they emit such a strong sheen of green, even in the shade. His plummage too was unique. His tail sickles curls inward and they were long. One day, I notice he wasn't crowing. I don't know if he was sick or not, but he was just roosting and looked normal. Something in me said he needs a hen, thats all. We lived in the city at the time, and technically we weren't suppose to have any chickens, let alone a rooster in the city limits. But our neighbors didn't seem to mind the crowings. Well, I call a uncle if I can get a hen for him. He said, he had the perfect one, all black hen, yellow feet, eyes and even beak. He insisted he brings her over because he wanted to see the rooster too. (I kept it hidden away from most people) and my uncle wanted at least two of his sons from the breeding. lols

I raised this rooster til his last breath. He lived up to about 9 years old. Before his last breath, he attempted to crow. He did, but it was very weak. I pluck two feathers from his body to keep, and buried him the next morning.

In this dream, I revisited the good times. I was no more than 16. I had some ground beef, some feed mixed with milk and other goodies. The rooster wasn't crowing, but.......sing ing....... and this was the song he sang.....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=39eEKjeq6qg

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Opposite Sex Friends

« on: May 04, 2024, 07:31:29 PM »

If  my wife had an opposite-sex friend, I don't need to see them on dates.

If they are going to cheat, they are going to cheat. whether they have opposite sex friends or not. You expect them to know the consequence and that you will find out one way or another eventually. The punishment is, death by beheading...lo ls jk Instant divorce, no if buts, or whys...lols

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: The type of man that will make a good husband

« on: May 04, 2024, 07:25:34 PM »

Many marriages has last the test of time by being and living simple. Simple jobs,careers, okay house, okay cars, enough to survive, a little to save up. This is how the older generations view a marriage. It's about the simple things, the memories, time spent together. Going through the hard times together..this is the backbone that keeps them together. It is what keep them together.

Today's marriages is mostly base on assets, materilistic stuffs. Trying to impress others, competing with others. In other words, it's very business like. What can I do for you and what can you do for me type of thing. This is what is killing marriage. It's lost its true meaning.

A good partner wants nothing but to be love and to love in return. They give their love to the one they feel most deserving and connected to without anything else but feelings from within, not to the one they can get the most in return. LIke all business contracts, the odds of someone breaching the contract is very likely, and very high...and its proven time and time again, with the divorce rate we see today......

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Family

« on: May 04, 2024, 07:14:26 PM »

In a sense, "yes". You are obligated to provide for the family that you created.

obligation is different from free will though. If one is going to feel obligated, they shouldn't even create a family.

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Family

« on: May 04, 2024, 07:11:57 PM »

yes, but it doesn't mean you stop caring or loving the family you came from.

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Do you need to know everything about your spouse?

« on: May 04, 2024, 06:15:46 PM »

This guy use to come in here?!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ce-MYcuhVPw

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: No one loves you more than your spouse

« on: May 04, 2024, 06:12:16 PM »

This is something male dating coaches tells males to do. This is mind games, in other words deception. lols The ones, men and women, looking or desiring for the real thing will turn away from people with this type of mindset. A marriage/comittment is about going all in, showing all cards, and see if the odds are in each other's favor...saying to themselves, this person is worth going all in for, and if busts, at least you know, than to never know.... Better you know 3-4 months, than 3-4 years later, or 30-40 years even, later on...We see this happen right before our eyes. It's not because the love died down or ran its course, it's because one or both partners were't brutally honest from the start, or didn't show or willing to throw all their cards on the table from the start....

dating/relationship experts teach people how to attract, but not how to look for the right one, the right type for you, and what to look for long lasting happiness with someone...What they don't tell you is, everything in life is a gamble, and comittment and marriage is one gamble were its in your best interest to go all in or dont at all...stay single...lols

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: No one loves you more than your spouse

« on: May 04, 2024, 06:09:00 PM »

The secret to a long-lasting marriage is to never leave.

Learn to not allow yourself to get emotionally tied to your spouse. That way you don't feel so hurt when they disappoint you, and you're never afraid to leave if it comes to that point. Oddly enough, when you aren't emotionally attached to them, they respect you more.

This is something male dating coaches tells males to do. This is mind games, in other words deception. lols The ones, men and women, looking or desiring for the real thing will turn away from people with this type of mindset. A marriage/comittment is about going all in, showing all cards, and see if the odds are in each other's favor...saying to themselves, this person is worth going all in for, and if busts, at least you know, than to never know.... Better you know 3-4 months, than 3-4 years later, or 30-40 years even, later on...We see this happen right before our eyes. It's not because the love died down or ran its course, it's because one or both partners were't brutally honest from the start, or didn't show or willing to throw all their cards on the table from the start....

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Opposite Sex Friends

« on: May 04, 2024, 05:20:48 PM »

one little thing leads to another, then to another.

it really depends on each couple...Perso nally, I don't really care..if she is going to lunch with a male co worker or long time friend, let me know, or invite me along...Is she says, no worries, He's gay...I say, ask for a double date, I have a gay friend too...lols some gay people pretend to be gay to get close to women..

honestly, its safe to play it safe..if your spouse do the same and you won't like it, don't do it.

Just glad I'm not married...subc onsciously I foresee all these type of issues...We all might as well just act like how they do it in the animal channels...lma o

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: A decade is a good chunk of time just to get stabbed on the back

« on: May 04, 2024, 05:07:44 PM »

I know someone who's wife did the same. Almost 10 years. He knew he should leave, but he kept her around, but now he's cheating left and right on her...lols

point here is, if you cheat on someone, bare in mind, they will probably eventually get back at you if the accept you back....if someone cheats on you, you not might, you will cheat on them...this mean using them for other means...if not for intimacy with others.

this is how human nature works...if you cheat, or they cheat. IMO, it is best to leave....hangi ng on is like hanging onto a corpse...lols