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Dear Dr. PebHmong / Re: Hmong Escort girl

« on: September 24, 2021, 01:14:36 AM »

Hey All,

So I was browsing through the Escort Page for the heck of it and came upon these 2 Hmong Hoes.....surpr ise  selling their body for cash?

When STD and HIV are out there......
even with Protection, Herpes, gnoria  clymdia....ect still can affect their body.

such low life...why not just go to the mountain and farm marijuana  , Safest road for living a bad life.

these hmong sisters man seriously, makes me sick to being a Hmong men 

It makes you sick because you can't  tap them  . 
Without money that is 

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General Relationship / Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"

« on: September 24, 2021, 01:01:30 AM »

Ok, adding the details today:

1) golden heart, a MUST have
2) a Christian, loves God
3) Respects/treats/loves a woman just perfectly! He greets her first thing in the morning w/ his sugary words & flowers and give her kisses at night.  He never stops pleasing her because his goal is making her happy
4) Educated
5) AND worth a million bucks/priceless 

*4 & 5 are pluses.

Ok

"Everyday I love You & You never live until you love w/ all your heart & soul"==>Powerful stuff here:)

# 3 seems a little uneasy for me because it reminds me a lot of a player. A lot of guys would sincerely show their love for you in their own ways, but they would not necessary pleased you like in a movie on a daily basis. On the other hand, a player would do everything to please you because you are a goal for them to accomplish.

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General Relationship / Re: How do you know when she/he is "the one"

« on: September 24, 2021, 12:52:14 AM »

Trying to understand the psychology of men and women. 

MEN: How do you know if a woman is "the one" for you long-term?  Or, do most of you just "settle," even though she doesn't have all and everything that you truly want?  What are the "must haves" that qualify her to be "the one" for you?  Be really honest.

WOMEN: How do you know if a man is "the one" for you long-term?  Or, do most of you just "settle," even though he doesn't have all and everything that you truly want?  What are the "must haves" that qualify him to be "the one" for you?  Be really honest.

I don't think you truly know that she is the one. It is just a feeling you have that you hold deep inside and very close to you. The feeling that everything just fall into place when you are with her. She makes your world better and more beautiful. She makes you smile and brings a sense of calmness to you.  Yes, we must share a lot of the important things in common. Things such as our values and the way we perceive important issues. Issues, such as family (raising and caring for both our nuclear and extended family), what we want out of life, how we see and deal with wealth, so forth.

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General Relationship / Re: If you could start over again would you be with the person you are with?

« on: September 24, 2021, 12:28:05 AM »

I really wish I could say yes. I really wish it could be different, but things are what they are. ..so no. Knowing what I know, I would have made different decisions. The decisions I made would led me to someone else.

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General Relationship / Re: If you could start over again would you be with the person you are with?

« on: September 24, 2021, 12:17:36 AM »

Do I love him? Yes. But despite a decade, I'm still undecided if this was all worth it. In all honesty, in the process, I've lost myself.

If you two still love each other and are still happy, then don't think too much. Just roll with it and let life takes you on its journey. Enjoy every moment of it because you will only get to do it once.

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General Relationship / Re: Men help

« on: September 23, 2021, 11:38:21 PM »

There are two types of men.  The 1st type is, when they have an affair they are super happy and they treat the wife better.  The 2nd type of men, he would pick  fight and drove off; came back and the wife can’t ask a question or she is a B!

The super nice men, I could understand why he’s happy because of guilt he treats his wife better.  Now, what about the one that always pick a  fight and then drove off for an hour and came back and if the wife asked where he went, she’s a B.

Will you let the 2nd men go or would you give him another chance.   Now she let him go for good.. why would he be calling everyone and cried like an idiot.

The second type has issues that needs to be work out. Serious personal issues. Do what you gotta do to be safe.

There is but. The second type could be doing it because he has a wife that just want to pick fights. She picks fights with him. He gets mad and took off to cool down. When he returns, she instigates the problem more and he finally blows up calling her for what she is.

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General Relationship / Re: Do you remember what you did on your 1st, 2nd, and 3rd dates with your S/O?

« on: September 23, 2021, 11:16:51 PM »

Yall old school kids skipped the normal ritual and went straight to the naughty conclusion eh?   

Took the words right out of my mouth  . That's why Hmong guys in those days only go talk to girls at night or when she is away from her family . They were too smart for their time 

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General Relationship / Re: What do men want from their women

« on: September 23, 2021, 11:09:08 PM »

Anyway, what do you think?

What do men want from their women?

If men know what they want from their women, then there wouldn't be so many divorces and Hmong marrying a second or third wife. By the time they know what they want in a woman, then it is already too late because they are already deep in the marriage with her. That's because most men don't really know what they want until they are older. It is really a qi muag yuav. Man marry the woman whom he thought is the one that he wants because she has all of the qualities that he thought he wants. So until men reach a certain age where they start to really look inside them, know who they really are, and what they really want out of life, then it is just a dang she is hot, I gotta hit that thang mentality  . 

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General Relationship / Re: What do men want from their women

« on: September 23, 2021, 10:55:44 PM »

I happened upon this youtube video where a Hmong pastor was preaching to couples on Valentine's Day.  Towards the end of the video, he said that men really wants a woman who 1) listens to him and does what he says, 2) doesn't speak ahead of her husband. 

#1 is fine.  Both need to listen to each other and do the things that the other person wants.

#2, though, I dunno.  I think it doesn't matter who speaks first at all.  But the pastor seems to imply that if the woman speaks first, it will make others disrespect her husband because it makes it seem like she is the head and not the husband.  I think people who think that men should always speak first before their wives at events, have a backwards mentality because, again, it doesn't matter who speaks first.  But, if one of the spouses fights to speak first all the time because of a sense of self-importance, that is super unattractive.  When someone fights to speak first or doesn't give other people the chance to speak and weigh in, they probably have an ego issue.  It doesn't matter who it is, anyone with an ego issue is unattractive.  But the general idea that the pastor was trying to convey was that women should let their men speak first at events vs them (the women) speaking first.  That's such a sexist and backwards mentality.  I don't agree with that.

I don't think it is a matter of who speak first that determines who is the head of the family. I have seen my shares of women spoke before their husband because they are quicker to react to verbal conversations or confrontations . However, they still respect their husbands by referencing back to them. Plus because they spoke too quickly, they do not have the time to give thoughts to their words and did not have a positive impact that can be accepted by most people.

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General Relationship / Re: What do men want from their women

« on: September 23, 2021, 10:04:10 PM »

A man once told me Hmong has this phrase "hlub & fwm"...man wants fwm and woman wants hlub so woman fwm men and men hlub woman.

Without fwm, no hlub..

But I want both  .

I know what it means, but the phrase is out of date. In today's time, it is both hlub and fwm. If you only fwm your husband, he will be very lonely. If you only love him, he will feel very disrespectful that you are putting him down or stepping all over him. Likewise, the concept goes both ways for the husband and wife. If not, you will have a weak relationship that may not last or sadly last.

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Debate Central / Re: I voted for joe biden... he making a mistake withdrawing troop from afghan

« on: August 28, 2021, 04:50:19 PM »

The choice to withdraw is more political than anything. Then again, everything in government is political. I don't mind him withdrawing our troops. On a selfish note, I do have family members who are in the military and I feel safer with them out of there. However, it is the way he withdraw the troops. You don't just quickly pack your bags and leave without a thought to the people who have help, live, and die with you all of those times. This is Vietnam all over again. The difference is that this time it is seen in video by the whole world not just through the media, but through the videos of everyday people where there is no editing, but straight raw footage of the actual events. There is no hiding or sugar coating because people can see the situation for what it is. It will be very hard for the US to build trust again.

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Debate Central / Re: Is she wrong? What would you do...

« on: August 28, 2021, 04:35:41 PM »

The transgender should be more mindful of him/herself. There isn't any law out there to regulate such sex, but that doesn't mean the person should take the liberty to do whatever he/she wants. I agree with the posters above that if this person still have a penis, then go to the men section. Regardless of children or not, that purposely flashing the opposite sex. Some people just need to use their brain.