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Hmong News / Re: Hmong Women have arrived???

« on: May 12, 2016, 11:32:30 AM »

sorry, but I have no pity for these kind of people.

they clearly know what they're getting themselves into. they know what is right, what is wrong, and they still choose to do it. it doesn't matter the reasons why they did this. there could be millions of reasons why, it's still up to them to get themselves involved. like the quote, "others may have influenced you, but you are responsible for who you become."

the only time I would feel pity for them was if someone had secretly put it in their bags and they really didn't know, then yes, I would side with them. but if they were 100% conscious and knew what they were doing, nope!

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Hmong News / Re: Manitowoc Man Killed by Unknown Suspect

« on: May 02, 2016, 10:22:38 AM »

That's sad and scary at the same time. Lyn remember there was this one time when a stranger comes knocking at our door once. It was a strange guy with a mohawk cut and all. Only me and my brother were home at the time and so we never answer the door. Immediately once we heard the door knocking, we turn everything off and just keep our heads low. Once the knocking stopped then we wait 4 minutes before we turn everything back on.

that's always been my first instinct....wa s to lock the doors, turned off the lights, and lay low. however, I was just recently been told by a friend, who was robbed a few times and broke into several times, that if an unknown person knocks on your door late at night, even if you don't answer the door, you must leave the lights on so they know someone is home. you can flick the lights off and on or turn your car alarm off and on to let that person know that someone is home and is watching them. when you really think about it, it makes sense because if the house is empty and completely dark, it would let them to think no one is home and it'll be an easy robbery. however, if someone is home, but just not opening the door, then I think that will intimidate the robber to not rob the house.

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Travel & Vacation Forum / Re: any hmong woman up for traveling the world (2015)

« on: April 29, 2016, 10:51:58 AM »

svang415, can you also PM me your facebook? I would love to see all your travel pics. You're such an inspiration and I wish I could just up and leave to travel like you too.

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Dear Dr. PebHmong / Re: Never thought i would be a yawg nrauj...

« on: March 24, 2016, 11:04:10 AM »

anyways, back to your original title, sometimes it's best to be a yawg nraug than to be in a loveless marriage. at least you know you weren't the one that f*ck up the marriage and that you really did gave it your all. you have nothing to regret. best to be single and look for a new love than to fix a love that was broken into a thousand pieces. best to start over new than to go back to someone who you no longer love completely, trust enough anymore, and your heart will never be content with her ever again. best to leave now than stay and be miserable and in pain for the rest of your life. she will heal and get over it, but you won't, trust me. I know finding new love will be hard, but just take your time looking for new love. don't rush and jump right into another marriage. I believe that if you are a good person with a genuine heart, you will find another good soul to be with. now, if you become a player after divorce and just party and drink every weekend, then your life would be just having fun only and no serious woman would want to be with you unless you find another woman who just loves drinking, partying, and having fun like you.

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Dear Dr. PebHmong / Re: Never thought i would be a yawg nrauj...

« on: March 24, 2016, 10:57:50 AM »

I had a cousin that went thru what you did... his wife cheated on him with a guy at her work place. She got pregnant and had an abortion. He found out and divorced her but soon took her back because his kids was missing her. She did this whole Hmong apologized thing, she had a big dinner and came and apologized to him and his whole family and beg to him to take her back. Guess what, 5 years later, she cheated on him again. Now, he's married to a wonderful woman and he's so much happier. He was 35 when he divorce her the second time.

I also have a cousin in a similar situation too. his wife cheated on him with a Mexican guy at her workplace. he caught them red handed. she did this whole cow party to fix his face. her side of the families came. she made all these promises to be good and stay with him. she begged all the elders and promised to not do it again. a few months later, she got in contact with him again and slept with him. again, my cousin found out and this time, he kicked her out of the house. she went to her Mexican lover but he didn't want her. in fact, he was no where to be found because he was afraid of getting in trouble by my cousin. plus, he never wanted her. he just wants to use her sexually only. she couldn't find him so she went back to her side of the family and eventually remarried. her now husband is good and loves her a lot, but she still regrets my cousin. and the pain and suffering she puts her children through was just very sad.

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Dear Dr. PebHmong / Re: Never thought i would be a yawg nrauj...

« on: March 24, 2016, 10:52:53 AM »

I can feel your pain just reading your post. I'm very sorry to hear that you're going through this.

I think that when a woman cheats on you, she no longer loves you. even if she still wants to work out and keep the marriage, that only means the other guy doesn't want her anymore. nws pom dej dag siab thiaj nqeg lawm. so basically, you are her second, her shelter when she has no where to go. the only reason why she now sees you as the best is because she was dumped by her lover. do you want to be second for the rest of your and her life? and always remember that once a cheater is always a cheater. some are able to get away from it, but many others revert back to their cheating behaviors. so good luck to you and I wish you the strength to make the best decision for you. since there is no kids yet, it won't be that hard. oh, and as another pher said, the fact that she wants to abort the child is because she's not sure whom the father is. since she wants to work it out with you, she's probably terrify that the baby might be her lovers so that's why she decides to abort it.

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Food Forum / Re: Sodas

« on: November 23, 2015, 11:16:21 AM »

not a drop of sodas had went inside my mouth for the last five years! and I'm very proud of that. I used to drink like two bottles of sodas per day. now I don't even miss it. sometimes I would have nightmares of drinking sodas. 

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Hmong News / Re: MISSING: Vendor vanishes from Lakewood Farmer’s Market

« on: September 14, 2015, 05:24:46 PM »

Exactly. Story did not add up, in order to boarded a plane to Thailand, it required US passport and meaning that US Custom has be alerted. Either way, if she did board the plane, meaning those guys at the gate were not doing their job sufficiently and they should  include immediate managers  be terminated.

last contact with families was around 4:30pm. her van wasn't discovered until around 8:30pm and wasn't reported as a missing person until much later that evening. from 4:30pm until 8:30pm, she could had already flew out and that's probably why security at the airport didn't discovered that she's a missing person.

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Hmong News / Re: MISSING: Vendor vanishes from Lakewood Farmer’s Market

« on: September 14, 2015, 10:30:37 AM »

the full story isn't out yet. the families still don't know how she was able to fly to Thailand and back since no passport was mentioned in any of the articles. we don't know if she took her ID with her or not. the articles just said her purse, keys, and cell phone were left inside her van, but that doesn't necessary means her IDs were left also.

one thing for sure, is that she DID NOT left to meet a lover or ran off with a lover. NO cheating was involved nor NO lover was involved. a lot of hmong ppl assumed she was cheating and ran off with a lover or ran to Thailand to meet with a lover and discovered that the grass wasn't greener over there so she came back. these very same people are the ones who are bashing her all over FB and saying mean things. these are just speculations ONLY. hopefully the truth would come out once she is released home or the families are able to speak to her. But for now, people will continue with their assumptions.

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Hmong News / Re: MISSING: Vendor vanishes from Lakewood Farmer’s Market

« on: September 09, 2015, 03:02:32 PM »

I pray for her safe return.  Didn't I read somewhere that she has 6 children?  Kids and husband are waiting anxiously for some good news.

yes, she is married with six children. everyone on both sides of the families are worry sick about her whereabouts.

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Hmong News / Re: MISSING: Vendor vanishes from Lakewood Farmer’s Market

« on: September 09, 2015, 03:01:26 PM »

My wild guess is that she ran away with her mysterious bf.  Looks like she's a young grass brought from Laos.  Now that she has her green card or citizenship she has united with her old hmong lao boyfriend and they will live happily ever after.

no, she came to the states for over 20 years now, so that's not the case. it is a possibility that she might had ran with a lover, who knows because anything is a speculation at this point, but she is definitely not a young grass brought from laos for sure.

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Hmong News / Re: MISSING: Vendor vanishes from Lakewood Farmer’s Market

« on: September 09, 2015, 10:13:32 AM »

thank you for posting the article here. hope and pray she is safe and will return home soon and that no one has mistreated her. everyone is worried about her so much. 

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Food Forum / Re: What's for Dinner Food Collection

« on: June 12, 2015, 10:18:48 AM »

Kam kawg los mam, yuav ua cas kuv hom tsis kam nas?

The ingredients you will need is:

1 Boneless Pork sirloin (it doesn't have to be sirloin, it can be anything to your likings) * I bought mine at Sam's Club for $15, which is pretty cheap. At Wal-mart you only get 1/4 the sizes of Sam's Club pork sirloin.
About 15 Cherry Tomatoes (Cut into halves) *You can have as many as you want.
1 Red onion (sliced) *Don't over power the dish with red onion because you will only taste the onion which is not good.
2-3 stalks of spring onions or green onions (minced or shredded like the Hmong OGs do it when they make laab)
1 bunch of cilantro (finely chopped)
Morton Salt (use what you like)
McCormick Pure Ground Black Pepper (use what you like)
CJ Korean BBQ Kalbi Marinade (I used this to make the pork have a little sweetness to it from the Asian pear) *But this is totally optional.
Half of a lime squeezed (optional)


Best served from sticky rice!

Step 1:
Wash the pork sirloin well very and pat it dry with a paper towel.
Cut the pork into slices. Make sure you don't cut them too small because at the end you will cut it into smaller pieces.

Step 2:
In a large bowel, mix your pork with a pinch of salt, and some black pepper. You may exclude the salt and black pepper if you are using the Korean BBQ sauce because it has salt and a lot of other good ingredients in there already. If you don't mind it like me, go a head and added in the Korean BBQ sauce with the salt and black pepper you added. Mix them very well and set them aside.

Step 3:
In another bowel, mix your cilantro, spring onions(green onions), cherry tomatoes and red onions and set them aside.

Step 4:
Depending on your preference, cook the marinated pork to a tenderness. Please remember to cook it fully but not burnt the meat. I like grill my as many of you may know. It gives it that charcoalness flavor. If you don't want to grill it you may cook it in the oven at 375 flipping each side so that it isn't burnt. You can also pan sear it, just make sure it is fully cooked.

Step 5:
Once you have the meat fully cooked, slice the meat into fine strips and set them into a large bowl.

Step 6:
Add the cilantro, green onion, cherry tomatoes, red onions into the large bowl of pork and mix well.

Step 7:
Optional, squeeze half of a lime into the well mixed pork.

Step 8:
Serve with sticky rice or rice of your choice.

Step 9:
Don't forget the water.

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! koj siab zoo kawg uas koj tseem kam qhia the recipe rau kuv thiab os. 

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Food Forum / Re: What's for Dinner Food Collection

« on: June 11, 2015, 08:11:12 PM »

What I made over the weekend....

Pork salad....

I really like this pork salad pics. ntxim li yuav qab tshaj plaws li. do you mind sharing the recipe?

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Travel & Vacation Forum / Re: any hmong woman up for traveling the world (2015)

« on: May 19, 2014, 05:35:28 PM »

wow, I admire you and kinda jealous of you. I wish I live a life that I'm free to travel the world like this. unfortunately, I have too much bills to take care of. if I stop working, where am I going to live? what am I going to eat and what will pay my bills? all these prevent me from traveling.

you must have some $$$ saved up already huh, in order to travel for that long without working na. that's usually the case with most people anyways. for me, I don't have a dime saved up so it'll be super hard too. I wish I am financially stable in life already because I would be more than happy to be your traveling partner. sigh...I can always dream. if you don't mind, can you tell me how you're able to make this decision? did you have to save a lot? what about your bills? etc.