PebHmong Discussion Forum
Relationship => The Single & Dating Scenes => Topic started by: Dok_Champa on December 10, 2018, 10:36:31 AM
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Whether it's family(parents) or others, how do you feel about Hmong Match Making? Ever happened to you? How was it?
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I'm trying to match someone I know with someone else atm. ;D
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Whether it's family(parents) or others, how do you feel about Hmong Match Making? Ever happened to you? How was it?
How do I feel about it? Depends...
And yes, it has happened to me but I'm didn't need their help...
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I don't mind hmong match making...just as long as they don't mind me test driving their daughter, first! ha!
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Whether it's family(parents) or others, how do you feel about Hmong Match Making? Ever happened to you? How was it?
In this fast, busy, and stressful lifestyle we live in today, it's better to get a helping hand then not. I say it's a lot better than trying to sign up and pay for some eharmony match up service. Plus, it's comforting to know that the elders are matching you up with someone reputable. The meeting is a lot easier and if things don't work out there's no hard feelings.
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I don't mind it. I wish someone would match make 1 of my sisters. She had her heart broken and haven't bothered dating in over 3 yrs. I just want to see her happy and realize that she's worthy of being loved.
My dad always introduce his daughters this way to people inquiring: this is my oldest daughter, xxxx. She is married and lives in .... this is my daughter, xxxx. She is still single and never been married.
In my younger days a few older men would ask my dad for my # to give to their sons or nephews, so my dad would give our house phone away. ;D
The older men would give the strangers our address and sometimes we had strange boys that came around and asked my dad if they can sit around and talk to my sisters and I. Dad always told us to not be respectful and talk to them. As if we were mean or something. :knuppel2:
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Thundersaurus show me a picture of your sister...
I would like to date her!
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Thundersaurus show me a picture of your sister...
I would like to date her!
;D I think my sister is much older than you. She doesn't want to be anyone's cougar.
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Years ago, I met a Hmong girl at the new year. I asked her for her number. She deferred the request to her mother.
Her mother gave me their address.
I had nothing to write it on but said I would remember the address by heart.
Two weeks later, I still recalled it.
Now, I've forgotten it totally. I've forgotten her name, too.
I don't mind it. I wish someone would match make 1 of my sisters. She had her heart broken and haven't bothered dating in over 3 yrs. I just want to see her happy and realize that she's worthy of being loved.
My dad always introduce his daughters this way to people inquiring: this is my oldest daughter, xxxx. She is married and lives in .... this is my daughter, xxxx. She is still single and never been married.
In my younger days a few older men would ask my dad for my # to give to their sons or nephews, so my dad would give our house phone away. ;D
The older men would give the strangers our address and sometimes we had strange boys that came around and asked my dad if they can sit around and talk to my sisters and I. Dad always told us to not be respectful and talk to them. As if we were mean or something. :knuppel2:
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I tried match-make a guy friend and a woman friend of mine.
The woman friend was eager.
The man friend told me he would be willing.
I gave them each other's number.
Three months later, I learned that the guy already got another woman pregnant and was doomed to marry her.
I'm still trying to find a way to apologize to the woman friend.
I'm not doing this ever again.
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;D I think my sister is much older than you. She doesn't want to be anyone's cougar.
oh.. how little you know about your own sister. ;D
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Interesting stories..thank you for sharing.
I think now a day we need hmong match making more than ever before. If we don't, we're going to find many of the hmong singles dating out of race. Why? They are so busy w/ careers, education, and they hide themselves pretty well from one another to the point if we're not helping, they won't find one another.
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Years ago, I met a Hmong girl at the new year. I asked her for her number. She deferred the request to her mother.
Her mother gave me their address.
I had nothing to write it on but said I would remember the address by heart.
Two weeks later, I still recalled it.
Now, I've forgotten it totally. I've forgotten her name, too.
Aw, hope you find it soon Reporter!
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oh.. how little you know about your own sister. ;D
:D I am pretty sure I know enough to say so.
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I'm still waiting for your kids to hit 21.....
Not for me you silly. My kids dating your kids and we become one big happy family.
People that knows me don't hook me up. It is like giving me a free stripper, how easy can it be?
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The saying, "Is there anyone who can actually do match making?"
or just claims...
There is something like, I know someone who's single...but is that really match making?
time for internet... :D
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Interesting stories..thank you for sharing.
I think now a day we need hmong match making more than ever before. If we don't, we're going to find many of the hmong singles dating out of race. Why? They are so busy w/ careers, education, and they hide themselves pretty well from one another to the point if we're not helping, they won't find one another.
I completely agree. Now that we live in world that's blended in, it's harder to see people, especially our own kind for those that still want to stay within the race if possible. you don't see your own people anymore unless at family or social gatherings. as i grew older, i realized how much i needed hmong match making. lol. sometimes i wish i have old ladies that can refer me to someone nice or can refer someone nice to me. because i'm one of those quiet women who doesn't go out or socialize much, so without the elder's help, i might just be a single old maid forever. :'( I also know a few people around my age that need help in finding a partner too. so i completely agree with you that now a days we need hmong match making more than ever.
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I'm still waiting for your kids to hit 21.....
Not for me you silly. My kids dating your kids and we become one big happy family.
People that knows me don't hook me up. It is like giving me a free stripper, how easy can it be?
If we're ever fortunate to have a child, yours can court ours. ;D
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Tried it twice when I was younger. Both were distant family's relative's sons. My first experience went well. We made it pass our first year before he started talking to another girl and did the disappearing act on me. The second one...we talked for maybe 4-5 months and didn't connect much. Later found out he already had a gf but his parents wanted him to talk to one of my mom's daughters instead.
If I were to agree to a match making today, would need to interview the guy first. O0
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Tried it twice when I was younger. Both were distant family's relative's sons. My first experience went well. We made it pass our first year before he started talking to another girl and did the disappearing act on me. The second one...we talked for maybe 4-5 months and didn't connect much. Later found out he already had a gf but his parents wanted him to talk to one of my mom's daughters instead.
If I were to agree to a match making today, would need to interview the guy first. O0
Yep, the "match maker" can say this or that or share his/her opinions but it still comes down to the individual when it comes to subjective things like who's "suitable" for who...Gotta love the engagement period...much better than bride-napping IMO..
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Interesting stories..thank you for sharing.
I think now a day we need hmong match making more than ever before. If we don't, we're going to find many of the hmong singles dating out of race. Why? They are so busy w/ careers, education, and they hide themselves pretty well from one another to the point if we're not helping, they won't find one another.
I have been thinking the same thing lately too. A Hmong matchmaker is something that we definitely need these days. Someone that has a good read on people, who can study all the different profiles, interview the different candidates for their wants and needs, and match people up accordingly. Matches may not always work out, but having someone who can do a lot of the upfront work of filtering and narrowing down, will be so helpful! I mean, Indians and Jews use matchmaker services, why not have a Hmong matchmaker too?!
Maybe I should start my Hmong Matchmaker business!!! I will be taking time to study and interview people, so, I will definitely be charging a fee. What do you guys think is a good fee amount to charge?
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I'm totally against this. :D
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I'm totally against this. :D
Why? :knuppel2:
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Why? :knuppel2:
I'll tell you why.
You are going to get praise for such action but are you willing to handle the criticism if the deal goes sour? I always say. I can lead the horse to the water but the horse still needs to lick that booty. They are on their own from here on out. If you accept such term then lets go. :2funny:
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I'll tell you why.
You are going to get praise for such action but are you willing to handle the criticism if the deal goes sour? I always say. I can lead the horse to the water but the horse still needs to lick that booty. They are on their own from here on out. If you accept such term then lets go. :2funny:
Yeah, that's why the matchmaker's services should come with hold harmless and indemnify clauses, disclaimers, and stipulations. The parties must sign and agree that the matchmaker's job is solely to match people based on paper similarities and likenesses and based on the matchmaker's best guess of the compatibility of the two people, nothing more. Once the parties agree to the match, the matchmaker is out of the picture and out of the transaction. The sale is complete. No refunds or disputes. 8)
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At this age, the men who sign up for the service are too broken and probably just looking for a rebound/distraction to get over their most recently failed relationship. Older, single men have incurred too much relationship drama and history with toxic exes. Don't be surprised if they're still in touch. These people tend to become each other's family over the course of the years.
No thanks!