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General Relationship / Re: A man who makes a woman wait for years before he'll marry her...
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Honestly, unless you and your person are teenagers, there is no reason to delay your union year after year. Whatever obstacles stand in the way, as adults you work out the logistics. That is actually part of the "building a life together". It helps deepen your bond. But if your person is filled with excuses, then they just might not be interested in you that way OR they don't sense that you've passed the grooming phase where they need to feel certain that you're used to their ways, which is often very narcissistic and avoidance.
So even if you end up married to them, it will be very one-sided. You'll find that they have to get their way most of the time OR they'll give the silent treatment, which is a form of abuse. They may withhold sex, go cold, prioritize everything and everybody over you. Work and family is what they like to use because if you complain then you look like the bad guy.
I've had family, friends, and colleagues in this situationship and it never bodes well. Again, if the situationship doesn't end first and there is a marriage , it will be very one-sided.
Honestly, unless you and your person are teenagers, there is no reason to delay your union year after year. Whatever obstacles stand in the way, as adults you work out the logistics. That is actually part of the "building a life together". It helps deepen your bond. But if your person is filled with excuses, then they just might not be interested in you that way OR they don't sense that you've passed the grooming phase where they need to feel certain that you're used to their ways, which is often very narcissistic and avoidance.
So even if you end up married to them, it will be very one-sided. You'll find that they have to get their way most of the time OR they'll give the silent treatment, which is a form of abuse. They may withhold sex, go cold, prioritize everything and everybody over you. Work and family is what they like to use because if you complain then you look like the bad guy.
I've had family, friends, and colleagues in this situationship and it never bodes well. Again, if the situationship doesn't end first and there is a marriage , it will be very one-sided.
