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Dear Dr. PebHmong / Re: Yo

« on: January 02, 2019, 01:36:26 AM »

So I've been talking to this girl for about a year now and we haven't really solidified things yet due to our long distance relationship. However we do act like a couple when we are together. The thing is that we got into a really bad argument and decided to take a break from each other briefly. When I visited her again, she had told me that she was seeing another guy and had also slept with him on a couple occasions. We got together again and tried to work things out when I was back in town and it was good. And then I left town again... We once decided again that we weren't talking anymore.. 3 months later down the road I call her up and she is ecstatic to talk to me. She really wants to get with me and re lite our flame, but the thing is during our 3 months off, she went back to the guy. She finally realized that she didnt really like the guy as much as she had hoped.. So here I am, wondering if it is the right decision to continue my relationship with her? We have never dated but I feel like she did me wrong.. I need some help here.. Thanks.

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Dear Dr. PebHmong / Yo

« on: January 02, 2019, 01:29:54 AM »

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General Relationship / Re: Why do Asian Women dislike Asian Men? This is becoming a trend..

« on: November 10, 2018, 11:41:29 AM »

Asian Men, when will we prevail..

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General Relationship / Re: Why do Asian Women dislike Asian Men? This is becoming a trend..

« on: November 10, 2018, 09:05:28 AM »

I have interview many Asian/Hmong women on this topic and the answer I get the most  is that Asian men are really controlling and that they (Asian Men) just wants to make Asian women their slaves.. With that being said, I figure that it is our part as Asian Men to re evaluate our own characters as Men.. The Asian culture itself is very centered on the Men. From my observation, the Hmong culture and it's traditions lack respect for Hmong Women. On the contrary, I have Caucasian friends that share their thoughts and ideas with me as well. And guess what, they are disrespectful as fudge towards women! Of course they will never open up this side of them to Women and "Asian" Women. But at the end of the day, they are just like me and you; my AZN brothers... Men will be Men! So it brings me to this theory: Do the Asian Women that chooses to be with a Caucasian man tell herself that everything is going to be aright when it isnt? In other words, she's in denial if her Caucasian partner turns out to be just like Asian Men and it's too late to go back to Asian Men. Am I being ignorant?

I've come across this scenario  a couple of times, and to be honest it's really sad. For the ones that chose to go with another race and are successful in their relationships, props to you! Idk, blah!! Chime in well ya

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General Relationship / Re: Why do Asian Women dislike Asian Men? This is becoming a trend..

« on: November 05, 2018, 11:39:57 AM »

I think we need an intervention! Let's come together bros

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General Relationship / Why do Asian Women dislike Asian Men? This is becoming a trend..

« on: November 03, 2018, 01:37:08 PM »

I've traveled to many places around the world and I can assure you that....

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General Relationship / Re: San Diego Hmong!!

« on: June 17, 2018, 10:51:04 PM »

What do you guys do here? Seems like everyone has assimilated with everyone else.

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General Relationship / San Diego Hmong!!

« on: June 16, 2018, 10:02:46 PM »

Hello, any hmong people here? Where do you guys hang out at??

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General Relationship / Re: Marrying someone with a different faith???

« on: May 11, 2018, 09:45:52 PM »

Your situation will be tough.  In the Hmong culture, she is expected to adopt your religious belief/practices to be considered your family in life and in death. This is why there's NO middle ground, no such thing as respecting each other's religious differences in Hmong marriages, and if you try to do that, Hmong people will be looking puzzled like it's something never done before - like you're an alien, sooo un-hmong like, maybe a weakling, out of your mind, etc.. Also, she may be treated like an "outcast" from time to time if she doesn't.  Also, since you're traditional I'm assuming your family will be too and all of you will expect her to adopt your faith/religious practices.  Bottom line, it's best to say good bye now to avoid lots of headaches for everyone later...

Unless you're willing to stand up, be your own man and truly allow her to keep her faith regardless of what anyone says - to truly respect each other's religious differences, not let that get in the way of your marriage/and or love... But still, it will clash no matter what.  Certain milestones of your life, you'd be doing religious rituals/practices - will you pray or ua neeg?  or do nothing?  What if she wants to pray and you want to ua neeg?  What about the children later on, how do you plan to introduce religion to them? Your way or her way?  What about in your house, will you have a xwm kab or bible?  OR bible in one corner and xwm kab in another? 

People say this is America and there's religious freedom in this country.  But not so in the hmong yet.

Ahh maybe I could set it off first! A start to something new.

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General Relationship / Re: Marrying someone with a different faith???

« on: April 30, 2018, 10:32:05 PM »

Anyone here marry someone of a different religion? Any personal experiences? Do chime in.

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The Single & Dating Scenes / Re: finding someone in your 30s

« on: April 29, 2018, 06:10:06 AM »

LAOS!!

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General Relationship / Re: Marrying someone with a different faith???

« on: April 29, 2018, 06:03:57 AM »

The topic has come up once again! 

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College Life / Anyone in here have a Master's?? PhD??

« on: April 29, 2018, 06:01:23 AM »

Hello all, this question pertains to those of you who have already completed a post graduate degree or going through a post graduate program. I am brainstorming what I want to invest the next 1-3 years in. I have a degree in Business of Science in MGMT. Pretty broad degree, so if someone could share with me their experiences that'd be great. Go Go!!!

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The Single & Dating Scenes / Re: Late 20s and single... What's life?

« on: April 29, 2018, 05:54:29 AM »

This post shall remain alive!

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General Relationship / Re: Marrying someone with a different faith???

« on: November 17, 2017, 08:22:56 PM »

if you think that's good advice you are lost 

Why?