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The Single & Dating Scenes / Where to meet singles in your 30s

« on: April 06, 2021, 06:46:29 AM »

I moved to Minnesota almost two years ago. I'm in my mid 30s. I have a professional working job. I live by myself and have no kids. Since moving here, I have fancy mostly Hmong bars like Checkers and Unison once in a while, apart from doing my own things. However, I rarely run into the right person that I can share my life with. Previously, I lived in a less dense Hmong population area, but I was still young, had many friends, and still in school. So, it was easier to go out with single friends and mingle to potentially meet someone. For those who are in their 30s, do you find yourself struggling to find someone as I do? I don't have many single friends living in the Twin Cities, so it's hard to meet new people. Most people my age are married with kids as well. So, where do all the single professional working people hangout in the Twin Cities these days or in general? 😅

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Marriage & Family Life / Young single parent or single in your 30s which is harder to find love

« on: December 09, 2018, 04:11:10 PM »

So, what are everyone's thought on this?

First of all I just wanted to say that this is not to bash or disrespect any of my fellow PHers and I apologize in advance if I offended anyone. This is my just own opinion.  Personally, I think it is harder to be a single parent and to find love than it is for someone in their 30s to find love. Although, I am not a single parent myself, I do find it difficult to accept someone else if they have a child. I have never dated anyone with kids, but I see a lot of single parents out there in mid 20s who are still very attractive. I have met a few of them that I connected with, but when I learned that they have a child, that is usually my dealbreaker. However, I'm sure they are out there looking for the right person as well. What I am shocked to find is that even if they are single parents and smokin hot, they still very picky. lol. I mean, majority of them got nothing going for themselves,..like just high school graduates, working a dead-end job, and yet is expecting prince charming.  From my experiences, some of them have mature up and some have not at all.     

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General Discussion / Anyone going to Fresno New Year this year?

« on: December 08, 2018, 10:51:19 AM »

Anywhere planning to go to the Fresno New Year this year? Has anyone actually met someone there lol.  Just wanna hear your experiences.

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The Single & Dating Scenes / finding someone in your 30s

« on: January 29, 2018, 09:01:22 PM »

So, I've been single for a while now. I'm in my mid 30s and am pretty successful where I am in life at the moment. One thing I noticed is that is really hard to find a decent Hmong girl in their mid 20s to early 30s's who is successful, attractive, and is not taken. I don't mind if they are divorced, but I just can't handle if they have kids as I'm not ready to be a dad yet.  I have met plenty of girls who are younger and those who are older, but not many in between. I think that as an older guy, we can always married a younger Hmong girl. What about Hmong women? What age do you think it's too late to find a nice decent Hmong man? Would you ever consider marrying someone way younger than you are? Or at that point, would you just consider marrying someone who is not Hmong?

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Dear Dr. PebHmong / Never thought i would be a yawg nrauj...

« on: February 01, 2016, 10:29:04 AM »

Guys/Gals,

I never thought I would be in a situation like this, but recently found out my wife cheated on me. It's been a couple of weeks, and I came back home to try to worked it out a few times.  Now, life throws another curveball at me and I recently found out she is pregnant.  The thing is she lied about the dates she slept with the guy when I came back to try to work it out, and  now she is pregnant with a baby that could not be mine. I am debating on divorcing her, and she isn't planning to keep the kid.  I never thought I would be a yawg nrauj, and I have been out of the dating game for so long, I don't know how I will meet anyone else if I leave. Btw, I'm only 31 years old and my wife and I have been married 6 yrs.  Let me know your thoughts.