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General Relationship / Re: When your ex is now with the family friend, they were already cheating

« on: Today at 12:12:16 PM »

I know a pair whose tumultuous situationship started out as FWB. They were already micro cheating while she was married and he was a newly divorced man whom she invited to help with her business. Needless to say, he made a financially-motivated decision to move in with her after her divorce. However, she was extremely insecure and suspicious of all his female contacts because she knew that if he cheated with her, why wouldn't he do the same with another female friend/business colleague? I haven't told her but, "yes" I can confirm that he does in fact cheat with some of these female friends/professional colleagues. He doesn't get physical with all of them and not all of them are open to cheating. But for sure, he has at least one or two that he is cheating with. So she isn't crazy for thinking so.

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General Relationship / Re: When your ex is now with the family friend, they were already cheating

« on: Today at 12:03:27 PM »

For me personally, I don't have much respect for those who sleep with a friend/coworker and then go on to date them. It shows that they have very little integrity and can't be trusted to have a social circle since you never know who they're going to hook up with. It almost seems that these people do go on to date other people in their social circle when the other situationship ends.

If a person has a history of FWB, I'd question the dynamic of all their opposite-sex friendships. And you can bet that even if they aren't having sex, they are emotionally micro-cheating with at least one of their so-called friend. 

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General Relationship / When your ex is now with the family friend, they were already cheating

« on: Today at 11:45:13 AM »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cc7tN3UXDzw&list=PLTi6COY1KUltCjjYLxsSUqYwJvsiNoZcP&index=134

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General Discussion / When I was a manager, I realized that there were a lot of lazy people

« on: Today at 09:16:15 AM »

lazy, lazy, lazy BUT wanted the CEO salary.

These lazy people don't want the stress that comes with keeping a business running, BUT OH, they think they should get paid the same wage as the people who really keep the company in operation.

I can't stand it when BLACK WOKE LIBERALS CRY "Our people literally built this company!"

Yeah, you did the low-skill labor part BUT YOU WERE NOT THE VISIONARY WHO ORCHESTRATED AND PLANNED the success of America.

That's like children complaining "But I did the dishes and mopped the floor."

Okay, but do you oversee how the bills are paid? do you inventory what needs to be refilled in the house? do you manage what needs to be done around the house?

NO - not unless the real boss delegates the role to you.

And MORE IMPORTANTLY, ARE YOU THE ONE WHO IS GOING TO BE RESPONSIBLE IF THE HOUSE GOES UP IN FLAMES? ARE YOU GOING TO BE THE ONE WHO HAS TO PLAN WHERE THE DISPLACE FAMILY WILL LIVE AND HOW THEY'RE GOING TO EAT?

The majority of employees don't care if the company goes belly up other than the fact that they'll lose their job. But if that happens, they need simply to just apply elsewhere. It's the people at the top that lose and especially those who own the company that have the most to lose. It was their money that invested in this company. 

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General Discussion / Dems be expecting gig job to be something it's not, like women who expect...

« on: Today at 09:08:59 AM »

...their hobosexual housemate to be a real husband. 

If you choose to work full time at a gig job - THAT IS YOUR CHOICE AND YOUR PROBLEM.

There are plenty of low skill job positions at companies that offer 401k, PTO, health, dental, and vision benefits. GO WORK THERE.

In fact, this is EXACTLY WHAT YOU SHOULD DO. Let me write the blue print for you:

1. Accept a low skill job with a company that offers benefits even if it's low paying. You are strictly just there for the benefits.
2. Then work the gig job at night.

I know a lot of people who do this and they're just fine. In fact, they're more than fine. I know married couples where the husband is a white collar professional who runs his own small firm/agency. Because he wouldn't be able to get affordable insurance, the wife will get a job as a secretary at a company with benefits for the family. She doesn't need work a high-paying job at all.

Dems are delusional.

If you want a high-paying job then you gots to get the edumacation and skills to qualify. Don't be asking Walmart to increase your pay as a greeter. You think them doctors get paid the big bucks because they slept through school and skipped out on residency?

I'm just so sick and tired of these bums.

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General Discussion / Again, the woke minorities ruining it for the rest of us

« on: Today at 08:53:13 AM »

No wonder it's so easy for the Democrats to control them. 

GET A REAL JOB AT A COMPANY THAT GIVES YOU THAT STUFF.

The GIG economy is for those who want a side hustle. That stupid Latino female official is WRONG! Not all of us have a side hustle because our main source of income doesn't pay a living wage. We get a side hustle because we're industrious and love to make money. But most importantly, WE WANT TO DO IT ON OUR OWN TIME AND WE WANT THE MONEY AS WE EARN IT.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WmmWACAfGaY&list=PLTi6COY1KUlsihiFA8DRwSzu0vxPBy3jC&index=17&t=198s

Honestly, this is why I don't want anything to do with dumb, woke, leftist minority communities. I don't live in one and I don't deal with them UNLESS they are a niche market that I can sell services to. I've only had horrible experiences with them because these people have no clue on how to plan, run, and sustain a thriving, flourishing community.

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General Discussion / Re: The DEEP SOUTH doesn't represent conservatism, unlike San Fran, Detroit, NY, Chi

« on: Today at 08:43:36 AM »

When BNM says that the deep south don't represent Conservatism. So that means there are Democrats living there as well? lol

There are large black communities in the deep south and many vote Democrat.

https://politics.stackexchange.com/questions/54859/why-are-deep-south-states-said-to-vote-so-lop-sidedly-republican-when-they-have

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General Relationship / Re: A man who makes a woman wait for years before he'll marry her...

« on: Today at 02:33:18 AM »

...continue...

Honestly, unless you and your person are teenagers, there is no reason to delay your union year after year. Whatever obstacles stand in the way, as adults you work out the logistics. That is actually part of the "building a life together". It helps deepen your bond. But if your person is filled with excuses, then they just might not be interested in you that way OR they don't sense that you've passed the grooming phase where they need to feel certain that you're used to their ways, which is often very narcissistic and avoidance.

So even if you end up married to them, it will be very one-sided. You'll find that they have to get their way most of the time OR they'll give the silent treatment, which is a form of abuse. They may withhold sex, go cold, prioritize everything and everybody over you. Work and family is what they like to use because if you complain then you look like the bad guy.

I've had family, friends, and colleagues in this situationship and it never bodes well. Again, if the situationship doesn't end first and there is a marriage , it will be very one-sided.

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General Relationship / Re: A man who makes a woman wait for years before he'll marry her...

« on: Today at 02:15:57 AM »

There are women who do this too and also for the same reason. It's about power.

"If I can keep you interested, invested, and chasing me without ever having to fully commit to you, then it means that I have the power to control you. And I don't want to be in a marriage unless I can control my spouse. Because I don't want to feel emotionally vulnerable and fear that they might divorce me."

A marriage from this type of dynamic is always one-sided because one person has been trained to be the codependent partner. What basically happens is that the more narcissistic partner will use the excuse, "I want to work on my career, myself, etc. I don't have time to be in a fully committed marriage with you, but I'm open to playing house. And if things don't sour too much between us, I'll consider marrying you."

Since the more anxious partner is in love with the potential of the relationship, they latch on. Anxious people tend to have lower self-esteem so they fall for the more narcissistic person's lovebombs, future faking, and delusions of a happy pairing. In addition, narcissists are masters at selling themselves to be the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend who will become the perfect husband/wife. That's the whole reason for the lovebombing phase where they're extremely attentive, helpful, showing grand gestures - the kind of behavior that is usually exhibited only when in a fully committed relationship. They're marketing themselves. "This is how it will feel to be in a commitment with me, if I choose you."

The anxious person is sold! They become addicted to this potential future. Meanwhile, the narcissistic person always keep their options open.

If the anxious partner passes the test during the grooming stage by not demanding too much or becoming too overwhelming to the more narcissistic partner, then that's when a marriage could happen. But most often than not a breakup will always happen. The anxiety becomes too much, triggering the anxious partner to become more and more jealous, insecure, and "problematic". But remember, they don't become that way all on their own. The more narcissistic person orchestrates that by using push and pull, hot and cold, energy.
The anxious person's tantrums will be the perfect excuse for the narcissistic partner to end the situationship. They realize that their goal of having a one-sided relationship where they have all the power will not be possible with this person and therefore, they need to move on from this "crazy, toxic" being.

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General Relationship / A man who makes a woman wait for years before he'll marry her...

« on: April 17, 2024, 04:53:34 PM »

...is making sure that he has all the power in the relationship.

That is all it is.

The women in this kind of dynamic have been groomed to be codependent since the men who do this tend to have stronger narcissistic traits. The man knows that at this point he can do pretty much anything and get away with it. I'm not even talking about cheating. I'm talking about emotional manipulation using such tactics as: stonewalling, gaslighting, breadcrumbing, and silent treatment. These are all displays of abuse.

Men who do this also tend to have a history of rocky relationships whether the ex was initially toxic or became that way during the course of the relationship due to his hot and cold behavior. Again, this behavior is a test to see how much she'll put up with.
 

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General Discussion / Re: How would you translate the Hmong term "tu siab" into English?

« on: April 17, 2024, 03:09:55 PM »

Sorrow

noun - a feeling of deep distress caused by loss, disappointment, or other misfortune suffered by oneself or others.
"he understood the sorrow and discontent underlying his brother's sigh"

verb - feel or display deep distress.
"a woman had cried all night, sorrowing over the death of her husband"

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The Single & Dating Scenes / Re: She chased him for over ib pav mais but got ghosted

« on: April 17, 2024, 02:44:14 PM »

His wife found out about the purchase on their bank statement. She took the
guy away from this girl.

A man who purposely orchestrates two women to fight for him has very low self-worth. In addition, he will always have bad intentions with women. Some day, he gonna cross the wrong one and there isn't going to be a state or country far away enough for him to hide.

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General Discussion / Re: Why are Lefties/Demmies buying guns?

« on: April 17, 2024, 02:32:55 PM »

True.

These woke leftists should've learned from Tou Ger Xiong's death that "migrants" coming from those countries only use knives to kill.

They should stock up on more knives. 

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General Discussion / Re: STOP BEING MAD AND ANGRY all the times

« on: April 17, 2024, 02:27:30 PM »

Wow, stop the anger and madness by inciting anger and madness.

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General Discussion / Re: how to pass BNM bar exam: im a cheater and a liar

« on: April 17, 2024, 02:24:06 PM »

i just love eating them deliciousness tree rat
taste better than beef in my opinion

i like you suck the brain on the head if you come over

 

Wow, soliciting sex on PH.