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Title: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 02, 2017, 07:44:00 AM
Hello all. I'm just curious to know...how do single people meet other single people these days?! Losing hope on finding "the one" and reality is starting to set in that I'll have to look outside of the Hmong community.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: lexicon on March 02, 2017, 09:02:49 AM
Friends of friends. That was my personal experience anyway.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 02, 2017, 09:12:44 AM
It seems to be that's the only way these days. Unfortunately, my social circle isn't as large as it could be. No one has anyone to recommend, especially at my age...the pool just gets smaller and smaller.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: theking on March 02, 2017, 09:19:14 AM
Hello all. I'm just curious to know...how do single people meet other single people these days?! Losing hope on finding "the one" and reality is starting to set in that I'll have to look outside of the Hmong community.

Depends on the individual...B esides from the suggestions you may find here, Google is your friend so you can ask it too..as there are too many to list.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: lexicon on March 02, 2017, 09:21:42 AM
I can sympathize. I wouldn't fret too much though. Love will happen regardless of if the individual is Hmong or not.

If you are pretty still adamant though, I hear the HND conferences are full of young and single adult professionals. It's just hearsay though so don't hold me to it.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 02, 2017, 09:54:58 AM
I don't think there's an issue of finding a man and I do believe you can find everlasting companionship outside of the Hmong community however, there is an irreplaceable bond that exists if you find someone of similar background/traditions. I also worry about my parent's acceptance of such a man.  Thanks for the kind words Lexicon! Just didn't know if there was a place I wasn't aware of to find someone of similar interests.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 02, 2017, 10:28:44 AM
Hi Poison, that's potentially my downfall as well. I'm not so much particular about physicality although that is important to a certain aspect. I do have certain standards of living. By that I mean, he better have a job and bring in some income. I don't need you to make 3 figures cause I certainly don't but you can't be a bum working a part-time job so you can go fishing on your days off and continue living at your parents place cause you don't want to pay rent - that won't fly with me. Cost of living is high and these days dual income is necessary to survive without living in poverty. Is that too much to ask for these days?
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Gucci K on March 02, 2017, 11:13:57 AM
Hello all. I'm just curious to know...how do single people meet other single people these days?! Losing hope on finding "the one" and reality is starting to set in that I'll have to look outside of the Hmong community.
for a reserved, modest and shy person...and as one who is single and wanting to mingle, 1st step is to get out of your comfort zone.  one should not be a secret agent about wanting to date.  expressing your interest often draws in people who are in the same boat, not only that but certainly, referrals from trusted friends/family, who wants to see you happy.   worst case, one can make new friends as you would do here in PH, who knows you might get lucky and bang one!

"hi, nice to be of your acquaintance!"  now, was that so hard?  lol...j/k.

Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 02, 2017, 11:43:35 AM
for a reserved, modest and shy person...and as one who is single and wanting to mingle, 1st step is to get out of your comfort zone.  one should not be a secret agent about wanting to date.  expressing your interest often draws in people who are in the same boat, not only that but certainly, referrals from trusted friends/family, who wants to see you happy.   worst case, one can make new friends as you would do here in PH, who knows you might get lucky and bang one!

"hi, nice to be of your acquaintance!"  now, was that so hard?  lol...j/k.

Ha! You make it sound so very easy. Another difficulty is that I don't live in a highly populous  hmong community...I do work a lot so I don't "mingle" like I should and my social life is pretty nonexistent. But I'm definitely open to getting to know more people and if things blossom...then they do!
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: thePoster on March 02, 2017, 01:00:10 PM
So youre a female huh??!?

Well right here pick me!!

Anyways I know where youre coming from.

Talking about looking outside the hmong community..

I too would love and still hope to marry a hmong girl and like you said, there really is a special connection when you marry another hmong person...at least toe anyways!  Thats how I feel too.

But anyways!  Brings me to a story!  I was driving back home and I was thinking...yes terday a person was giving a lecture and he had married a different race person..  no big deal...  anyways while I was driving home I was thinking "dang, what if I ended up marrying someone other than a hmong girl?!?!"  I can definately see a possibility of that.  Usually im not where theres alot of hmongs or any at all so its very hard for me to them as well in a face to face.  I was also thinking about how sad Id be!  Yes Id be happy I got married and found someone to love but id be so sad she wasnt a hmong person!  My mom would br sad too!!   

So anyways, thats what I was thinking on the road when I was coming home. 
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Giggles_Shyly on March 02, 2017, 01:39:19 PM
Pretty much anywhere: socializing with mutual friends, relative parties, church, colleague gatherings, etc...
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Magic Mike on March 02, 2017, 03:41:32 PM
Speed dating on PH would be fun.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: lexicon on March 02, 2017, 03:58:09 PM
I don't think there's an issue of finding a man and I do believe you can find everlasting companionship outside of the Hmong community however, there is an irreplaceable bond that exists if you find someone of similar background/traditions. I also worry about my parent's acceptance of such a man.  Thanks for the kind words Lexicon! Just didn't know if there was a place I wasn't aware of to find someone of similar interests.

I was in a similar situation so I can give you all the advice (mostly bad) you might need (or regret).

It wasn't until I was out of high school that I had a friend who was Hmong. That's not to say I was missing out on anything, but, like you I grew up away from the larger Hmong communities. I moved, which helped, and I eventually met relatives who introduced me to other people who in turn introduced me to other people and so on and so forth. Of course, I didn't go in looking for Mrs. Right. At that time in my Life I was looking to reconnect with my roots. But, Mrs. Right came into my Life when I least expected. I guess the lesson was stop looking and you'll find whatever you're looking for.

Good luck and I hope at the very least you'll make some new friends in here. It's a start.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: duckwingduck on March 02, 2017, 04:13:24 PM
I'm in the same boat.  I tried online dating.  No white girl would pick me even the ugly ones.  Hardly any Hmong would reply to my messages. 

Over the weekend, I manage to meet a few people through another friend.  Go to events if invited. 

Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: nightrider on March 02, 2017, 07:41:17 PM
Hello all. I'm just curious to know...how do single people meet other single people these days?! Losing hope on finding "the one" and reality is starting to set in that I'll have to look outside of the Hmong community.

lol

You're asking the wrong crowd in here cause most of us single folks are in similar shoes. Either work too much, no time, no hobby, no going out, no friends, too weird/strange, or just simply incompatible with anyone to want to meet people. Having friends and family does help if they can refer people  but mostly you still need to do the work yourself. The put yourself out there is a very good advice to follow but just simply being out there never works. I believe it will only works if you take the initiative with other folks whom are in the same boat and just hang out at safe trusted place. Get to know each other, build relationships and contacts from there. If you want to gain something important, you will need to drop some of your pride.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: duckwingduck on March 02, 2017, 08:10:21 PM
demure,

why don't we get together and introduce each other to our friends?
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 03, 2017, 08:47:02 AM
You know, if you have a busy schedule but still want to be able to meet new candidates, I suggest online dating. And not the cheapo free websites where people go to get laid, but the credible sites where you pay a fee. You'll find that the people you meet there are more likely serious about relationships, thus not wasting your time.

I have to admit, I did make a profile on the "cheap" apps and you're right, there's not much quality there. Perhaps in the near future I may think about paying for a subscription.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 03, 2017, 08:50:02 AM
I'm in the same boat.  I tried online dating.  No white girl would pick me even the ugly ones.  Hardly any Hmong would reply to my messages. 

Over the weekend, I manage to meet a few people through another friend.  Go to events if invited.

While I created the dating profiles  - I'm really weary of meeting complete strangers. Too many crazies these days.  Women are finicky but I can offer some advice: confidence and quiet persistence can sometimes pave the way to a woman's heart. Godspeed to you on your search duckwingduck!!
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 03, 2017, 08:56:03 AM
lol

You're asking the wrong crowd in here cause most of us single folks are in similar shoes. Either work too much, no time, no hobby, no going out, no friends, too weird/strange, or just simply incompatible with anyone to want to meet people. Having friends and family does help if they can refer people  but mostly you still need to do the work yourself. The put yourself out there is a very good advice to follow but just simply being out there never works. I believe it will only works if you take the initiative with other folks whom are in the same boat and just hang out at safe trusted place. Get to know each other, build relationships and contacts from there. If you want to gain something important, you will need to drop some of your pride.

All of those things you listed apply to my personality to some degree - I like to think I'm not that weird :). I'm not a social butterfly anymore. It's definitely hard to find a good social group as you age/move around. Back in my undergrad years, it was so easy to meet people. But therein lies my problem as well. I've got much pride - I'm a bit traditional when it comes to dating. I don't like to chase, but I don't think I'm unapproachable either. Oy vey.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Gucci K on March 03, 2017, 09:54:26 AM
i'm also curious to know...is this a conversation thread only or can it be a hook up line?

because if it is part of a hook up line, I see you have several hits from the guys and two girls.  If i was you, i'd pick the two girls first!  :D O0 ;D

Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 03, 2017, 10:49:15 AM
i'm also curious to know...is this a conversation thread only or can it be a hook up line?

because if it is part of a hook up line, I see you have several hits from the guys and two girls.  If i was you, i'd pick the two girls first!  :D O0 ;D

Hah - one is welcome to perceive it however they like but I prefer it to be networking. :D
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Gucci K on March 03, 2017, 11:02:09 AM
Hah - one is welcome to perceive it however they like but I prefer it to be networking. :D
networking is for business...hoo k up is for pleasure!  chose your poison!  O0
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: duckwingduck on March 03, 2017, 02:26:18 PM
networking is for business...hoo k up is for pleasure!  chose your poison!  O0

Not true.  You can do both with networking.

Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: lexicon on March 03, 2017, 03:17:51 PM
One of you single members should just post a thread to "network". I'm sure plenty of people would be interested.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: lexicon on March 03, 2017, 03:19:07 PM
Something straight forward and less beating around the bush.

Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: nightrider on March 06, 2017, 11:56:19 PM
All of those things you listed apply to my personality to some degree - I like to think I'm not that weird :). I'm not a social butterfly anymore. It's definitely hard to find a good social group as you age/move around. Back in my undergrad years, it was so easy to meet people. But therein lies my problem as well. I've got much pride - I'm a bit traditional when it comes to dating. I don't like to chase, but I don't think I'm unapproachable either. Oy vey.

Of course, you're not that weird...lol Being weird is neither good nor bad; I think everyone is weird in their own little ways and having some weirdness doesn't hurt because no one is perfect. I agree to a extent that it is definitely harder to find good social groups as you age because you no longer in an environment that allows plenty of opportunity like that of your undergrad years. In my case, I can say it's hard because I'm too weird and even too old fashion/backwardness to not have a social networking page like facebook and the likes. Don't you have one? I think most people with facebook can easily network and be able to forge good social groups both superficially and in the real world. But then again, it all comes down to pride and courage, not being able to compromise on pride and have the courage to meet pretty much kills any opportunity. Leave the chasing to the men.lol A woman that chases after a good man only can kill his interest.lol
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: tRouBLe on March 07, 2017, 07:55:30 AM
Friends of friends. That was my personal experience anyway.

I agree with this, along with friends of coworkers.

It is even hard to meet people when you go out with friends, because you tend to hangout/stick around those friends only.  Some couples that I know met online.  Just make sure you don't meet a catfish. ;D
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 07, 2017, 01:51:54 PM
Of course, you're not that weird...lol Being weird is neither good nor bad; I think everyone is weird in their own little ways and having some weirdness doesn't hurt because no one is perfect. I agree to a extent that it is definitely harder to find good social groups as you age because you no longer in an environment that allows plenty of opportunity like that of your undergrad years. In my case, I can say it's hard because I'm too weird and even too old fashion/backwardness to not have a social networking page like facebook and the likes. Don't you have one? I think most people with facebook can easily network and be able to forge good social groups both superficially and in the real world. But then again, it all comes down to pride and courage, not being able to compromise on pride and have the courage to meet pretty much kills any opportunity. Leave the chasing to the men.lol A woman that chases after a good man only can kill his interest.lol

I do agree, I think everyone is unique in their own ways, some more than others. :) Facebook is a great way to network and keep up with family/friends/acquaintances. I do have one, but it is a bit weird to be randomly adding complete strangers on my facebook, although it is an alternative route. I've been leaving the chasing to men and it's not working so well!!
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 07, 2017, 01:58:01 PM
I agree with this, along with friends of coworkers.

It is even hard to meet people when you go out with friends, because you tend to hangout/stick around those friends only.  Some couples that I know met online.  Just make sure you don't meet a catfish. ;D

Ugh, thats the truth.  The evolution of "online dating" allows for a greater depth of water to search for your significant other however, it also creates more BS that you have to wade through as well.  It's just hard to date these days!!!
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: lexicon on March 07, 2017, 02:06:05 PM
Do so and you'll end up right where you started. I'd rather step up to the plate in person than chase people through social media. Once you get over the hump of asking perfect strangers out face to face, you're golden.

IF, if you're still looking for people to meet. I'd plan a trip out to MN, WI or CA during the summer festivities or the NY's. If nothing you'll at least enjoy a weekend surrounded by your own kin.

Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: lexicon on March 07, 2017, 03:24:22 PM
Tru dat! I just want to be able to speak hmong about the annoying trendy hipster person in front of me with her faux yoga pants and overpriced chanel dead cow hanging off her shoulder while wearing ysl lipstick tested on innocent bunnies covered in cheap armani perfume trying to read Vonnegut and taking a selfie of her drink without anyone knowing because it's all very obnoxious. Ohhhh... and I would like to wear my 4'' heels sometimes without towering over a hmong guy.. but I'll settle for 3'' and we don't have to eat rice all the time because I can make couscous without it turning clumpy or some quinoa like that.


Otherwise, I'm used to traveling by myself...

What would faux yoga pants be? Pants?

And I can see where being a bit taller could be an issue. My s/o is about 8" shorter than I am and our hugs and kisses are more like face to neck or face to beard if it's in the Winter months.

Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 08, 2017, 11:10:22 AM
Tru dat! I just want to be able to speak hmong about the annoying trendy hipster person in front of me with her faux yoga pants and overpriced chanel dead cow hanging off her shoulder while wearing ysl lipstick tested on innocent bunnies covered in cheap armani perfume trying to read Vonnegut and taking a selfie of her drink without anyone knowing because it's all very obnoxious. Ohhhh... and I would like to wear my 4'' heels sometimes without towering over a hmong guy.. but I'll settle for 3'' and we don't have to eat rice all the time because I can make couscous without it turning clumpy or some quinoa like that.


Otherwise, I'm used to traveling by myself...

Haha - that's very nicely put Highway!! I'm glad someone understands me!
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 08, 2017, 11:16:33 AM
Meeting someone decent is hard because we are all SHY!!!  ;D Rule number 1 is to build your confidence. I cannot stress how important that is because if you're shy, quiet and have low self esteem you'll kill the mood. Well, I recommend trying FREEEEEE online dating apps/sites because it'll help boost your confidence when meeting people. Once you feel confident and have luck online, try UPGRADING to dating sites because you'll meet more potential men.  I tried the free dating app and it's a pretty cool experience besides some craziness like (crazy guys/broke/felons). You never know you might meet someone to your liking.

OR

Hook ups from friends, families and relatives. My sister boyfriend's cousins asked him if he can hook him up with someone because he doesn't know where to meet ladies. My sister asked me if I want to talk/get to know him but I told her IDK. I mean it's even more harder if you're over 30's. Tu Siab Tuesday!!   :) :D ;D Good luck.

Best referrals these days tend to be from word of mouth from friends/relatives. You should go for it!! I do agree though, the pool is painfully small for the Hmong community. For one, we're a small minority and unless you're living in highly populous areas w/ Hmong in MN/CA, you're not likely to meet anyone locally. At the same time, I feel the Hmong community tends to get married younger so once you hit your 30's - there ends up being a lot of divorcees, kids, etc. Simply put - dating sucks once you get into your 30's. It's harder to meet qualified individuals in hopes of developing long term companionship. I do envy those who have that. I hate the games that come with dating/feeling someone out too. :/ Lord help us!
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Gucci K on March 08, 2017, 11:41:12 AM
Tru dat! I just want to be able to speak hmong about the annoying trendy hipster person in front of me with her faux yoga pants and overpriced chanel dead cow hanging off her shoulder while wearing ysl lipstick tested on innocent bunnies covered in cheap armani perfume trying to read Vonnegut and taking a selfie of her drink without anyone knowing because it's all very obnoxious. Ohhhh... and I would like to wear my 4'' heels sometimes without towering over a hmong guy.. but I'll settle for 3'' and we don't have to eat rice all the time because I can make couscous without it turning clumpy or some quinoa like that.


Otherwise, I'm used to traveling by myself...
U N I, would make a great couple...becau se my eyes would be level to your TT's!  while you're up there, can you please point out my balding spots?   :D ;D

Best referrals these days tend to be from word of mouth from friends/relatives. You should go for it!! I do agree though, the pool is painfully small for the Hmong community. For one, we're a small minority and unless you're living in highly populous areas w/ Hmong in MN/CA, you're not likely to meet anyone locally. At the same time, I feel the Hmong community tends to get married younger so once you hit your 30's - there ends up being a lot of divorcees, kids, etc. Simply put - dating sucks once you get into your 30's. It's harder to meet qualified individuals in hopes of developing long term companionship. I do envy those who have that. I hate the games that come with dating/feeling someone out too. :/ Lord help us!
why give up hope so fast?  didn't you see some Phers whom welcomed the opportunity to meet with you? 
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: thePoster on March 08, 2017, 01:21:38 PM
Best referrals these days tend to be from word of mouth from friends/relatives. You should go for it!! I do agree though, the pool is painfully small for the Hmong community. For one, we're a small minority and unless you're living in highly populous areas w/ Hmong in MN/CA, you're not likely to meet anyone locally. At the same time, I feel the Hmong community tends to get married younger so once you hit your 30's - there ends up being a lot of divorcees, kids, etc. Simply put - dating sucks once you get into your 30's. It's harder to meet qualified individuals in hopes of developing long term companionship. I do envy those who have that. I hate the games that come with dating/feeling someone out too. :/ Lord help us!

Man!  I defly agree with that and I joined a hmong social group and expressed those same sentiment to them but they all tooo hollywood to hang out..

Oh wells! 
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: nightrider on March 08, 2017, 06:44:27 PM
I do agree, I think everyone is unique in their own ways, some more than others. :) Facebook is a great way to network and keep up with family/friends/acquaintances. I do have one, but it is a bit weird to be randomly adding complete strangers on my facebook, although it is an alternative route. I've been leaving the chasing to men and it's not working so well!!

Random?lol Nope. Adding complete strangers isn't a random thing you decide to do, rather it's selective especially on social sites. But yes, I think I understand where you coming from, it's like rubbing salt onto wounds. Anything you put effort in may make one feel pitiful in the end. I think this is something everyone has to struggle with whether you're a woman/man because a person can only take so many failures.  I too, especially hate the games that come with dating too. But then again, if dating can be bypassed, we're really cutting ourselves short and in all certainty trust and love may never bloom. I think it's only possible in the old days, where arranged marriages are common place.lol

U,
It's never good for women to stick around in a relationship for too long. Because honestly, I'd already think bad of you. This is why it's hard to meet qualified individuals.lo l
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 09, 2017, 07:04:25 PM
I don't know because I've never talk to anyone from friends/relatives referrals. I'm about to test one out so we'll see how that goes, that is if he texts me.  ;D I'm from CA. Even though there are lots of Hmong people, it's not easy to meet them because we're all SHY.  :D I'm over 30 and my birthday is coming up very soon this weeeeeekkend to be exact. Look, I've been in a relationship for a LONG time and I'm single starting today. I don't know where to meet Hmong guys. We can help each other out, how about that?  ;D

I do think in this day and age, we're all too careful, too scared, too modest and in the end, causes a hindrance to a potential relationship. Doesn't hurt to go in with an open mind. :) Let me know how it goes and godspeed on your search...that is if you don't end up with your boyfriend again. :)
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Shortstuff87 on March 14, 2017, 08:49:59 PM
I live in a state full of hmong bachelors (Florida to be specific). Some decent ones down here. I can introduce you if you want! A handful of them over the age of 30 too!
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 15, 2017, 10:08:10 AM
Always happy to network. :)
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: lexicon on March 15, 2017, 11:30:18 AM
Single Women of PH.
SWoPH.

There. Group titled.

Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: demure on March 15, 2017, 12:02:03 PM
HAHA - thanks for looking out lexicon!!
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Darksyde on March 22, 2017, 01:35:48 AM
At the bar. The ladies flock but I don't jock. If you want to meet a keeper, just be yourself. And if he digs you, you'll know it's all you. Random tip from The Hot Guy.  ;)
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: CheejSiav on March 22, 2017, 07:52:57 PM
I don't think there's an issue of finding a man and I do believe you can find everlasting companionship outside of the Hmong community however, there is an irreplaceable bond that exists if you find someone of similar background/traditions. I also worry about my parent's acceptance of such a man.  Thanks for the kind words Lexicon! Just didn't know if there was a place I wasn't aware of to find someone of similar interests.
You got us we can talk to you
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: CheejSiav on March 22, 2017, 07:57:33 PM
At the bar. The ladies flock but I don't jock. If you want to meet a keeper, just be yourself. And if he digs you, you'll know it's all you. Random tip from The Hot Guy.  ;)
Actually bars are really not a good place to find a "keeper" only slut would be dumb to be easy for guys at bars
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Darksyde on March 23, 2017, 05:58:30 PM
Actually bars are really not a good place to find a "keeper" only slut would be dumb to be easy for guys at bars

So you honestly think that every girl at a bar is a slut?

So church must be where all the keepers are at?...
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: lexicon on March 30, 2017, 02:23:30 PM
So you honestly think that every girl at a bar is a slut?

So church must be where all the keepers are at?...

No, that's where the aforementioned hide out after the partying  ;)

j/k

In all seriousness, CS just sounds overly judgemental.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: ziggie on May 28, 2017, 07:51:58 PM
Npnc
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Magic Mike on May 30, 2017, 10:30:26 AM
I would use social network. Singles are so busy these days but still have time for facebook. Go figure. Lots of them online.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: bloggersdigest on June 22, 2017, 10:42:25 AM
Like everyone else already said I would suggest social network/online dating and meeting people through friends.
Not sure how the online dating thing is but I have heard good stories from friends!  I wouldn't know though lol I meet my significant other through mutual friends.  Either way good luck and no rush! The right one will eventually come along.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Special_K on June 27, 2017, 04:03:33 PM
Hello all. I'm just curious to know...how do single people meet other single people these days?! Losing hope on finding "the one" and reality is starting to set in that I'll have to look outside of the Hmong community.

I'm feeling you on this one.. I've always said, "I'd never date outside the Hmong community" but these past couple of months got me thinking, why not? Maybe "the one" isn't Hmong. Maybe I'm destined to have mixed babies... but then again I'm so racist, I'm not sure anyone non Hmong would date me.  ::)

ARGH!
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Gucci K on June 28, 2017, 07:41:29 AM
I'm surprise there are a lot of single ladies on here...the likes of: special k, asharia, hiway, lexicon, ziggie, shorty, hot stuff and demure, plus others!  the problem with people is that they are afraid to meet!  the venues are simple, it starts with "hi" by PM, EM or OMg...however, when you initiate a meeting, they disappear. 
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: DJ-Jayce on June 28, 2017, 07:05:09 PM
i don't understand, why does the person have to be hmong? I never figured love have skin tones or race involved.

A majority of Hmong are homgeneous with a racist & prejudice mindset currently, IMO. Progress is being made but it's really slow.

[My parents only want me to date & marry Hmong. Despite that I've only dated nonhmong so far.]
[Half my siblings refuse to date or marry nonhmong. But they're okay with sleeping with other ethnic groups.]
[A few relatives, teens, early 20s I know are embarassed to date nonhmong because they feel they don't measure up. Not enough confidence, not good looking enough, not tall enough, etc. So they date only Hmong, since they believe the same ethnic group will likely be more lenient if you don't measure up to ideals.]
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: lexicon on June 29, 2017, 02:59:00 PM
Dude...why you gotta call me out like that??  >:(

Also, I like how you included Lexi as a single lady.  :2funny:


Ain't the first time  :2funny:

Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: lexicon on June 29, 2017, 03:05:25 PM
Hah!

I was told it because I used proper grammAr.

Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: lexicon on June 29, 2017, 03:39:25 PM
Bahh!

It's all relative. I would rather believe it's my androgynous charm.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Gucci K on June 30, 2017, 11:31:02 AM
Dude...why you gotta call me out like that??  >:(

Also, I like how you included Lexi as a single lady.  :2funny:
I'm calling you out because i know you would chicken out on a date!   ;)

lexi, yax, thehotguy are girls because they are cannibals..the y are what they eat!   :P ;D
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: DJ-Jayce on June 30, 2017, 06:58:50 PM
I find it narrow minded of you to call people racist for not wanting to date nonhmong. The same logic can be applied to you for not dating Hmong girls.

I guess we have different interpretation s of what it means to be "racist." Nothing wrong with not dating nonhmong because there can be an infinite reasons why. But if one of those reasons is based on "race", than that's "racist", IMO. I posted in another topic why I haven't dated Hmong yet. I mostly date locally. A majority of my life I have lived in small or nonexistant Hmong & Asian communities do to job opportunities. I would have to travel 40+ miles to meet another Hmong outside family.

I'm not that desperate or narrow minded to limit myself. I don't use the excuse "They're are no available women to date", when they're are plenty in most towns & situations.

There are certain Hmong I will refuse to date. I will not date my father's clan members, the Hang's sibling clan, my mother's clan members, the Yang's sibling clan, my sibling's internal in-laws, or blood relatives traceable to 1/8. At best you can call me "prejudice" if you find my reasons unreasonable.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: can on July 11, 2017, 02:01:38 PM
Hello all. I'm just curious to know...how do single people meet other single people these days?! Losing hope on finding "the one" and reality is starting to set in that I'll have to look outside of the Hmong community.
the real issue here is that you think you're better than most hmong men and that's why you have a hard time finding a potential s/o. keep in mind that most hmong men are merely ranked 3 at best. if you think you're a 4 and looking up then you're going to be very unhappy. you may have to look outside the hmong community or lower your standards.  O0
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: can on July 26, 2017, 12:42:56 PM
Quite presumptuous to think that someone thinks they're better. The irony.
i stroke a nerve with you. hehe. the truth hurts.  :2funny:
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Gucci K on July 26, 2017, 12:59:26 PM
the real issue here is that you think you're better than most hmong men and that's why you have a hard time finding a potential s/o. keep in mind that most hmong men are merely ranked 3 at best. if you think you're a 4 and looking up then you're going to be very unhappy. you may have to look outside the hmong community or lower your standards.  O0
I beg to differ...I have had the pleasure of communicating to her via PM.  she seems down to earth, quite intelligent, holds a prestigious career/job, independent and sounds very pretty.  it is disheartening that she resides where there are lack of hmong residence (east coast).  if i was a believer of long distance, she would have been snatched up! 
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: theking on July 26, 2017, 01:51:25 PM
I beg to differ...

 ;D ;D ;D love it!

Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: theking on July 26, 2017, 01:58:22 PM
Quite presumptuous to think that someone thinks they're better. The irony.

Yep, it is "Quite presumptuous" of her....But then again it's coming from a person that thinks eating rare steak is the "best" and she can't fathom why others like nkaujsee would want it any other way even though it's factual and common knowledge that taste is subjective..FA CT!

I mean the factual taste is subjective knowledge is so simple and common that servers ask their customers how they like their steaks done regularly at restaurants.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Gucci K on July 26, 2017, 02:07:40 PM
;D ;D ;D love it!
gotta help a sister theQueen out...she needs theKing in her life!
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: btw on July 27, 2017, 01:53:01 AM
i stroke a nerve with you. hehe. the truth hurts.  :2funny:

can, you're always having everyone in PH follow you like a puppy begging for treats.  :D
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Gucci K on July 27, 2017, 07:30:22 AM
can, you're always having everyone in PH follow you like a puppy begging for treats.  :D
Can's the MAn!  :P ;D

only if they know you like i do...they'll do more than beg for your treats!  ;)
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: theking on July 27, 2017, 10:55:44 AM
can, you're always having everyone in PH follow you like a puppy begging for treats.  :D

Hey look, another "everyone" claim from another member of that same clique.... ;D ;D ;D

So surprised they share that trait.......NO T!  ;D
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: can on July 27, 2017, 12:46:04 PM
can, you're always having everyone in PH follow you like a puppy begging for treats.  :D
you should see my inbox. creepy old PH men messages.  :2funny: :idiot2:
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Gucci K on July 27, 2017, 12:48:22 PM
you should see my inbox. creepy old PH men messages.  :2funny: :idiot2:
i've checked your PM and it says, ''you have 0 messages, 0 are new'   :D ;D
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: btw on July 27, 2017, 01:11:45 PM
you should see my inbox. creepy old PH men messages.  :2funny: :idiot2:
OMG! why am I not surprised.  :o
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: CheejSiav on July 31, 2017, 10:09:30 PM
So you honestly think that every girl at a bar is a slut?

So church must be where all the keepers are at?...

What I'm saying is most girls that goes to bars makes poor choices and I for one would not want a women who makes poor choices I've experience them all
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: lexicon on August 01, 2017, 10:36:45 AM
Ironic that many of the girls you see at church on Sundays, are the same ones at the bars on Friday & Saturday nights. That's just my personal observation of course.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Blongforever on September 01, 2017, 08:29:17 PM
Ironic that many of the girls you see at church on Sundays, are the same ones at the bars on Friday & Saturday nights. That's just my personal observation of course.

Lol!!!..., it'd be better hooking up with idiotic Kumbaya who talks garbage in circle 👻👻!
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: jamesvang on September 18, 2017, 06:01:51 PM
Hello all. I'm just curious to know...how do single people meet other single people these days?! Losing hope on finding "the one" and reality is starting to set in that I'll have to look outside of the Hmong community.
have you tried tinder? i notice there's a lot of hmong on there now.
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: captian on October 17, 2017, 02:42:07 PM
Hello all. I'm just curious to know...how do single people meet other single people these days?! Losing hope on finding "the one" and reality is starting to set in that I'll have to look outside of the Hmong community.
your captain is here  ;)
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Darksyde on October 26, 2017, 11:26:46 PM
I'm calling you out because i know you would chicken out on a date!   ;)

lexi, yax, thehotguy are girls because they are cannibals..the y are what they eat!   :P ;D

Woah! The Hot Guy ain’t no chick and he’s always down for meeting the ladies. And if Asharia ever needed a date, it’d be too easy. Anywhere in the world; I’m always down.

Holla at me,
The Hot Guy 😉 😜 😂😂😂
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Gucci K on October 27, 2017, 08:33:05 AM
Woah! The Hot Guy ain’t no chick and he’s always down for meeting the ladies. And if Asharia ever needed a date, it’d be too easy. Anywhere in the world; I’m always down.

Holla at me,
The Hot Guy 😉 😜 😂😂😂
dude, you're a hot fried chicken, you've been hiding out all these time from ph.  what's the matter?  the army took your 50cal and sent you on duty with a 22? 
Title: Re: meeting people
Post by: Darksyde on October 27, 2017, 11:53:21 PM
dude, you're a hot fried chicken, you've been hiding out all these time from ph.  what's the matter?  the army took your 50cal and sent you on duty with a 22?

Lol. Some of us have a life outside of this place. Priorities. And none of these ladies in here are serious about meeting in real life anyways. I’d rather keep it real than digital. Just sayin. 😉😜