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Just had a discussion with the most ignorant older, white liberal woman. It started out as her "feeling icky" about carry and conceal. Then from her own ignorance she had the audacity to say that there was too much guns and that US was the most dangerous country in the west. I pointed out that the most violent cities were Democrat-run strongholds with some of the strictest gun laws. In addition, the country is on the decline because we've moved away from conservative values. This gained momentum in the 90s with the popularity of gangster rap and multiculturali sm in the schools. Again, pushed by liberal colleges and Hollywood.

Then I asked her why her city (one of the largest black population) was so crime-ridden, impoverished, and had one of the country's highest gun-related violence. If liberal policies were so great and by her arrogance, so compassionate for blacks, why did they fair worse and were dying by the dozens? She said it was due to discriminatory policies, Jim Crow, segregation, etc. etc. and she thinks it was the Republicans who did that.  :idiot2:

Lady, you live in a Democrat-controlled city that has been that way since right after the Civil War. If there were discriminatory laws then it was enacted by a Democrat governor, mayor, city officials, etc. I also mentioned that the Democratic Party was started by the KKK after they lost the Civil War.

I linked articles and other literature from Howard University (HBCU - historically black colleges and universities) as well as the Black American Holocaust Museum in her city that definitely said it was Democrat policies.

These white liberals are teaching your children in public schools when they are uneducated themselves.  :idiot2:

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General Discussion / Ahhh...now I understand
« on: March 20, 2024, 01:35:29 PM »
...why some people continue to be a woke leftist. They don't comprehend the information that is given to them or shown to them.

As someone who listens to "This American Life" (a left-leaning, liberal podcast), I came to be pro-border because of an interview with a Wisconsin journalist who spent time in the Darien Gap. Mind you, this came out long before the 2016 presidential election. It was obvious that a lot of shady characters were entering into the USA illegally. Back then it was okay to acknowledge that fact. The journalist wrote a piece about the dangers of the Darien Gap and the bad characters controlling it.

So once again, I don't need the media to tell me how to think or feel. I can draw my own conclusions from people's stories, which often times has nothing to do with the political issues. For example, I knew the NY illegal migrant crisis needed to be stopped after I heard the story of New York resident. She was talking about karma in her life that had nothing to do with the border crisis. Basically, the pipes in her house had busted and she became displaced. While her house was being fixed, she received $10k/month from the insurance company to get herself situated. A lot of rentals in her area were unavailable because they were housing the illegals. She then tried the hotels but discovered that they were unsanitary due to illegals occupying many of the rooms. But again, that's not what she was there to talk about. She was wondering if it was karma because she then had a friend who owned property and allowed her to rent one of the units. It became a very challenging ordeal and she was eventually kicked out. She wanted to know why she was experiencing a lot of setbacks.

As you can see, from her story that had nothing to do with Biden's failed border policy, we learned that there is indeed an illegal migrant crisis, and sanctuary cities are spending astronomical amount of taxpayer money to house the illegals, while residents are left on the streets.

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General Relationship / This is what I noticed about unhappy couples...
« on: March 15, 2024, 12:44:43 AM »
...whose been with each other for a long time - if there was a lot of drama, they are more likely to stay in each other's business. They might even opt to stay with each other out of familiarity.

Why is this? Because they've put up with each other's crap for so long and are completely comfortable showing their worst side to each other. At this point, trying to start a new relationship means they have to change and show up for the other person. Also, they will have to adjust to the new person's flaws, which they don't have the energy to do. Therefore, might as well stay with the devil you already know.

Honestly, the only way this cycle ends is if the woman has self-respect and cuts off the man. Otherwise, he'll always use her as a supply for when things aren't going right in his life.

In fact, it's women who don't have self-respect that create the environment for these toxic on and off situationships to exist. Until she has a new man who is serious about her and marries her, she will keep this cycle going with the narcissist.

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General Relationship / Be careful of...
« on: March 09, 2024, 12:16:21 AM »
...men who are too helpful early on when there is not commitment because they are misleading a woman to believe she is in a serious relationship that will turn into marriage. Basically, what's happening is that he sees her as a good woman with assets that he can use, but he'll never marry. I've seen many divorcees/widowers and even older single women used this way by men. These women are good people, most likely inexperienced because they married young or weren't the type who had a lot of serious suitors. Therefore, they make perfect targets because they're the wifey type - cooks, cleans, has a decent job, is responsible, doesn't go clubbing or have a lot of wild friends, comes from a good family, etc.

Respectable men who do want a marital commitment do not approach or court a woman this way. They do not play house BEFORE marriage because they do not want to waste time, energy, or money. First of all, before they court a woman they already have in mind that she has all the characteristic s they want in a wife, but they just want to make sure that she feels the same way about him. If she does, then they marry her.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UfW7xb2b_GQ


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The Dems support open borders because it means increasing the population in their strongholds states. That means that even if illegals can't vote, the increased population automatically means more House representative s. 

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General Relationship / What I learned about attraction from "Roxanne"
« on: March 04, 2024, 11:21:37 PM »
The right person is the one who makes you feel secure.

In this adaptation of the French play Cyrano De Bergerac, Steve Martin plays C.D. - a witty and charismatic fire chief with amazing acrobatic skills - who has a major crush on the beautiful and intelligent Roxanne. However, C.D. is blessed with a gigantic nose and it causes him to have self-esteem issues. C.D. and Roxanne have a brotherly/sisterly friendship. Meanwhile, Roxanne has the butterflies for the town's hunk, Chris. Chris is a firefighter in C.D.'s department and he also has the feels for Roxanne. However, Chris turns into a mumbling idiot in the presence of Roxanne, prompting him to enlist C.D.'s help to woo the woman of his dreams. Roxanne is a woman of many talents and wants a man who can hold deep, meaningful conversations, mixed with a poetic flair. Chris has none of those skills.

Anyways, what happens is that Chris's anxiety becomes too much and he eventually falls for another woman because she is easier to talk to. In the end, it is C.D. who is meant for Roxanne.

The point is that having too much butterflies for someone can be a red flag if it paralyzes you from being your true self.

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General Discussion / The Democrat Party Cult
« on: March 04, 2024, 02:55:04 PM »
Growing up, the only difference between the Republican and Democrat parties was how they came up with public policies to resolve the same problems that transcended all race, genders, and cultures. The Republicans tend to write policies that reflect American and Christian values. On the other hand, the Democrats pushed for policies that fell along the lines of being practical. However, somewhere along the way the Democrats became a religious organization (or rather, a cult) in which Liberalism was the new religion and public policies were doctrinal.

For example, on the topic of abortion. Back then, abortion was a practical resolution to stop a woman from having a baby that she didn't want. There wasn't a national dispute on whether the baby inside her womb was a life or not. Now, the Democrats are hellbent that the life inside the womb isn't life at all, and in fact, not even human. Folks, THAT IS A RELIGIOUS VIEW.

Another example, is racism/discrimination. Back then, the feminists and blacks were marching in order to participate in civic engagement. It was practical to protect this right for them. Now, the Democrats teach that whites are oppressors, even in cases where there is a wealthy white woman OR an affluent black African who migrated to the states. Folks, THAT IS A RELIGIOUS VIEW. 

The laws pushed by modern-day Democrats are nothing but them writing their Liberal Bible and forcing ALL Americans to obey. None of their policies have anything to do with finding practical solutions that align with American values.

Under the Democrats, we have become a lost nation where values do not come from God's truth, but from whoever holds the power to write the law. The law becomes the Bible, and such laws are ungodly.



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General Relationship / Let them GO!
« on: February 29, 2024, 10:18:53 AM »
Y'all I have been listening to too many Nancy Yang, Jenny Vang and Mab Vaj stories on Youtube. This is where all this stuff is coming from. I just find it so intriguing but at the same time, it makes meeting, dating, and having relationships so bleak!.  :-\ Clearly, everyone in the stories are narcissists.  :D

Anyways, there was this one story about the karma of a divorcee, but today I want to talk about the wife. Next time I will have to start sharing the link.

So the story is narrated from the POV of the divorcee's friend, who is also a divorcee. Basically, the divorcee was a self-declared homewrecker who would get into heated fights with the wives of her lovers. The divorcee was supposedly physically attractive and enjoyed having men spend a lot money on her and her friends. The divorcee said that she was too broken and had no faith in love, which was why she chose this path.

Everything took a turn when she and the narrator went to California to work on a marijuana farm. The divorcee met a handsome, charismatic, married man who was also there to work in the fields. They hooked up and had a very public relationship. The workers who knew him back home cautioned the divorcee that his wife was the heev heev type. In addition, the wife did everything and paid for everything, and the husband was the wimpy type with no ambition and didn't help around much. He was also a serial cheater. However, the divorcee and the married man swore that they were in love and he claimed that it was only a forced marriage.

One day, the wife showed up at the marijuana farm unexpectedly. It turned out that not only was she a loud, boisterous, and temperamental woman, but she was also very physically unattractive. The people were very taken aback by the fact that they were married at all.

Needless to say, there was a lot of drama, the husband went back home, more drama, had the clan mediate, etc. etc. etc. The husband continued the affair, more drama, clan said they couldn't do anything anymore.

So normally, I side with the non-cheating spouse BUT at this point, I'm going to call the wife as the culprit. Clearly, her husband married for convenience or who else knows why, and even she knew that they were not in the same league. Realistically, he should leave on his own, but she is always trying to hold him back. I don't know why he keeps staying other than he could be a narcissist and she is his primary supply, BUT she is unhappy and c'mon, she knows that she doesn't match him in terms of looks, education, etc. Not that those are the most important things but they make the two incompatible. Society always blames the old guy for when his young wife cheats. This could be the same thing where it's the wife who is not a match but keeps holding onto this guy.

Let him go.

I'm reminded of Nathaniel Hawthorn's "The Scarlet Letter" where her old, miserly husband is the villain. Everyone thinks that he shouldn't have cornered her into a marriage because she would've never been happy, and it wasn't like she could just easily divorce him.




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...you are less likely to be an abuser or to stay with an abuser.

So I've been studying a lot about narcissism and narcissistic traits. It seems to me that people who attract and stay with narcissists have abandonment issues stemming from their childhood as a result of neglect. These people hold on to toxic relationships because they don't believe they can find better or simply don't think they can find anybody else. Even when they know the relationship is affecting their mental health, they struggle to leave. There are even those with avoidant attachment style that say they don't need a relationship but will seek out tumultuous relationships one after another. Since their parents did not provide a supportive environment, they develop unhealthy attachments to harmful individuals later in life. They feel like having something is better than nothing.

Therefore, parents love your children so they develop a healthy self-esteem to love and be loved; so that they may never settle for convenience, and that they will be strong enough to leave when a situation no longer serves their best interest. And where do they get the courage? Because they know that even if the relationship doesn't work out, they have a loving and supportive family to come home to. 

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General Relationship / Walk away quietly OR get even?
« on: February 26, 2024, 05:02:26 PM »
I'm not a close friend to this person but we hang out in the same circle of friends. So a little over a year ago she began dating this guy who was long distance. According to her, he pursued her and basically called her everyday. However, he ghosted her about a month ago and needless to say she was devastated and still is. Since the Hmong are a tight-knit community, it turns out that he is still living with a girlfriend (whom he's been with for 8 years). The reason she found out was through 2 church members. The person I'm talking about doesn't go to the church though. Anyways...

One of the church member is a half sister to the girlfriend. Apparently, the girlfriend's father had multiple wives.
The second church member's late husband is related to the girlfriend's older brother-in-law (same clan).

They were saying that this guy is a player but the sister is too stubborn so they can't help her situation improve. Anyways, he takes advantage of vulnerable divorcees (he is also divorced) by acting like he wants to marry them. In the beginning he did all these great things. Love bombed her, helped around her house, always invited her to keep him company at events, came around her kids a lot, etc. Then after she moved him in they started having a lot of issues and he would tell everybody that he was a single dude. For some reason she won't kick him out and pays for all the bills even though he talks to other women and won't marry her. In addition, this guy has a lot of debt and legal problems. They think that's why he keeps living there even though he tells everyone that he won't marry her.

In a nutshell, he used both women. He keeps the first girlfriend to provide stability. The second girlfriend was just to distract him from all his problems.

So the long distance girlfriend is going to dump him, but she is mad as hell that he deceived her. She has a bunch of stuff that could humiliate him. We're talking Albert Xiong level.  >:D But should she?  ???

IMHO, those who ghost are narcissists and it's unlikely that they can find happiness with anybody. I don't know if one needs to publish scandalous photos of them to the public. Karma always find them. But I can see why she is really upset. But boy, this could be really juicy drama for the Hmong communities across the world to talk about.  :2funny:


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General Relationship / Relationship Insight You Don't Hear in Modern Day
« on: February 22, 2024, 12:09:11 PM »
Watch the video. Very interesting and insightful. So true! This definitely applies to Dok Chompa's thread.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yCK-BwMqqc0&t=302s

"MORE relationship experience is correlated with LESS marital quality/stability"

First of all, relationship experience refers to modern style where unmarried couples are having sex and may/may not cohabitate. I see a lot of this with the younger generation, but the difference with them is that many of them are doing this with their first bf/gf and they are marrying each other. Unlike folks of my generation who are dating modern style, but not ending in marriage and only creating a lot of trauma bonds, emotional anguish, etc.

This may be why people choose to stay in their current relationship despite feeling unhappy. They're familiar with their current partner's flaws and don't want to have  to adjust dealing with a new person's problems.

I'll have to come back and write the key points, but definitely worth the watch.




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Marriage & Family Life / What Would You Do?
« on: February 22, 2024, 09:44:48 AM »
During the George Floyd controversy, Kelly Chauvin divorced her husband Derek over his involvement in Floyd's arrest that resulted in death. I believe she ended their marriage due to the public backlash that also impacted her job, home life, family.

Would you have done the same thing? What if you discovered that your spouse/bf/gf was found guilty of a crime that would garner a lot of unwanted attention, would you stay or cut them loose. The crime that they committed doesn't have anything to do with the way you two interact with each other. In fact, you two get along very well.

Recently, there was evidence that Chauvin did not cause Floyd's death and I believe he is going to appeal. If found innocent and reinstated, should Kelly reconcile with her ex-husband?

Is there anything non-related to your connection that would justify splitting from your spouse/gf/bf?



 

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General Discussion / The negative impact of childcare
« on: February 21, 2024, 02:11:50 PM »
Did we really need studies to show us that childcare messes up children?

I've been getting a lot of this in my algorithm. Doctors, childcare providers, etc. are saying that prolonged childcare is damaging to the mental and emotional health of children, and children who were subjected to childcare develop attachment issues into their adult years. But more alarming is that states which support the childcare industrial complex tend to be more left-leaning. Not a surprise there. When you're raised in an institution, you are more likely going to vote for it.

First of all, imagine being a two-year-old who gets dumped off at a childcare facility. These caregivers aren't blood-related to you so they have very little interest in your entire well-being. They are only there to make sure you don't injure yourself. Even having grandma babysit you is not the same as your own biological parent. And it all depends on the competency of grandma, too. Some are too old. Some are too free-spirited and have weird friends in the home. Just ask any orphan about their existence under the care of a relative. It is just not the same. Btw, this is not a debate about deadbeat, abusive parents.

Secondly, you are plopped into an unstructured environment with a bunch of other kids who also don't have your best interest. Some may even intentionally cause you harm on a daily basis.

Thirdly, you're under institutional orders and rules all day long. You own nothing there. Whatever is available may be in subpar conditions.

None of these things are good for children who are going through important developmental stages. They need to be in their own home, in their own bed, with their own toys, being raised by their parent.

Obviously, there are legitimate situations where this can't happen. For example, if a parent dies then the stay-at-home parent will have to get a job to support the family. But folks, by all means, if you are not in a committed relationship where your family can live on a single income until the children are school-aged, then DO NOT HAVE A BABY!

And NO, abortion is not birth control. Just don't have a baby until you can care for it - at least the first 4-5 years of it's life.

 


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General Discussion / "Rarest Asian" - Comedian Andrew Schulz (4 min)
« on: February 21, 2024, 01:09:39 PM »
Andrew Schulz is a comedian known for his offensive remarks. Watch this clip about the "rarest Asian".

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vWl2YKYJhm4&t=202s

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General Relationship / The Perfect Boyfriend is a Red Flag
« on: February 21, 2024, 11:31:16 AM »
It seems to be very prevalent in today's mating ritual, but many relationship experts are saying that it's a red flag. Psychologists who have expertise in narcissism warn that it's a manipulative tactic used to make someone a primary supply.


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