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Marriage & Family Life / Woman upset that men marry less attractive women...

« on: June 09, 2025, 03:44:16 PM »

...because less attractive women put up with more and are less demanding. (Will have to link video clip some other time).

I don't know about that. A person's physical appearance doesn't necessarily determine their attitude and boundaries. Plus, physical attractiveness is subjective anyways.

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: People will be sexually wild when they can comfortably be so.

« on: June 09, 2025, 02:37:28 PM »

The guy who recently shot and killed his mos ab niam yau would've never felt fiery about his first wife, who was loyal and helped him build a good life. The mos ab already cheated on him two times and he kept staying in the marriage. He said that she had never been loyal to him despite her promises, and the last straw was after he found out that she had completed paperwork to go to France to be with her lover. She planned to abandon him and the kids. His intentions was to kill her and then himself, but during the struggle one of the bullets dislodged. After he shot her, he had no more bullet left for himself.

That guy was willing to die for a cheating woman.

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General Discussion / Some good memes

« on: June 02, 2025, 11:22:26 AM »

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General Relationship / Re: Don't think these women would risk this much for nice guys because nice guys

« on: June 02, 2025, 09:15:18 AM »

There are women who will always choose bums just like there are men who will always choose Jezebels.

Then they wonder why there is always drama in their relationships. 

Imbalanced people attract each other and let's keep it that way. 

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General Relationship / Re: interesting...

« on: June 02, 2025, 08:56:09 AM »

A lot of feuding "couples" have decided to stay together because they're comfortable where they're at. I quoted "couples" because many of them don't view themselves as a romantic couple or even a couple at all. They are now more like partners or a grade above roommates, who share a dwelling.

I once read through a bunch of comments from men who were asked why they stayed in their tumultuous relationship. Many of the men said that their belongings were already settled in the house, and that it wasn't hard for them to live a separate life from the woman in that house. It was preferred to moving out, living in a small apartment with noisy neighbors, and having to take care of the cooking, cleaning, etc. by themselves.   

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: You want to start your life with THAT GUY?? Don't do it girl!!!

« on: June 02, 2025, 08:48:42 AM »

The women who agree to this type of arrangement are typically imbalanced and view this as the last opportunity. To them, it's better to have a man's breadcrumbs then to have no man. They don't realize that by selling themselves cheap, they're changing the dynamics between men and women and now there will be no reason for any man to commit and give the real thing.

It's like the many mos ab who are willing to be with a 60 year-old. If an old man can have a luscious 18 year-old then why would he ever stay with his 50+ year old wife? Some will have both!

In China, there are many women who are willing to be a rich man's mistress. Some wealthy men have 3 or 4 mistresses whom they provide and pay for her housing, food, etc. They have an agreement where she will have his child. This is a win-win for the both of them because the man can get away with having more than one child. Meanwhile, the woman has created a security for her old age because the Chinese still depend on their child to take care of them. These Chinese women figure that it's better to have a part-time man who will give them a child, then wait around to see if a man will actually marry them.

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: You want to start your life with THAT GUY?? Don't do it girl!!!

« on: June 02, 2025, 08:10:46 AM »

Common law is how some Hmong men are practicing polygamy. They live with one girlfriend and have relationships with others. Sometimes the girlfriends know about the live-in girlfriend, but sometimes the man hides that relationship when he's pursuing other women. A lot of men whose lineage practices polygamy do this. Not all the men but the Hmong elders believe that if a great grandfather (ancestor) did this then there is bound to be at least one descendant who will follow suit.

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The Single & Dating Scenes / Re: It's the number 1 attraction for many women so do PH women feel it's a nightmare

« on: May 29, 2025, 08:29:22 AM »

The number one should be:

Has a committal energy (a sense of commitment)

Without that, the rest doesn't matter.

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Faith & Beliefs / Behold, Pope Leo!!!

« on: May 29, 2025, 12:55:09 AM »

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/-J0eHC0-9bw

He's very handsome and charming. A lot of women are already crushing on him. A mother posted a video clip of her review about Pope Leo's election and her young daughter said, "Mommy, he is cute."

Yes, Pope Leo has a very cute demeanor about him. Especially when he speaks and the expressions that he makes. I saw the clip of him at a White Sox World Series Game in 2005. He looked nervous because his favorite team, White Sox, was only two strikes away from winning. 

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Most people cannot handle abundance

« on: May 28, 2025, 12:18:59 PM »

There was a girl who was admired by all the available bachelors and their parents. She was tall for a Hmong girl at that time, 5' 6", lean, and just about the sweetest person you could meet. She was very kind, sisterly, and a good daughter. She was also pretty, too. She played the piano, was a good student, patient, and agreeable, and well-mannered. She also loved God and her parents, family, etc., and was basically the type of girl that the boys wanted to marry and their parents wanted for a daughter-in-law.

A lot of highly educated, and men with means from good families came to ask for her hand in marriage but her parents rejected their offers. She was still only a teenager and her parents really wanted her to get a college degree. Finally, they accepted an offer from a guy who was older, and not so attractive. But he was very well-mannered. Back in the day, a lot of Hmong girls were engaged or married off in their teens.

Anyway, not only did the girl graduate college, but she became a prominent doctor in their town. There were years when she did not even live with her husband and his parents because she was away in med school. When they had children, the children would stay with the dad and grandparents while she was in her residency.

She still practices medicine, runs three clinics, and organizes missions to developing countries to perform medical treatment. The husband goes along because he is in ministry now. They are very well-off. They live in a gorgeous house on huge acres of land. The husband does the majority of the maintenance work and enjoys it. As for looks, who cares? All the men in her age group are old and attractive now anyways, but at least her husband is not overweight and bald. lol

The point of the story is that abundance isn't about the right timing but moreso about what you do with that time and having discernment about choosing the person with the right attitude and habits. That is where you will find abundance. Also, having the right attitude to create abundance.

The girl could've married a more attractive man, who may have ended up being very jealous and not let her go to college. 

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Most people cannot handle abundance

« on: May 27, 2025, 09:39:21 PM »

A lot of Hmong couples have bought acres of land to retire on. My sister-in-law started a fruit farm a couple of years ago and I have a cousin who lives on acres of land near the waterfront. It's gorgeous out there but it's also a lot of work. Fortunately, my brother-in-laws love to perform all the maintenance.

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Marriage & Family Life / Most people cannot handle abundance

« on: May 27, 2025, 03:24:25 PM »

A lot of people wish for abundance whether that comes in the form of wealth, status, peace, or a fulfilling relationship, but many of them do not have what it takes to maintain that abundance. They tell themselves that the timing isn't right or that they will get another opportunity, only to realize that that kind of opportunity is actually once in a lifetime. Furthermore, that kind of abundance can only happen when they have a change of attitude.

For example, some people inherit wealth from their parents, but if they do not know how to maintain and invest properly, the abundance will slip through their fingers. Some people have a loving and supportive partner but because they did not reciprocate, that relationship goes sour or fizzles out.

If you lack abundance in your life, then you should look at yourself. You are most likely putting too much energy towards the things and people who do not bring you abundance. Meanwhile, neglecting habits, action, and people who help you create abundance.

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General Discussion / Re: The Case of the Hmong-American Husband Shooting Hmong-Lao Wife

« on: May 23, 2025, 06:52:47 PM »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mTd-HO73Lo0&t=322s

The husband's side of the story. Interview with Kapu Tojsiab.

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General Discussion / The Case of the Hmong-American Husband Shooting Hmong-Lao Wife

« on: May 23, 2025, 04:58:38 PM »

There are some men who prefer a woman that incites drama so drama they both will get.

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General Discussion / Re: Another America Hmong OG...

« on: May 22, 2025, 04:58:25 PM »

Did y'all heard about a Hmong American man shot and killed a Hmong lady in Laos?

Just happened a day ago, I think...

He probably got mad because she was using him for cash and he found out...

No. Is there a link to the story?